A lot of other people too, evidently SoI'm trying to learn from them just what is so wrong with me. You always tell me how horrible I am and that I don't listen and learn, I'm trying to listen and learn.
1. a special right, advantage, or immunity granted or available only to a particular person or group of people.
"education is a right, not a privilege"
synonyms: advantage, benefit; More
I know what privilege means, but what's your point? Are you saying I didn't know the rules because I have white privilege?
Because I thought the other person was saying it's whites who establish the rules of what people should look like.
Yes she is saying you are exhibiting white priviledge because as a white woman the way you style your hair is the defacto norm. so even if you just don't care and let your hair go you are given a lot more leeway before you are judged based on your hair.
A lot of other people too, evidently SoI'm trying to learn from them just what is so wrong with me. You always tell me how horrible I am and that I don't listen and learn, I'm trying to listen and learn.
6 personal pronouns relating to yourself.
STOP IT! No one wants to hear about you. They want you to participate in the larger discussion and it all turns into, "What is sands going to say about her own personal opinions and relates to herself today?"
No. They do it because it irks the shit out of you and you irk the hell out of them. The OLDZ is a long-standing joke on the board as it refers to the policies triggered by Boomers and the fallout - specifically the fact that Social Security may not be around when WE (Gen X and later) retire.
It's not because we dislike the old folks and pledge allegiance to death panels.
I'm only explaining this because this entire thing has made me tired.
If they do it to irk me, then it's not joking. They're trying to hurt me. They're talking about me as if I'm not even here, not even human.
And then they all pat themselves on the back at how clever they all are. They should ask themselves - and they can go search if they don't believe me - when have I ever said a bad word about any of them, called them names or sworn at them.
And I don't see how it's baby boomer's fault that politicians keep raiding social security funds. All baby boomers did was work and pay into it all their lives.
Didn't you once tell eclaires to go kill herself? That doesn't seem nice.
Your ability to turn all of these posts into a 'woe is me, feel sorry for me, poor me' pity party is tiresome.
FTR, I figure sands is younger than my mom and not really a boomer. My mom is 56.
ALSO, I make cracks about the oldz because I think it's funny how seriously sands takes it. And that she thinks I don't want to get old. It's endlessly amusing to me, and no I don't care about her feelings, because COME ON NOW (see this thread for evidence of why I don't care if she is hurt by me joking about the oldz or the one where she told me to kill myself). She's overly sensitive about a longstanding joke on this board and takes it so personally! It's hilarious to me. And I won't be shamed. I only direct it at her now, after she flipped out over it a few years ago and deactivated. sorrynotsorry.
A lot of other people too, evidently SoI'm trying to learn from them just what is so wrong with me. You always tell me how horrible I am and that I don't listen and learn, I'm trying to listen and learn.
No, you aren't. You aren't listening and learning a GOT.DAYUM.THANG up in this bitch. In this thread, repeatedly, people have explained why anyone would feel or think that their hair is a problem for XYZ reason. You have only replied with "I blah, blah, blah." IT AIN'T ABOUT YOU. You don't understand why a POC would think that their son's hair would put them in danger. Umm, because history has shown how black and brown males are treated and viewed to be threatening. We've had UMPTEEN conversations about how your dressing "nice" as a POC still doesn't mean anything because folks are still clutching their purses in elevators and beating up college kids with fake IDs.
If you're trying to "learn" or honestly listening to people, then you probably should say "Oh wow. That's a new perspective." That's active listening.
And Imma say this, I'm basically not the one to whine to about how somebody hurt your feelings. I don't care. Because I've seen you go toe to toe with eclaires and a couple of other posters on the "oldz" comments. So, I'm not going to shed tears for your feelings being hurt. And when it comes to the Boomers being to blame for policies - I tell you like anyone else, they are to blame. They have a lobbying group AARP that cries foul anytime any mention of SS reform. That's why that shit has been squarely targeted at younger age demographics for "reforms." Younger folks don't vote and don't have a solid lobbying bloc which makes it easy for shit to happen to them. So, I'm not here for that aspect of your commentary either.
Now, you can KOKO in this thread feigning like you are the one who is most injured and insulted, or you can buck up and fight back. And trust - I know your ass can do it because you've done it before.
Didn't you once tell eclaires to go kill herself? That doesn't seem nice.
Never. She said she would never be old, and I said the only sure fire alternative to getting old was suicide. Not even a very original thought; surely you've heard "old age isn't so bad, considering the alternative'?.
sandsonik are you the one who tried to deactivate a while back and kept engaging in a thread but then also kept asking (in that same thread) HOW TO DEACTIVATE? WON'T SOMEONE HELP ME AND TELL ME HOW TO DEACTIVATE?
I might be wrong; that may have been someone else.
sandsonik are you the one who tried to deactivate a while back and kept engaging in a thread but then also kept asking (in that same thread) HOW TO DEACTIVATE? WON'T SOMEONE HELP ME AND TELL ME HOW TO DEACTIVATE?
I might be wrong; that may have been someone else.
A lot of other people too, evidently SoI'm trying to learn from them just what is so wrong with me. You always tell me how horrible I am and that I don't listen and learn, I'm trying to listen and learn.
No, you aren't. You aren't listening and learning a GOT.DAYUM.THANG up in this bitch. In this thread, repeatedly, people have explained why anyone would feel or think that their hair is a problem for XYZ reason. You have only replied with "I blah, blah, blah." IT AIN'T ABOUT YOU. You don't understand why a POC would think that their son's hair would put them in danger. Umm, because history has shown how black and brown males are treated and viewed to be threatening. We've had UMPTEEN conversations about how your dressing "nice" as a POC still doesn't mean anything because folks are still clutching their purses in elevators and beating up college kids with fake IDs.
If you're trying to "learn" or honestly listening to people, then you probably should say "Oh wow. That's a new perspective." That's active listening.
And Imma say this, I'm basically not the one to whine to about how somebody hurt your feelings. I don't care. Because I've seen you go toe to toe with eclaires and a couple of other posters on the "oldz" comments. So, I'm not going to shed tears for your feelings being hurt. And when it comes to the Boomers being to blame for policies - I tell you like anyone else, they are to blame. They have a lobbying group AARP that cries foul anytime any mention of SS reform. That's why that shit has been squarely targeted at younger age demographics for "reforms." Younger folks don't vote and don't have a solid lobbying bloc which makes it easy for shit to happen to them. So, I'm not here for that aspect of your commentary either.
Now, you can KOKO in this thread feigning like you are the one who is most injured and insulted, or you can buck up and fight back. And trust - I know your ass can do it because you've done it before.
To everyone else - it's gif time.
I'm really tired of fighting back. Really. Why does everything have to be a fight?
I believe you when you say that original hair puts people of color in danger. I remain shocked that it's not a subset of white people who would feel threatened by your child, but the majority of us. I don't think that's true of every community; some communities value individual expression more than conformity to some version of beauty Madison Ave is trying to sell. Whites are a minority in my community and there are a lot of artists so maybe that's why I didn't realize it was so endemic.
As to the rest of it, I feel like I made an ass of myself by getting very upset and deactivating in a thread about old people a long time ago and people will never, ever let me forget it. What's the statute of limitations here? It's been over two years. Before that, I was fine here.
A while back, I tried to tell myself, 'the attacks on your age are just a joke. They're just ribbing you, lighten up.'
So I bantered back against boomer bashing with millennial bashing. Guess what - not a joke. People got mad. That road doesn't go two ways. People think their own generation don't stink, LOL. Several made it quite clear to me that they were quite serious about their hatred of older people. If I can't joke back and I can't fight back, I don't know what else to do.
Then I realized the board had decided who I was. I am the new Lys, here to unite you all. Someone you can mock and insult with impunity. Pile-ons are allowed. If you can find a ragged corner to tear, tear it. A chink in the armor, stab it. Bring out the gifs, have a laugh, everyone. It's open season. So I played the card I'd been dealt and played that role for a while. Did a little poking back myself, I admit it.
I'll give Lys one thing, she's a lot cooler customer than me. I don't think she ever cared what this board thought of her. In the end, I did, whether I wanted to or not. I didn't want to be that person. I don't know why I've been so bound and determined to be accepted here. Stubborn, I guess. But I'm not engaging in the toxicity anymore. It's not good for any of us. You're absolutely right, the threads would be a lot better if I didn't post in them. I attract too much attention and I'm not the type to bear that silently, so then it becomes about me. Time for me to shut up and sit down, because I've tried not to react to the taunts and I can't. It's my weakness, my nature. That's why I deactivated last time, because I couldn't get myself to NOT respond any other way that being physically unable to respond. So reacting makes it worse and not reacting doesn't make it go away. Jokes don't work. Arguing doesn't work. Everything follows you around for fucking ever here, every day is Groundhogs Day on this board.
So, goodbye. it was fun here at one time when we actually debated politics a lot. God, I loved this board. There are a lot of really smart women here from many fields of enterprise and I felt lucky to be able to read all your posts and learn a little more about the world. Sou, you pissed me off a lot sometimes, but other times you were really very nice and patient. smo, the same. I've especially enjoyed threads from ESF and mominatrix. I miss Reeve. I loved the chance to read about issues from the perspectives of residents of different nations. And you've made me laugh a lot through the years. I do wish there were more women here from different socio economic classes and with differing educational levels though. I did feel like the air was a bit (a lot!) rarified (is that a word?) at times as far the posters being upper, upper middle class, multiple college degreed people who can post all day from work without getting in trouble! When I post from work, I have the size of the screen minimized to a postage stamp and have to do it quickly and sneakily. That could be one reason for miscommunications. (I'm on vacation now, so lengthier). I don't think I've ever read a post from someone here who finish high school or college - or from people who spend their vacations at home posting on PCE because they can't ever afford to go anywhere, LOL. But who knows. Maybe if this board had been more working class, I wouldn't have felt so uncomfortable, but it also would be a different board, and maybe I wouldn't have liked it so much or found it so interesting. It is what it is, and that's not all a bad thing. I had two posters tell me today that I cannot write well enough to communicate effectively and I just don't see that getting any better any time soon. I guess I need to find a place that's more at my skill level. I was astounded that people actually thought I didn't know how to click on a link. I guess you guys invented the internet, huh, and I haven't been using for the past 20 years. But that was kind of the final straw. If people think you're that stupid, I don't see how you come back from that. I realized I have a knot in my stomach when I post anything here, and that's kind of crazy. I need someplace less snarky, and less aggressive, where it's not ok to call people names or swear at them. That's not a slam on you guys because I used to really enjoy the snarky aggressive edge here, but something's changed inside of me and I'm not feeling it so much anymore.
And you know what? My name is Sandsonik. Not sands, sandso, sandsoink, sandsnik and whatever other atrocious spelling of my name I've seen. So when you talk about me, and you will, get that right. Just had to get that off my chest. I guess I'm not the only one who doesn't pay attention or write well enough. I'm deactivating as soon as I post this. It will be a relief for all of us, I think. I can feel the stress leaving my shoulders a little already, LOL. I apologize for those times I was a prick. I hope you remember there were times when I wasn't. I wish I had figured out a new habit to replace PCE before I did this. Oh well, if I quit smoking I can do this. GBCN GBCN, hope the next election cycle provides lots of fodder for you. I wish you all health, wealth and happiness. Sto lat and peace out.
sandsonik are you the one who tried to deactivate a while back and kept engaging in a thread but then also kept asking (in that same thread) HOW TO DEACTIVATE? WON'T SOMEONE HELP ME AND TELL ME HOW TO DEACTIVATE?
I might be wrong; that may have been someone else.
I don't think I've ever read a post from someone here who finish high school or college - or from people who spend their vacations at home posting on PCE because they can't ever afford to go anywhere, LOL. But who knows. Maybe if this board had been more working class, I wouldn't have felt so uncomfortable,
This just proves how up your own ass you are. Yeah, there is a disproportionate amount of people here who are upper middle class and beyond, BUT there are many of us here that are solidly middle working class or lower.
Look. I don't really want you to go because I think you can, and have, contributed to the boards. HOWEVER, lately you have been so... self-centered that you haven't really brought anything to the table. Other than to make it all about you and how misunderstood you are.
sandsonik are you the one who tried to deactivate a while back and kept engaging in a thread but then also kept asking (in that same thread) HOW TO DEACTIVATE? WON'T SOMEONE HELP ME AND TELL ME HOW TO DEACTIVATE?
I might be wrong; that may have been someone else.
I love this so much that even if it isn't true, I'm going to pretend in my head that it is. Thank you, leeba25.
I'm really far too lazy to find it, but it was very much "save me from myself." She just KEPT engaging, and responding, but then she'd throw in comments like "If ANYONE here would tell me how to deactivate I'd do it - I JUST CAN'T FIGURE OUT HOW."
It really might not have been her though ... the person who did it eventually figured it out and deactivated, so unless she came back... idk.
I'm really fucking irrationally annoyed that we're getting chastised for abbreviating a long name that is (to all appearances) a string of nonsense syllables. I mean REALLY.
I'm really fucking irrationally annoyed that we're getting chastised for abbreviating a long name that is (to all appearances) a string of nonsense syllables. I mean REALLY.
Right?! Shit, I say Pixy all.the.time. Or Mesh. Chile. I just can't.
And Millennials don't critique their own generation. No. We've discussed before our actions in the workplace. The thread on bad ass kids again is a critique on younger/our generation.
I'm really fucking irrationally annoyed that we're getting chastised for abbreviating a long name that is (to all appearances) a string of nonsense syllables. I mean REALLY.
Right?! Shit, I say Pixy all.the.time. Or Mesh. Chile. I just can't.
And Millennials don't critique their own generation. No. We've discussed before our actions in the workplace. The thread on bad ass kids again is a critique on younger/our generation.
If HBC calls me E one more time, or if someone misspells my name as eclairs, I'm out of here!!!! Fuck all yall. I deserve respect.
Right?! Shit, I say Pixy all.the.time. Or Mesh. Chile. I just can't.
And Millennials don't critique their own generation. No. We've discussed before our actions in the workplace. The thread on bad ass kids again is a critique on younger/our generation.
If HBC calls me E one more time, or if someone misspells my name as eclairs, I'm out of here!!!! Fuck all yall. I deserve respect.
If HBC calls me E one more time, or if someone misspells my name as eclairs, I'm out of here!!!! Fuck all yall. I deserve respect.
Whatever, buddy the elf.
This outrage will not stand!!!!!!
You can only call me buddy the elf during the time period of November and December or in threads where we discuss Christmas. At all other times, I demand I be addressed as eclaires!
You can only call me buddy the elf during the time period of November and December or in threads where we discuss Christmas. At all other times, I demand I be addressed as eclaires!
How about long john? I'm gonna call you long john from now on.