My first pregnancy ended in a m/c @ 8 weeks. My second was a chemical pregnancy.
DS was conceived with no issues 6 months after my first m/c.
Now I'm surprise pregnant again and the m/c is STILL messing with my mind. I have been spotting (brown) exactly like I did the entire first trimester with my viable pregnancy, yet I'm worried I'm miscarrying. I had less bloat than usual last night and worry I'm miscarrying. I'm not as tired as I was last week and I'm worried I'm miscarrying. DH and I had sex a few days ago and I'm worried it caused problems.
STOP IT BRAIN. Two weeks until my dating u/s... just two weeks. *-)
Post by jennistarr1 on Jan 26, 2015 11:23:40 GMT -5
There is definitely a loss of innocence when it comes to miscarriages, and once it happens you can just never go back in your mind. Hang in there, hoping for good news soon.
Hugs. I had 3 m/c then I had DS1. With DS2 I thought I would be more zen about things, knowing the whole "can't control the outcome" stuff. But it is always there. I hope that your worries ease soon.
Post by badtzmaru22 on Jan 26, 2015 11:46:17 GMT -5
::hugs:: I'm so sorry. It was the same for me, and it affected me bonding with the baby both times because I was convinced I was just going to have another m/c.
Something we always said on the loss boards over on the other place was, "Today I am pregnant, and I love my baby." Which sounds so cheesy, but actually helped.
I was cautious about mc with my first, but not as worried as this pregnancy. I haven't had a mc, but I had bleeding and spotting with this pregnancy. My hcg levels turned out fine, but I am still analyzing every pain and symptom. While I was waiting for the blood work, I was a nervous wreck and had already researched options. I had more spotting last week when I took the progesterone late and I am worried again. I have been waiting almost four weeks for the ultrasound. The closer it is, the more nervous I am getting. I try to not look things up, because that makes me crazy.
Post by luv2rn4fun on Jan 26, 2015 12:18:11 GMT -5
So many ((hugs)).
I had two m/c before DS and I worried all the way until our a/s at 18 weeks. Even now that we've had a successful pregnancy I know that the next time I am pregnant I will worry a lot through 1st trimester and a/s. The innocence is definitely taken away once you go through m/c and pregnancy is really never the same again (although I think it made me really cherish and enjoy being pregnant with DS).
My first pregnancy ended in a m/c @ 8 weeks. My second was a chemical pregnancy.
DS was conceived with no issues 6 months after my first m/c.
Now I'm surprise pregnant again and the m/c is STILL messing with my mind. I have been spotting (brown) exactly like I did the entire first trimester with my viable pregnancy, yet I'm worried I'm miscarrying. I had less bloat than usual last night and worry I'm miscarrying. I'm not as tired as I was last week and I'm worried I'm miscarrying. DH and I had sex a few days ago and I'm worried it caused problems.
STOP IT BRAIN. Two weeks until my dating u/s... just two weeks. *-)
Big big hugs. Pregnancies after a loss just aren't the same. I even had to write on my mirror "Today you're pregnant." to help make it through, well that and anxiety medication.
I wish you all the best. It sucks especially when spotting is involved or heck even cramping m/c tarnish that entirely.
I do want to say Congratulations and also I'm sorry that you're having to go through this. FX that everything will go smoothly for you.
Many hugs - it is so incredibly hard to turn off your brain. I spent both of my pregnancies after m/c worried and analyzing every symptom or lack thereof.
Hoping the next 2 weeks go by quickly and your u/s goes well.
You're not alone. I had a m/c between O and this pregnancy and I still sometimes think "what if?".
Completely not alone. I had a miscarriage years ago, then a baby, then another miscarriage. I have spent half my son's college tuition on pregnancy tests (I'm almost 7w). I know they're not even a good indicator of a healthy pregnancy, but I hyper analyze how dark the line is every day. (Hugs)
I am sorry, and I hope the next couple of weeks fly by for you. Happy and healthy nine months to you!
I completely understand, as I had a MMC and then an ectopic pregnancy before DD. During the 1st trimester of my pregnancy with DD every little pain made me think it was ectopic again. I begged DH not to travel until I knew it wasn't ectopic.
I know exactly how you feel. I'm only 4 weeks and have another 4 to go until my first appointment, and all I can do is worry about this being a viable pregnancy or not. I had an early m/c before DD and it's definitely in the back of my mind.
I'm sorry. I'm having the intermittent spotting too and it's so so hard, the worry is constant. Everytime I feel discharge down there, or everytime I go pee, I seriously pray it's not blood and a m/c. I wish I had words to make you feel better.
Sincere wishes that your dating u/s goes well dear.
"liking" your post by way of saying thank you. Sending HUGE hugs and T&Ps your way.
Post by shellbear09 on Jan 26, 2015 15:39:24 GMT -5
Many hugs. I had several m/c before dd and I had anxiety off and on throughout my whole pregnancy. There is no way to shut that off imo but just hope for the best. I hope you have a great u/s!
I'm sorry. It never really goes away, but for me I could breathe a little easier when I felt movement. Lots of hugs. Hoping the time passes as quickly as possible.
Hugs to you. My second pg was a molar and was terminated at 14 weeks. I wasn't convinced this one was viable until I saw the anatomy scan. Once you go through a loss it's hard to get past it. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy.
Lots of ((hugs)). I had a late (term) loss and an early loss followed by a live birth, but the fear never really goes away. Hang in there!! Happy and healthy 9 months to you