I'd sell it, because I have no use for more diamonds.
But, if his wife has never had a real diamond and they aren't living hand to mouth, I think he's a total douche for not letting the woman keep a FREE diamond. He hasn't went to the trouble to buy her one ever, and when she finally gets a free one he wants that too? No, asshole. Unless you can't pay the bills and you have so much debt that you're drowning, don't be a dick.
I'd sell it, because I have no use for more diamonds.
But, if his wife has never had a real diamond and they aren't living hand to mouth, I think he's a total douche for not letting the woman keep a FREE diamond. He hasn't went to the trouble to buy her one ever, and when she finally gets a free one he wants that too? No, asshole. Unless you can't pay the bills and you have so much debt that you're drowning, don't be a dick.
I agree. And really, this might be her only chance to get a diamond ring she clearly wants. If he's being this way about a free one I can't see him wanting to drop the cash on getting her one later.
I would keep it. We are at a place financially where a $4k windfall wouldn't be life changing, but we are unlikely to take out a similar amount to buy fancy jewelry. The corvette example doesn't work for me because $30k would make a bigger difference to us. If my H won a watch that was similar in value to the ring I would be ok with him keeping it.
This is just my circumstance though. It's hard to say what someone else should do with it.
A $7500 diamond isn't that big- its either a really shitty I1-I3 1.5 ct stone (J-L in color) or a decent 1 ct (F in color, VS2, VG/VG or EX/EX) and its most likely a Round Brilliant cut.
LOL. Only on MM would we be saying that a $7500 diamond is basically garbage and that 1-1.5 ct "isn't that big".
Post by Doggy Mommy on Apr 24, 2015 8:53:03 GMT -5
We had this conversation recently when I bought a raffle ticket at an auction for a diamond worth 10k (which I didn't win). Yes part of me would be tempted to use it in my ring and have a major upgrade, but we definitely would have sold it. We would rather have a vacation, upgrade some house stuff, put some in savings etc.
I don't know. I can see feeling like she missed out on the diamond e-ring, but I wonder why? Was it because of finances? (Probably). If they have debt, I can see why the H sees this as an opportunity to get ahead. I might be inclined to pay off debt, if selling the stone made that possible, and then save the money I was paying towards debt each month towards the purchase of a ring of my choosing.
A $7500 diamond isn't that big- its either a really shitty I1-I3 1.5 ct stone (J-L in color) or a decent 1 ct (F in color, VS2, VG/VG or EX/EX) and its most likely a Round Brilliant cut.
LOL. Only on MM would we be saying that a $7500 diamond is basically garbage and that 1-1.5 ct "isn't that big".
I was a diamond grader for over 8 years. I know wholesale and retail prices and price per carat. The price does not always mean its a valuable stone; I can get an I3 clarity 2 ct diamond for $10k; its the lowest clarity and just 1 step above industrial grade. I've graded over 100,000 diamonds so my views are influenced by my time in the industry.
Some of you are saying that it's not costing them anything to keep it but it's actually costing them whatever they can sell it for because that's how much less money they will have in their pockets (or less in debt) in order to keep it.
LOL. Only on MM would we be saying that a $7500 diamond is basically garbage and that 1-1.5 ct "isn't that big".
I was a diamond grader for over 8 years. I know wholesale and retail prices and price per carat. The price does not always mean its a valuable stone; I can get an I3 clarity 2 ct diamond for $10k; its the lowest clarity and just 1 step above industrial grade. I've graded over 100,000 diamonds so my views are influenced by my time in the industry.
I'd be willing to bet that a $7,500 diamond to the majority population is a damn nice stone. I'm majorly side eyeing this one.
Post by phunluvin82 on Apr 25, 2015 19:47:17 GMT -5
I'd sell that thing in a minute. I'm just not that into diamonds and I have ethical concerns about where they come from, etc. I would much rather shore up our savings or take a trip.
I do have a diamond engagement ring, but the stones came from a diamond brooch of H's grandmother that he had reset into a ring. I'm glad he used inherited stones and didn't go drop $$$$ on a diamond engagement ring. I just personally don't place a high value on expensive jewelry...and it sounds like this husband doesn't either.
That said, his wife apparently does, so I think they need to find a way to compromise or something. That's what marriage is about right? I think he'd have a better case though if she already had a diamond ring. Since she doesn't, and it's important to her, then I think he needs to think about whether having $3-4k is worth the damage it will apparently do to his marriage.
Post by gibbinator on Apr 25, 2015 19:50:29 GMT -5
Sell it. I'm too paranoid due to my absent mindedness to wear expensive jewelry on my person. Ever. My wedding and engagement rings together were $1300.
Dh would also say sell it. We'd either pay off debt or split the money and buy things we each wanted.
However. In this situation, if she wanted a diamond, and she entered the raffle herself, then she has a case for keeping it. At the very least if they do sell it she should still get a less expensive diamond ring out of the deal.
I had to look up the article and see the pics of the diamond first . It is a one carat princess cut diamond, very pretty.
In their situation, I would keep the diamond and have it set in a white gold band which would not be too expensive. They look like a nice young couple and she never got a diamond and obviously views this as her only chance to get one. The fact that she wants to keep it so much is swaying me that way.
In my situation I would sell it and go on a vacation as my diamond is much larger than the one in question. However, if this diamond was an upgrade I would keep it.