I also read Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, which is the most terribly written book ever. However, it has a lot of great information about sleep. It's not so much a sleep training method as it is just an informational book that will help you understand how much sleep LO needs and when to tell that they're sleepy.
ITA with this. It did help me a lot though when DS1 was little and not STTN like every other baby we seemed to come across.
that story makes me so, so angry. I'll also say that the "friend" I shared about the other day (CIO at 6w) used babywise and her child was non-diagnosed FTT and had a TON of issues like Katie did.
Post by karinothing on Aug 9, 2012 14:33:57 GMT -5
Umm seriously. I am going to hope this story is a fake because it is horrible. I mean the fact that she caused welts on her baby? She should have gone to jail.
Post by wordtothewise on Aug 9, 2012 17:39:30 GMT -5
Those parents just sound dumb.
Until recently, we always responded to cries. I think you got to do that for a teeny baby (and I honestly couldn't not do it - I actually get pretty anxious when my baby cries - more than a few minutes of him crying alone would send me over the edge). Now that my baby is 11 months, I will let him fuss for a few minutes and allow him to try to get himself back to sleep if he wakes up.
just because you are ignorant doesn't mean it's not abuse, I mean what kind of fucking morons continue to do that to their kid when she is clearly struggling?
I didn't read any of the suggested reading out there. I asked everyone and their mommas (literally) and read articles online. Advice contradicted themselves, so I stuck with my instinct to just respond to whatever DS needed. We didn't try to CIO until he was 7.5mos old, and that was just to break his middle of the night bottle habit.
Honestly? All of this stuff largely depends on your baby. My baby has always been a sleeper and started STTN when he was 3 mos old. I never and still don't have him on any sort of schedule. I just followed his cues and fed on demand, etc. Unless he's sick or is teething, he rarely wakes up in the middle of the night. I am super LUCKY. I know this and I wish the rest of the you the same luck.
I didn't even read the link and I am already disturbed by it. We use happiest baby, but basically followed our instincts. I also have previous babysitting experience, so while that's different from having your own kid, I have nonetheless been exposed to many different types of kids and sleep patterns.
I just don't get taking advice from someone where you have to be careful to get the edition that WON'T fuck up your baby.
If you're a routine person, Baby Whisperer is less whacko. Still not my cup of tea (and also not exceptionally breastfeeding friendly, which is sort of my top priority), but not linked to FTT.
I followed BW with all 3 of my boys and all 3 were STTN at 8 weeks (the twins did it the same night!). All 3 were (and still are) great nappers/sleepers/eaters, all around happy babies.
my 5yo still naps on most days, and my 3yos nap really well still. I credit BW totally. It made our lives so much easier and happier.
There is a lot of great info out there on BW that is NOT written by crazy left wing AP moms who are mad that Ezzo bashes AP in the book- so they tell lies about BW to get back at him.... Read the book and decide for yourself if it's for you or not. Don't listen to people bashing it online b/c 99.9% have never read it- and the others are just still pissed b/c they think AP is the only way.
Post by iheartbanjos on Aug 10, 2012 16:48:42 GMT -5
Aaaaaand, now I'm tearing up.
We watched the video for Happiest Baby on the Block from Netflix. Otherwise, we kept it pure and followed our own instincts, which was to make our baby feel as happy, comfortable, and loved as possible. She eventually set her own schedule and was STTN by 2 months. She was colicky and fussy when she was awake right up until 12 weeks, but we were able to keep her happy with cluster feeding, wearing her (and vacuuming if she was really having a hard time), swaddling her, and bouncing her on an exercise ball.
I am sad I read the story. I thought it would just be about someone going too far with CIO and that there would be some happy, I-hugged-my-child-tight-after-the-5th-night-of-all-night-crying ending. Not sure why I didn't realize there wouldn't be after reading the comments in this thread.
ETA: Ok, seriously, how can someone think that hitting your child repeatedly with a rod until welts appear will do anything but teach your child that aggression is the way to go in her own interactions?
I just did whatever and I am happy with my decision. Early on, we found benefit to the hbotb recommendations. One night she was going nuts and she calmed down in 30 seconds after trying the 5 S's. She sttn off and on. Finally, at 7.5 months, we let her CIO and after a few days she was sttn. We comforted her if she didn't stop crying.
Gail- what strategies did bw specifically teach you? How did you use the book? Are there any thing you modified from the book? I like to see all sides, & am curious about your experience ( not judging I swear!)
I read it, and I am losely following it. I am trying to do 2 and half hour to 3 hour feeding and sleep schedule. However, if baby A is cranky and needs to eat at an hour after our last feeding I will feed her. I am not going to make her starve and make her cry for an hour or 2 to our next "scheduled" feeding. I am just following my instincts and her queues. I think get the knowledge and follow your gut. Baby A is 3 weeks old and waking up twice a night.