Post by yellowbrkrd on Dec 20, 2014 7:57:38 GMT -5
Well, we went out last night with a large group and M lost his mind about 30 minutes before his usual bedtime. It totally threw me off, because we can usually stretch it 30 minutes past his usual bedtime. I plan to take his pajamas with us to my Grandma's and put him to bed there. Other than that, we don't have any other gatherings where we will be out past bedtime.
Post by teatimefor2 on Dec 20, 2014 8:23:44 GMT -5
DS does okay.... He's regular bedtime is 8:00 am, but he usually babbles until 8:30 pm. Christmas Eve we are planning on leaving my aunts by 9:00 pm at the latest, which will put us at my parents at 9:05 pm, bed by 9:10 pm.
My aunt is a preschool teacher and my mom is super understanding. They are like ... 'Get that baby to bed and I'd think about skipping church too!' I'm very fortunate in this regard.
I just realized that we do the flip side of going home early to put the kids to sleep--we miss early morning events so as not to wake then up. I am currently missing DS2's 8am basketball game because I know DS3 will be more pleasant today if I let him sleep until he wakes up naturally, which may not be until 8:30 or 9. I would absolutely prefer to keep my kids out until 9pm over having to get them all somewhere by 9am on a weekend.
We JUST (at 2.5) starting pushing DD about 30 minutes past bedtime occasionally. At Disney, we've been following her lead and letting her stay up really late so we can do stuff, and she's been great, but we'll be going back to a strict bedtime as soon as we get home.
Honestly, we have the youngest kids in the family now and I'm annoyed to no end that everyone seems to forget what it was like when their kids were this age. We get comments about leaving things "early" all the time.
Same here, and it drives me nuts. We had to accommodate BIL/SIL's schedule for their girls for years but god forbid we try to get DD to bed on time so she doesn't turn into a little beast.
DD normally goes to bed at 7:00 and we can keep her up as late as 8:00 if it's on a weekend. But if it's a weekday and she's been running around at daycare all day? Forget it, she is toast by 7:00 or earlier.
My kids are super social, so they do well staying up late at parties because there is so much going on. Generally though, I we stay no later than 9. My one exception is Christmas Eve when we might stay at my mom's until 10. She has a pack and play though, so if need be, YDS can sleep.
we always told our parents after the first meltdown we are gone! cause that basically means we will continue to have a few more meltdowns getting in the car, getting out of the car, getting in the shower, brushing teeth etc. etc. etc. it also depends heavely on if he napped well that day or not
Post by curbsideprophet on Dec 20, 2014 10:20:33 GMT -5
For us, it just depends on the event, where we are, etc. if it is something the kids are enjoying I will let them stay up a little later. There have been times when family is arriving from OOT right around bedtime and I will let DD stay up so she can see them before she goes to bed. I also have no problems putting them to bed on time if needed, especially if we are at home. Much easier to do at home than leaving somewhere early.
If we have nothing to do the next day we have stayed out until 10pm (their bedtime is 8pm). Christmas Eve I plan on putting them to bed at 8pm since Christmas will be busy. My kids are flexible.
We push it on special occasions. They made it to 10 pm a couple weeks ago. It was okay at the party, but we pay for it the next day. Sometimes it's still worth it.
It's your party you can put your kid down when you want to! I love having my kid(s) down during a party so I can enjoy it without worrying about it.
DS is older so he can stay up until 10 or so. DD has made it until 9 once but only because we were out. If it's my house I'll put her down when I feel like it.
DD is in the bath by 6:45 and in her crib by 7:15 at the latest. We tried to push it back 15 minutes the other night and it was not pretty; she woke up about 3 times overnight and woke up an hour early the next morning. Normally she STTN without issue.
ILs want to do dinner for DD's birthday tomorrow. They know we prefer lunch, but they are insisting on dinner. We said that's fine, but we'll need to leave by about 6:15. They flipped their shit and told us we never let them see the baby. WTF is wrong with people?
We have gone past her bedtime a few times. Sometimes she is okay until 10pm and will sleep great. Other times she will have a breakdown at 8 on the dot. Unpredictable. I would stick to her bedtime at home but sometimes we can't help it if we are meeting family.
Post by carolinagirl831 on Dec 20, 2014 18:44:36 GMT -5
9 pm is her max. I think all these people giving others a hard time completely forget what it's like to deal with small children. They can tag on you all they want, but they won't be the ones dealing with them that night or the next day. Besides as a parent I need a break too!
Our boys were up until 9:30 at my ILs last night. That's 2 hours past bedtime, and they were still up at 7 this morning. They are going to be beasts by 4pm. But, special occasions and I suck it up as they're a little older now. When they were toddlers, we didn't mess around and left for bedtime. Sleep is so important, especially this time of year when there's so much excitement
The girls are usually in bed by 6. Last night we had them up until 10:00 at a OOT family gathering.
They did pretty well, but Audrey was melting down as we were leaving, crying as she said "bye bye car". They fell asleep as soon as they got in their car seats and went straight to bed once we got home.
When we are spending the night somewhere, we put them to bed no later than 7:30/8:00.
i'm a little jealous of the people who have kids that can just fall asleep anywhere. my kid won't even sleep ON me. it's crib, or OCCASIONALLY carseat after lots of crying, or nothing.
If we're hosting or we're at a party we're enjoying (close to home), we'll stay as long as we feel like - usually in the 8-10pm range. If we're someplace we're eager to leave, we'll use bedtime as an excuse and bail early.
We hosted DD1's 4th bday party last night and she stayed up till 10:30pm when her last friend left! DD2 (she's 2.5yr) skipped her nap and was tired, so we put her to sleep at 8:30pm.
On normal nights, both girls are in bed by 7:30pm.
Also, who are all these crazy people who argue about a kid's bedtime and try to peer pressure parents into staying longer? This is not a college party where you need to close down the bar.
If I am hosting family for a big holiday, *I* don't want people in my house past 8. I want to clean up and enjoy the quiet.
DH's family stayed till midnight last year on Xmas Eve and got to our house at 4. I went to bed at 10 and I was about to kill them, they were not quiet.
She's impossible to put down and a beast the next day without her 7pm bedtime.
Maybe one day we can be flexible, but I'm okay being a sleep nazi at this point in her tiny life.
We are exactly here as well. The Christmas Eve party starts at 4pm, and we will be making a swift exit by 6:30pm to get J in bed by 7. No exceptions to bedtime in our household.
Post by galaxy8227 on Dec 22, 2014 11:43:45 GMT -5
We host Christmas Eve so we put the kids to bed at their normal times and our family moves the party to the basement (it's just my parents and brother that come over). We will leave Christmas Day around DD's bedtime (she transports easily) and get home in time for DS's birthday. It helps that we all have kids around the same age so SIL (who hosts) will be fine with us leaving so she can put down her own children.
Both kids still wake up at their normal times no matter what time they go to bed so they need to stay on schedule. If they would sleep later the next day it would be different.
Well, bedtime is normally 7:30. The in laws arrived tonight at 6pm after driving 8 hours to get here.
At 7:35 I started bedtime. They're here for 4 days and we can't expect her to rally for that many days in a row. No one gave us shit about it but they left for the hotel approximately 42 seconds later.
We can generally push her 8pm bedtime to 9, but that's it. It's rare that she can rally longer than that, and, frankly, if I'm pushing it, it's because it will benefit ME and DH, because we are the people who will have to deal with the fallout. No way in hell am I pushing bedtime for anyone else.
We had this conversation a lot this year. I started telling people that he was welcome to stay up late if they wanted to get up with him all night and deal with it him the next day.
Post by gibbinator on Dec 27, 2014 10:50:02 GMT -5
We leave when it's clear that melting down is imminent. Usually that's about 1.5hrs after normal bedtime. We plan ahead by putting Jim in pj's and his overnight diaper before heading home. We're lucky that he transfers relatively well from the car to his room. It wakes him up, but he climbs right into bed.
lmb5109 I thought of you last night! DD was so exhausted yesterday that she laid down on my parents' bottom stair at 6pm and declared, "Night night. NIGHT NIGHT!!!!"
I rallied another 15 minutes out of her, but she said good night to everyone at 6:15 and I was positive I was going to get shit for not keeping her up. Her telling everyone she was going night night right fucking now might have helped my case though. lol
How did it go for you?
Man, I wish DD would say "night night"!
I kept her up till 9pm but she woke up 5 FUCKING times overnight! Christmas Eve night was just a cluster fuck with almost everyone showing up almost 2 hours late and no one helping me clean up and put shit away. I was running around like a chicken with it's head cut off, I honestly didn't even see if DD melt down at all. But thank god everyone started packing their shit up at 8:30. Get the hell out!