H has a friend coming to town this weekend. It's some old coworker. She really needed a place to stay, so h offered.
I only met her once and I thought she was weird. She made this big fuss at the bar about whether they had sustainable wines. Yes, really.
But H was hurt and I felt bad so I decided I should give her a second chance. I figured she had to have outgrown the sustainable wine shit because who can keep up with that? She has some time while in town and wants to go to Napa. Since no amount of weirdness will keep me from Napa, I decided that this would be good and I'd keep an open mind. I even offered to pack a picnic, I just told h to find out what her dietary restrictions are.
Uh...
"Gluten free, soy free, I eat a limited amount of limited sustainable dairy products, and I haven't been eating mammals." And she only wants "sustainable wines" while in Napa.
Post by aussiecrush on Apr 16, 2015 0:34:15 GMT -5
So...I have a family member like this. Have you looked at a list of wineries yet? Maybe get groceries her first night there so you don't lose your mind. Napa itself was really easy but cooking drive me bonkers.
Ok, "needing a place to stay" means just that and that you are not, in fact, fully hosting her. I'd honestly tell her that you'll give her some space in the fridge and a cabinet for her to store some food. Id host ONE dinner, do the Napa thing, and call it a day.
Seriously. I just don't see "needing a place to stay" as the same as "we're having a friend in town". That tells me that she's there for other reasons.
Since she's clearly so knowledgeable on the topic, ask her what her fave sustainae wine from Napa is, and only go there.
Ask her what she usually eats for breakfast (some don't need much!), and have that available.
This. Force her to make the choices since she's the difficult one. Tell her to plan your Napa trip around her preferred wineries, and let her know you'll be taking her to the grocery store on her first night so SHE can purchase her preferred foods.
Post by sugarglider on Apr 16, 2015 7:43:34 GMT -5
In an effort to actually be helpful, my favorite Napa winery (that I've tried so far) is sustainable, as it turns out. It's one of the huge ones, so it's not like some great little hole in the wall that I can be all hipster-like in recommending, but check out V. Sattui. They also have a little deli there with pasta salads, etc. and picnic tables on the lawn, so you can eat there. I was totally fine finding food as a vegetarian, but I love gluten, so...maybe see if you can find a menu?
Ok, "needing a place to stay" means just that and that you are not, in fact, fully hosting her. I'd honestly tell her that you'll give her some space in the fridge and a cabinet for her to store some food. Id host ONE dinner, do the Napa thing, and call it a day.
Seriously. I just don't see "needing a place to stay" as the same as "we're having a friend in town". That tells me that she's there for other reasons.
This is what I would do too. Because I have no fucking clue what she is considering "sustainable". How is she getting there? A plane, automobile, or a bicycle made of recycled milk jugs and tires?