We were sort of in the same situation --this is baby #3, we have a girl and a boy, and my H really wanted a surprise, but we found out with the first two. Thankfully, it worked in my favor, though, because this wasn't planned, there's a 5 year gap between our youngest and the baby on the way, we have NO baby things anymore, and only two bedrooms, one of which is pink. We kind of needed to know. Made it easier on me that we're having another girl, so we can keep the pink room. That being said, had things been different, I would've tried to hold out alongside him. Our tradition is to keep the name a secret, so there's something we keep a surprise.
Post by sunshine239 on Feb 2, 2015 14:43:50 GMT -5
I'm going to see if I can hold out. Kind of getting excited about doing a "gender neutral" nursery and buying some gender neutral clothes. Since we've already done the overly blue and overly pink rooms before, I'm actually starting to not see it as a planning issue. Saw some really cute white, gray, cream onesies and gowns while doing some shopping over the weekend.
Plus its driving everyone nuts that we're saying we aren't finding out so that's an added bonus.
I would do everything possible to keep it a surprise sunshine239. Yeah the woman is the one doing the work being pregnant but I think that there are times that dad's desires should trump moms, especially if he's been awesome during previous pregnancies or whatever.
I was team green and dh wanted to know at first. He ended up changing his mind around week 12 - though it wouldn't have mattered bc I didn't want to know lol. I also gave him the option of knowing if he could promise to keep it a secret. He declined knowing it would be way too hard. In the end, his insistence that it was a girl from day 1 proved to be correct. And on top of that, we got our perfect "it's a...!" moment in the delivery room, even with a c-section. That was priceless and exactly how I dreamed it would be. Having my husband tell me what our child is was the best moment of my life. I promise you won't regret it. Because it was so awesome we might just stay team green if we ever have anymore pregnancies. Or maybe not, I'm letting him choose next time.
Post by humpforfree on Feb 4, 2015 21:38:58 GMT -5
We did this (opposite) for #1- I was team green and H found out. He called the baby Pat (SNL skit) so he wouldn't slip. I had no idea. He confirmed at the csection and then got to tell me (finally) that it was a boy.