Check In - 3/30

[awkwardpenguin]

How's everyone doing?  Updates on the pregnancies and outside babies please!

Bonus question: How has IF affected you in your pregnancy and parenting?

[G22]

I'll be 9 weeks tomorrow We had the first u/s a couple weeks ago and saw our little one. Next appt/u/s is in 3 weeks.

My toughest symptom has been I lost my appetite partway through week 6, and pretty much have aversions to all food. Nothing ever sounds good and I really struggle to eat well daily. Some days are better than others. But overall, I feel good and pregnancy has been pretty kind most days.

I've definitely been guarded towards getting excited. I really struggled for the first few weeks to even allow myself to think about planning ahead for despite actually being pregnant. It felt too good to be true. Since having our first u/s, I've allowed myself to get more excited and make plans, but I'm still guarded. Even though I know we have to plan ahead due to moving, I'm still afraid to let my IF guard down yet.

[awkwardpenguin]

C is 29w3d and feeling good. She has quite the baby bump and is starting to have a little trouble finding a comfortable sleeping position. Hopefully we'll find her Snoogle in all the moving boxes sometime in the next couple days.

We've started to actually prepare and have been accumulating some baby stuff. We got a Boppy, a play mat, and a bunch of cloth diapers all used on Craigslist and eBay. We also got a crib. We're having two baby showers in early May - one in my hometown and one in Chicago. I've finished the registry - we went as minimalist as seems reasonable, but it still seems like a TON of stuff!

IF has had some lasting reverberations in this pregnancy for me. I think on one hand, it has made us more relaxed about actually parenting by teaching us that nothing ever happens in the way you expect. On the other hand, even though C is pregnant, I still have a lot of jealousy and resentment toward people who have it "easy" with regards to getting pregnant. My best friend is pregnant and due two weeks after C, and I feel like she just doesn't get what we went through at all, and how it's changed our feelings about this baby. I really do feel like we cherish this pregnancy and don't take anything for granted as a result of IF too.

[starburst604]

I am 33 weeks now, I can't believe we're getting so close to meeting our little girl. At Friday's growth ultrasound she was estimated to be 5lb3oz (84th percentile), is head down and ready to go! Her being big is making me feel like I might deliver sooner than I thought and I'm feeling the pressure to get a lot done at work in the next 4 weeks.

This really has been a great pregnancy. Despite the little complaints I have, it really has been an awesome experience. I always wanted this experience so much and I'm really grateful to have had it. I think I'll miss her little taps, kicks and rolls all day long

[kiddoc]

I will be 22 weeks tomorrow. We found out we are having a girl and are very excited to meet her. They found echogenic bowel and marginal placenta previa at my anatomy scan, so I will have a second anatomy scan this Thursday and probably a few more ultrasounds later in third trimester to recheck things.

I think our IF history has made me more grateful to be pregnant, but also more cautious. I'm not sure yet how it will affect our parenting.

[pooh8402]

I'm 25 weeks tomorrow. The second tri has gone by SO fast! I'll be in the third tri in just a couple weeks! I've got a pretty obvious bump now and I love it! It's been so amazing feeling him move, and DH has felt him too. Ditto with not being very comfortable while sleeping. I use my snoogle most nights, too. I really love being pregnant so far.

My anxiety has been higher than I figured it would be, in spite of (or maybe because of?) my experience. I don't know if it's IF related or healthcare related. I have to agree that I am still a little jealous of those who get pregnant easily. I KNOW that's the IF talking.

[azurely]

Mar 30, 2015 20:36:49 GMT -5 starburst604 said:

I think I'll miss her little taps, kicks and rolls all day long

You definitely will I still pat my stomach sometimes, then realize C isn't in there anymore. And he's 4.5 months old, lol.

[azurely]

C is 4.5 months old. He's doing well, smiling and laughing and generally being adorable. I'm excited for his first Easter this weekend.

IF has probably made me a little more overprotective than I would be otherwise, but I'm still pretty laid back on most things. Mostly I am trying not to take anything for granted. I know this may be the only time we get to experience babyhood, so I'm being more intentional in savoring every little moment I can.

[speyedr]

I still come back to see how many new babies are here and growing! I love it!

This TTTC baby turns 1 tomorrow!


Also, I will be 28 weeks with #2 tomorrow.

[starburst]

I'm 24 weeks today! My anatomy scan and fetal echo were normal, which was a great relief.

I can't believe in a few months I'm going to be responsible for keeping a human being alive. It's exciting, yet terrifying at the same time.

[linz]

C&A will be 6 months next week  As hard as it's been I just want time to stop.

I'm starting solids next week and am actually excited to start making food and hope they take to it. They're also starting to interact more and making talking noises which I love.

I was terrified when I found out I was having twins. I think that took over rather then the IF history since I knew I'd be high risk. It helped that I had constant ultrasounds and monitoring appts. I actually miss seeing my OB so much.  With parenting I'm very protective, but again I think that was because they were in the NICU for a month.  I'm emotionally damaged from that still.

[nmosrob]

35 weeks, I can't believe how fast time is going. Everything is good, just the usual complaints. Uncomfortable, swelling, pressure, etc. Trying to get a temp to cover me while I'm out, I know I somewhat have 4-5 weeks to go, but never know if I could go early, so I'm a little nervous about that.

[sassafrass]

I'm 25+2 and I can't believe how time is flying! IF has made me lose the ability to relax. Couple that with the freak situation and surgery in July and I just can not relax and enjoy myself (and I have been extremely fortunate with this pregnancy and feeling great with no symptoms). I really hate that it's like that but I'm so afraid that something is going to happen. There's no reason for me to feel this way except that it took so long to get here and I know how quickly that can change.

[KaraOrNot]

Mr. Oliver just turned 6 months. I can't freaking believe it. He is so grown up!

He is still struggling with a ton of health issues, but despite that, he is a really happy baby. I love watching him grow and learn.

IF made me a total nervous wreck during pregnancy. I am not sure how, it at all, it has affected my parenting, but I try to be really grateful that I get to experience it at all.

[pooh8402]

KaraOrNot, how is Ollie doing since his surgery?

[Muddled]

I made it to 15 weeks! Heard the heartbeat today. I've gained 5 lbs since week 9.

IF means that I am super cautious. I play it safer than I think I otherwise would. I still get nervous before every single appointment and we haven't told our familes yet. :/ It's happening this weekend, I promise.

G22, I was the same. I had no appetite whatsoever. Mine got worse before it got better, but it did get better. I'm so happy for you!

[G22]

Apr 2, 2015 12:45:30 GMT -5 Muddled said:

I made it to 15 weeks! Heard the heartbeat today. I've gained 5 lbs since week 9.

IF means that I am super cautious. I play it safer than I think I otherwise would. I still get nervous before every single appointment and we haven't told our familes yet. :/ It's happening this weekend, I promise.

G22, I was the same. I had no appetite whatsoever. Mine got worse before it got better, but it did get better. I'm so happy for you!

Yay! This makes me so happy for you as well!

Glad to hear this will get better. I miss enjoying food. I can't see it getting any worse at this point, which means it can only get better from here, right? Eventually. When did you notice yours got better?

[Muddled]

Apr 2, 2015 13:06:22 GMT -5 G22 said:

Apr 2, 2015 12:45:30 GMT -5 Muddled said:

I made it to 15 weeks! Heard the heartbeat today. I've gained 5 lbs since week 9.

IF means that I am super cautious. I play it safer than I think I otherwise would. I still get nervous before every single appointment and we haven't told our familes yet. :/ It's happening this weekend, I promise.

G22, I was the same. I had no appetite whatsoever. Mine got worse before it got better, but it did get better. I'm so happy for you!

Yay! This makes me so happy for you as well!

Glad to hear this will get better. I miss enjoying food. I can't see it getting any worse at this point, which means it can only get better from here, right? Eventually. When did you notice yours got better?

I think it increased around 10 weeks and I started actually vomiting more often and then it subsided just after the 12 week mark. After that, I've vomited a couple times (teeth brushing, of course), but felt no nausea leading up to it. I'm back to normal now-- if you count being hungry every 2 hours as normal!

[G22]

Apr 2, 2015 13:14:59 GMT -5 Muddled said:

Apr 2, 2015 13:06:22 GMT -5 G22 said:

Yay! This makes me so happy for you as well!

Glad to hear this will get better. I miss enjoying food. I can't see it getting any worse at this point, which means it can only get better from here, right? Eventually. When did you notice yours got better?

I think it increased around 10 weeks and I started actually vomiting more often and then it subsided just after the 12 week mark. After that, I've vomited a couple times (teeth brushing, of course), but felt no nausea leading up to it. I'm back to normal now-- if you count being hungry every 2 hours as normal!

I've been very lucky to not have any vomiting so far, though I've had a few close calls. At this point I'd take eating every 2 hours over no appetite! So not too much longer then hopefully I'm looking forward to the 12 week mark for many reasons now.

[linz]

Apr 2, 2015 13:46:41 GMT -5 G22 said:

Apr 2, 2015 13:14:59 GMT -5 Muddled said:

I think it increased around 10 weeks and I started actually vomiting more often and then it subsided just after the 12 week mark. After that, I've vomited a couple times (teeth brushing, of course), but felt no nausea leading up to it. I'm back to normal now-- if you count being hungry every 2 hours as normal!

I've been very lucky to not have any vomiting so far, though I've had a few close calls. At this point I'd take eating every 2 hours over no appetite! So not too much longer then hopefully I'm looking forward to the 12 week mark for many reasons now.

Around 11-12 weeks my appetite finally took off. My energy also came back around then. Eat what you can now. I remember eating a lot of saltines at work because everything else made me feel sick but I had to eat.

[KaraOrNot]

Apr 2, 2015 11:32:14 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

KaraOrNot, how is Ollie doing since his surgery?

Thanks for asking! 

Health wise, he was doing really well, then got sick, and was back in the hospital for a few days.  He is on the mend, but his heart took a hit in the recovery process and he is back in heart failure and on oxygen again.  His cardiologist just thinks this is going to add a few more months onto the recovery process, so I am hoping that is all it does.  He is still not eating well/at all, so he will be having surgery again, at the end of April, for a g-tube (he has an ng tube now). 

Spirit wise, he is doing amazing. He is such a happy little guy!

[Muddled]

Apr 2, 2015 18:47:18 GMT -5 KaraOrNot said:

Apr 2, 2015 11:32:14 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

KaraOrNot, how is Ollie doing since his surgery?

Thanks for asking! 

Health wise, he was doing really well, then got sick, and was back in the hospital for a few days.  He is on the mend, but his heart took a hit in the recovery process and he is back in heart failure and on oxygen again.  His cardiologist just thinks this is going to add a few more months onto the recovery process, so I am hoping that is all it does.  He is still not eating well/at all, so he will be having surgery again, at the end of April, for a g-tube (he has an ng tube now). 

Spirit wise, he is doing amazing. He is such a happy little guy!

Poor baby.

And poor mama. This all sounds stressful. How are you holding up?

[pooh8402]

Apr 2, 2015 18:47:18 GMT -5 KaraOrNot said:

Apr 2, 2015 11:32:14 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

KaraOrNot, how is Ollie doing since his surgery?

Thanks for asking! 

Health wise, he was doing really well, then got sick, and was back in the hospital for a few days.  He is on the mend, but his heart took a hit in the recovery process and he is back in heart failure and on oxygen again.  His cardiologist just thinks this is going to add a few more months onto the recovery process, so I am hoping that is all it does.  He is still not eating well/at all, so he will be having surgery again, at the end of April, for a g-tube (he has an ng tube now). 

Spirit wise, he is doing amazing. He is such a happy little guy!

poor baby. I'm glad he's happy though.

are you doing okay?

[busterpup]

My due date is TOMORROW. I can't believe I'm still pregnant! I tripped and fell at the docs office on Monday (in the most ridiculous fashion ever - it was loud and painful and embarrassing), and even that didn't inspire him to come out. But mostly I'm just glad he was ok. My ankle is now healing, so I'm more than ready for him to come!

IF and miscarriage has made pregnancy just not that enjoyable for me. I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop and something to go wrong. Even at 40 weeks I'm looking up information about stillbirth. I need to learn to let go and acceopt that sometimes good things happen!

[Muddled]

I'm going to put this here because I don't know where else to put i.

I had a nightmare last night that I was losing the pregnancy. It was awful and took a while to come out of. Now that I'm fully awake, I realize that today is the 2 year anniversary of my m/c. Thanks, subconscious.

I am so thankful that I don't generally remember dreams. I hope this goes away post-pregnancy.

[awick14]

busterpup- good things do happen, and it's happening to you. So many hugs lady. Being pregnancy after a miscarriage is so hard. Try and stop looking up the information and enjoy it. (Way easier said then done, I know)

Muddled- ((hugs)) I hope the rest of today goes better.

[awkwardpenguin]

hugs Muddled.

[Muddled]

Thanks, guys. I appreciate the support. I'm fine, I promise.

[pooh8402]

Apr 3, 2015 8:48:47 GMT -5 Muddled said:

I'm going to put this here because I don't know where else to put i.

I had a nightmare last night that I was losing the pregnancy. It was awful and took a while to come out of. Now that I'm fully awake, I realize that today is the 2 year anniversary of my m/c. Thanks, subconscious.

I am so thankful that I don't generally remember dreams. I hope this goes away post-pregnancy.

Big hugs to you. I've had a lot of scary pregnancy-related dreams too.

[busterpup]

Apr 2, 2015 18:47:18 GMT -5 KaraOrNot said:

Apr 2, 2015 11:32:14 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

KaraOrNot, how is Ollie doing since his surgery?

Thanks for asking! 

Health wise, he was doing really well, then got sick, and was back in the hospital for a few days.  He is on the mend, but his heart took a hit in the recovery process and he is back in heart failure and on oxygen again.  His cardiologist just thinks this is going to add a few more months onto the recovery process, so I am hoping that is all it does.  He is still not eating well/at all, so he will be having surgery again, at the end of April, for a g-tube (he has an ng tube now). 

Spirit wise, he is doing amazing. He is such a happy little guy!

I'm sorry he hit a bump in the road.  It sounds like he's an awesome baby to be so happy through everything!