My SIL and BIL subscribe to this lifestyle. She just birthed her 6th baby in 8 years. I look at photos of her when she was pregnant with her first compared to now and she just looks so pale/unhealthy all the time. Her body has not had a break in 9 years; she's either been pregnant or breastfeeding (or both simultaneously) continuously for almost a decade now. I don't know how she does it and I do worry that she's not taking care of herself to compensate for what the babies are taking from her.
So, as someone who is sitting here with a likely hormone-induced-migraine from her birth control (again) - I am thinking of going off of it and trying to avoid during ovulation. However, I'm different since I wouldn't bat an eye at, and have access to, using Plan B or an abortion if I did get pregnant.
Like aurora, if they don't limit my choices, they can choose what they want for their bodies/pregnancies.
Feel free to tell me to mind my own business, and you probably have talked to actual medical professionals, but if your migraines are estrogen-induced, the mini-pill and the paraguard are estrogen free. And I think the mirena and nuvaring and low-estrogen, if any.
But hey, NFP, Plan B and abortion are also perfectly acceptable choices, as it is your constitutional and moral right to decide what is best for your own medical well-being.
I don't mind answering. Mirena and low-dose pills still gave me migraines. Plus the Mirena could be felt during sex by me and DH, so that was uncomfortable to say the least. I got pregnant on the mini-pill. I am on Nuvaring now - only second month and so far only got migraines this second month. I'm allergic to nickel (mildly) and gold so I was advised to avoid the nickel coils (can't remember the name) and he copper IUD by my OB.
I did charting TTA for awhile and my sex drive was awesome, no migraines, and my cycles test book. But mentally it's still freaky and I used VCF (spermicide) took a lot of dollar store pregnancy tests bc I just was nervous. After two planned pregnancies that only took a month to get pregnant and the accidental third child, I now know it would not be a moral or mental issue with me to decide not to have another kid. Oh and did I mention that my DH was advised not to get a vasectomy bc of a hernia repair thing?
All this to say that it sucks being a girl sometimes.
Yes. Yes it has. And if you can't see that, then you need some serious eye-opening about what our lives as women would be like if we didn't have access to that contraception.
I suspect that the things you consider to be benefits to women are not among her priorities.
My mom had this mindset and has argued that women's access to contraception has led to the collapse of the family, the confusion of men and the misdirection of female priorities. Which are obviously: have as many children as possible with your male monogamous parter and raise them to be diligent Catholics.
We had a huge argument the last time we were together because she basically said my 19 yr old female cousin who was in marine boot camp was contributing to the downfall of American society and the family unit by having the gall to do something other than have a baby.
That's true. There is a segment of our society that would prefer to live in 1850.
Although this particular woman might keep in mind that in her preferred world, she would probably not be reading and writing, let alone blogging.
Yeah, my grandparents did the whole no birth control thing and ended up with 6 kids which was at least 4 kids more than my grandmother could handle, which was not great for her kids growing up. I am very happy that birth control exists so I don't have to be in that position.
Feel free to tell me to mind my own business, and you probably have talked to actual medical professionals, but if your migraines are estrogen-induced, the mini-pill and the paraguard are estrogen free. And I think the mirena and nuvaring and low-estrogen, if any.
But hey, NFP, Plan B and abortion are also perfectly acceptable choices, as it is your constitutional and moral right to decide what is best for your own medical well-being.
I don't mind answering. Mirena and low-dose pills still gave me migraines. Plus the Mirena could be felt during sex by me and DH, so that was uncomfortable to say the least. I got pregnant on the mini-pill. I am on Nuvaring now - only second month and so far only got migraines this second month. I'm allergic to nickel (mildly) and gold so I was advised to avoid the nickel coils (can't remember the name) and he copper IUD by my OB.
I did charting TTA for awhile and my sex drive was awesome, no migraines, and my cycles test book. But mentally it's still freaky and I used VCF (spermicide) took a lot of dollar store pregnancy tests bc I just was nervous. After two planned pregnancies that only took a month to get pregnant and the accidental third child, I now know it would not be a moral or mental issue with me to decide not to have another kid. Oh and did I mention that my DH was advised not to get a vasectomy bc of a hernia repair thing?
All this to say that it sucks being a girl sometimes.
I'll also add in here that my diaphragm was like the best thing ever (I also get estrogen related migraines). Couple that with spermicide and you're good to go. Just another option out there.
The only way I can think of that this might overlap with anti-vaxing is that I've heard some women say that they don't want to put "chemicals" in their body by taking BCPs (ingredients!). I've also heard, "There's nothing wrong with the way my body naturally works so why would I take a pill to change that?"
There's nothing wrong with the way God made the earth but my ass still lives in a house with heat and central air.
And why are these people seeing the wonder in God's creation but not the wonder in the brains that God created?
I don't mind answering. Mirena and low-dose pills still gave me migraines. Plus the Mirena could be felt during sex by me and DH, so that was uncomfortable to say the least. I got pregnant on the mini-pill. I am on Nuvaring now - only second month and so far only got migraines this second month. I'm allergic to nickel (mildly) and gold so I was advised to avoid the nickel coils (can't remember the name) and he copper IUD by my OB.
I did charting TTA for awhile and my sex drive was awesome, no migraines, and my cycles test book. But mentally it's still freaky and I used VCF (spermicide) took a lot of dollar store pregnancy tests bc I just was nervous. After two planned pregnancies that only took a month to get pregnant and the accidental third child, I now know it would not be a moral or mental issue with me to decide not to have another kid. Oh and did I mention that my DH was advised not to get a vasectomy bc of a hernia repair thing?
All this to say that it sucks being a girl sometimes.
I'll also add in here that my diaphragm was like the best thing ever (I also get estrogen related migraines). Couple that with spermicide and you're good to go. Just another option out there.
I need to look into this or just get my tubes tied. Because I am getting some horrific migraines weekly and just general daily headaches on the pill. NuvaRing turned me into a psychohosebeast and Paragard made me bleed for 2 months straight.
I mean, charting is still science so I don't think it's against that. I think this falls more into people making up their own definitions for words, like what is an abortificant, and additional non critical thinking.
I so often want to shake these people. The world does not need this many people! We're using up all of the Earth's resources way faster than it can renew those that are renewable. STOP!
There's such a lack of critical thinking when people can't look at religious documents that existed when a lot of children didn't survive to adulthood and understand that the message needs to be reinterpreted in 2015. When you needed to give it 6 shots to have 2 make it, go forth and multiply. But now when all 10 of your kids are going to be rattling around this place for the next 90 years, we don't need that.
I'll also add in here that my diaphragm was like the best thing ever (I also get estrogen related migraines). Couple that with spermicide and you're good to go. Just another option out there.
I need to look into this or just get my tubes tied. Because I am getting some horrific migraines weekly and just general daily headaches on the pill. NuvaRing turned me into a psychohosebeast and Paragard made me bleed for 2 months straight.
There are only two things to keep in mind if you are considering it.
1) If you absolutely don't want a baby and are uncomfortable with abortion, I'd recommend something else. It has a slightly lower effectiveness rating (6%). We used it in conjunction with true FAM (not just charting temps, but cervix position and monitoring your cervical fluid), and I felt very confident that we weren't going to run into problems. However at the time I was comfortable with the idea of an oops pregnancy. Now that I am absolutely done, I rely on another form.
2) You need to be comfortable using your fingers to insert and take out the diaphragm, and it takes a little practice. My doctor had me fitted for one in her office, and then gave me a few moments of privacy so I could practice putting it in/taking it out, she then came in to help double check that I had inserted it properly (which is where a large number of issues with it occur). After the second or third time I could very easily tell whether it was inserted properly. But if your squicked out by sticking your fingers up your vagina, well, it could be problematic.
“I have seen a lot of people [questioning] the idea in our culture that couples deserve to have five years of freedom before they have kids or this unwritten code that all Americans should have two boys and a girl and then they’re done,” she said. “Why are we buying this idea that we shouldn’t have kids?”
If anything, I hear a lot about how my family is complete because we have one of each. As though if we did have two boys, we would have needed to keep going for the girl.
This whole column is annoying me more than I thought it would. This part makes me rage: that the underlying logic of contraception suggests couples can, and should, rigidly control their fertility — and that children are not a blessing, but a burden to be avoided.
This is ridiculous. First of all, children ARE a burden. A worthwhile burden, no doubt. But they are a financial and an emotional burden and if you are too young, too debt laden, etc to deal with that, then it makes good logical sense to wait.
This makes the point about it being similar to anti-vaxxers: “In more intellectual evangelical circles there’s a growing reticence, and a growing — not questioning the all-out use, but questioning the worldview,” he said.
It's the INTELLECTUALS who are questioning whether BC (and vaccines) are good things.