Dude. Your irrationality about IF may rub some people with IF the wrong way. Just as anyone with a particular disorder may be irritated if someone was OMG what if maybe I may have xyz disease oh good I don't but maybe I might have the exact opposite situation and it's actually a blessing!
IF is an emotionally destructive disorder. So is anxiety. Your anxiety and IF are not on the same spectrum at all, though.
Dude. Your irrationality about IF may rub some people with IF the wrong way. Just as anyone with a particular disorder may be irritated if someone was OMG what if maybe I may have xyz disease oh good I don't but maybe I might have the exact opposite situation and it's actually a blessing!
IF is an emotionally destructive disorder. So is anxiety. Your anxiety and IF are not on the same spectrum at all, though.
I made that one comment about my feelings. One time. I apologized a few times already and I didn't mean to offend anyone. And this has been brought up again. Why?
Right now I just want to see what other people's experiences were in this situation. No need to bring up my anxiety or what I said a while ago.
I didn't bring up your anxiety. You did.
And if you want a little sensitivity have some yourself, for Pete's sake.
This pregnancy was sort of a surprise. I say sort of because while we had unprotected sex, it was the last day of my period, so I thought we would be safe. Drinking was also involved in that decision, lol. We were immediately happy.
Wait, what? Next time can we have a PSA about last day of period sex?
This pregnancy was sort of a surprise. I say sort of because while we had unprotected sex, it was the last day of my period, so I thought we would be safe. Drinking was also involved in that decision, lol. We were immediately happy.
Wait, what? Next time can we have a PSA about last day of period sex?
(proceeds to panic)
My cycles were so messed up, so we should have been more careful. I talked to my midwife when I found out and she said sperm can live for up to a week in there. So I must have ovulated early or something. Either way, yay! But wtf. Lol.
Post by Queen Mamadala on Jan 23, 2015 21:08:37 GMT -5
Only my 5th baby was a surprise, and the excitement was almost immediate. I was more anxious as soon as I saw the BFP, and then after announcing it to DH, and it started to sink in, I became very excited. We had been married all of eight days when I got my BFP.
My surprise pregnancy occurred while on birth control, using condoms, and charting- I was in shock! Just kidding I was a stupid teenager who apparently did not pray enough after he pulled. Love my kid, but I am not sure I have come to terms with it yet. She's 18.
It's just....a little dramatic calling it a 'surprise pregnancy.' You can take whatever time you need to adjust, but come on. A surprise is a birth control failure, not a lack of contraception when you know you are fertile.Â
I'm sorry if my word choice didn't meet your definition.
IMO, you're either using a reliable form of birth control or you're trying (or open the the very real possibility of a pregnancy). I don't think this is an uncommon belief.
i feel like you are sitting there saying "oooo burnnnn" after this.
But ffs, I liked whiskeyandwine's post too....bc yeah, IF history and all. I'm here to take my flaming or tagging or whatever the fuck else...
I (heart) you. And whiskey. And autumn.
That's the only thing I have to contribute here.
I agree.
I am not going through IF (in the traditional sense) right now and it still bothers me when people are all shocked about being pregnant after not using birth control. I don't care what type you use, either use one or you can end up pregnant.
That said I do understand the anxiety of being pregnant. I am no stranger to that. All my pregnancies have been planned and I have been trying for years to have a child and I still do not have one on earth with me. I get so anxious when I'm pregnant that I sometimes have trouble breathing. After getting my last BFP I remember repeating "I've screwed up, this can't be happening". It happens, I get it.
I truly hope you figure out the anxiety that you are having and you go onto having a wonderful baby.
Lol at telling AutumnRose25 to calm down after prodding her with a sensitive topic. And to get a hobby? Wow vanillacourage. That's harsh.
Look mekiakoo, I have no beef with you, but you have a history of being insensitive and dramatic about things - you just went from 0 to fuck off in 60 seconds - and then you expect to be treated with kid gloves. This response can't have surprised you that much. In any case, I hope you have a H&H 9 months and your worried about this pregnancy fade quickly.
Like two weeks... However we had been debating whether or not to have number 2.
We had to be certain my iud wasn't placed correctly so it could be removed without fear of loss and we had to rule out ectopic. So I feel going through that forced us to decide how we really felt about it.
Now I feel relief that the decision was just made and we weren't left with making the decision ourselves.
Post by NewOrleans on Jan 23, 2015 23:21:04 GMT -5
OP, you gossiped about a woman's miscarriage and mocked her for being excited enough about that unplanned pregnancy to announce it early. You might want to have a tall, frothy glass of stfu right about now.
My surprise was scary. My hubby had a vasectomy. Give yrs later I missed two periods figured it was stress. When I took the test I was in shock and kinda freaking out. My hubby was really supportive and awesome about it. But neither of us wanted a third so I would say once it sunk in I got excited first prob about a month after I found out. I was also pissed at dh for not doing the spermatozoa check. I truly felt really good about it when I heard his heartbeat
Post by rachel6789 on Jan 23, 2015 23:47:06 GMT -5
I got pregnant while on the pill, so we were shocked. Having a baby wasn't something that we were planning on for another couple of years, and I was well into the second trimester before I started to feel excited. I understand the anxiety. My daughter just turned 6 months, and now I can't imagine my life without her.
Post by borinquen57 on Jan 24, 2015 2:11:43 GMT -5
I love her very much, I love seeing how DD1 is with her, but I go between I can't imagine life without her to OMFG why wasn't I more careful?! She's only 3 weeks old and we're still not sleeping well. I know that being constantly exhausted is definitely playing into things.