We have 3 kids. I'd love a fourth to make it all even. But its expensive and time demanding. I think with 3 it will be difficult. I don't know if I can swing a 4th. H says we are done. I would do a 4th but I feel a little crazy thinking that way so maybe I'm done. But nothing is definite. If I won the lottery I would have a 4th in a heartbeat.
My husband wants to try for #3 as soon as I give birth to #2. I convinced him to wait until #2 turns 1. I'd be shocked if we didn't have 3 kids. I wouldn't be surprised if we had 4. That's it though. That's my max. After I had #1 I totally understood how people can be OAD though. I'm an only though, which drives my personal desire for a big family.
Post by fortmyersbride on Feb 5, 2015 10:11:19 GMT -5
Eh, who knows?
After #2 was born I got rid of allll my maternity stuff. I also donated all her clothes as she outgrew then until she was a year. Her infancy was rough (largely due to her health). Around the time she was 18+ mos I could actually entertain the idea of a third, but it wasn't until she was over 2 that I thought it was a reasonable idea
Our third is just a few weeks old. I put my maternity clothes in storage rather than donating it all straight away. DH has been regularly talking about a 4th, which I might consider down the road. Time isn't quite on our sides though as DH is already in his 40s and I'd be AMA for the next kid. But, this last pregnancy was my easiest and DD2 is thus far my easiest baby. Of course the more kids we have, the more expensive schooling and traveling becomes.
We're 100% done. DH had a V over the summer. 2 kids is a huge stretch of our budget. DH wanted a third but we would have had to wait til DS was in kindergarten (another 3 years) to afford it and DH would be 40 then. For a long time I wanted to be OAD and I'm so glad that we went for DD. Our family is complete (minus the dog we'll get in a few years) with the 4 of us.
We go back and forth. On the one hand, emotionally, we love DD and another child would be great, too, in theory. On the other hand, I fear we will get sucked in by the emotional side and then logistically, we will regret having our lives made 100% harder by adding another child to the mix. And, since no one will fess up to regretting making that decision once their child is born, I can't really ask anyone who has been there, KWIM?
This is how we feel so we just keep on pushing back the decision.