Post by cricketwife on Jan 26, 2015 18:32:31 GMT -5
I'm old, do not have a sister, and feel pg #1 took enough of a toll on my body. Besides all if that, I cannot imagine myself carrying a baby and not feeling it was mine at the end. I do think it's wondeful some women will do this.
Post by noodleskooze on Jan 26, 2015 18:37:00 GMT -5
I don't know. My inclination, knowing myself, is to say no--I don't think I could emotionally handle it. I only have the upmost respect for women who do though.
Post by waterchurch on Jan 26, 2015 18:53:16 GMT -5
I would seriously consider it if my brother or other close family asked me. I like to think I would say yes. The emotional part of it would be my biggest hesitation.
I love being pregnant, had easy pregnancies and deliveries, and am done having kids. If either of my SILs (DH's sister or my brother's wife) asked with the next 2 years or so, I would do it for them. Although at almost 38, I think I am probably already too old to be an ideal surrogate.
I would have done it for my two BFFs, but they both had at least three kids despite fertility struggles. I would not do it for anyone other than family or a really close friend. Even an easy pregnancy is draining and carries plenty of risk of complications.
Post by andthentherewere10 on Jan 26, 2015 19:00:40 GMT -5
Yes. I hate being pregnant but I hate the pain IF couples feel more. I'm so obsessed with being a mom that I would absolutely do that for a friend provided I felt comfortable with my family aND my husband approved
Post by chickadee77 on Jan 26, 2015 19:04:28 GMT -5
Physically, sure. I enjoyed my pregnancy and it was surprisingly smooth, and labor was fine, too. Emotionally, I don't know. Maybe in the right situation, if I knew I would have contact throughout the child's life. But I'm all old and stuff, so it's a moot point. The only kids I'll be having will be my own.
I honestly don't know. From a physical standpoint, absolutely. I was incredibly lucky and had a great pregnancy...I honestly loved being pregnant.
But, I was pretty attached to the baby from the get go. I'm really not sure I could carry a baby for 40 weeks and then give it to someone else to raise. I know it would be different going into a pregnancy knowing the baby was someone's else's child, but I'm still not sure I could handle it emotionally. I think if it were for someone like my sister or my BFF I would seriously consider it.
I think it is an awesome gift, but I could not do it. I would have too much trouble with the emotional parts of it. I can see myself getting too attached.
Only for my sister, but she had a super easy pregnancy and delivery compared to my own so I can't imagine it would ever come up. Before I had my first c/s I would have said yes 100%. 2 cesareans later I limit it to only my sister.
Post by undecidedowl on Jan 26, 2015 19:52:07 GMT -5
I would like to say I would do it because I loved being pregnant. But, I would be concerned about my mental health. I love newborns and I just think it would be very hard on me to not keep a baby I carried. I would consider for my sister though.
I have to wonder about instances of PPD in cases of surrogacy. More or less common?
I would only consider it for my brother. He and his soon-to-be husband would obviously having children on their own. The process to get me pregnant with someone else's child terrifies me (I hate hate hate needles and react poorly to anesthesia) but for him, I would consider it. I do not enjoy being pregnant, but in the grand scheme of things I have healthy pregnancies and easy L&Ds.
I do not anticipate he would ever ask, though. He's alluded to wanting to adopt a toddler or older child to skip the newborn/diaper stage. Wise man.
I don't think I could. I almost feel selfish saying no (not that anyone has asked me) since I had easy pregnancies and really loved being pregnant. But I just don't think I could grow a baby and not keep it. Who knows, though, if someone very close to me asked I would at least consider it.
Yes. I looked into egg donation but after they ran tests they decided I wasn't a good one bc one of numbers wasn't good, something to do with the number of eggs I would produce Wouldn't be enough
I would be a terrible candidate given my history of recurrent PTL and IC. I'm finally (at 2 years out) mostly physically recovered from the toll all of the complications (and their treatments).
I think I'd emotionally have a very hard time carrying the baby and then not raising it. If I could safely carry another baby and had a close friend or family member that needed it, I would have to seriously consider it.
Post by redpenmama on Jan 26, 2015 22:24:14 GMT -5
I've never really thought about it until now, but I think I would consider it for the right person after I was having children of my own. I would probably be too old and an unappealing candidate at that point, but hypothetically speaking, I think I'd consider it. I don't think I'd do it for a stranger, but if someone close to me asked, I would seriously think about it. The emotional side of it is a little intimidating, but what an amazing thing to do for someone.
I would only do it for my sister or somebody I'm very close to. I hate being pregnant. I had morning sickness from hell. I also ended up an unplanned c-section, so I didn't exactly have an easy delivery.
Post by missmaddie on Jan 26, 2015 23:14:14 GMT -5
I don't think DH would let me/put up with me. Only sort of joking. Nor would work.
I had HG with DS and required hospital visits for fluids, and though this pregnancy has been better, I am just barely down to 4 diclectin in a day as of this week (26 weeks), and still threw up a few times this week. I also foresee bladder surgery in my future thanks to this.
We were on the fence about even having a second and this certainly factored into it.
Only if I could find a way to not have to work during the first trimester. I really really hate the first trimester. I don't think I would struggle too much with handing the baby over.