ANYone who DEMANDS that I separate from my child for their own wants gets a firm HELL NO from me. If I feel uncomfortable with the mere suggestion, then no. NEWP NYET NEIN. NOOOOOOOO. Stop asking.
I would tell them "I've told you no. Stop asking. The answer will forever be no." Don't explain why. Don't give reasons or try to rationalize your feelings on the matter. "No" is in fact a complete sentence. They do not deserve your rationale. As your DD's parent you get to say where she goes and I find it highly odd that your sister keeps trying to guilt you in to sleepovers.
Post by ginandjucie24 on Apr 28, 2015 10:47:55 GMT -5
Lurker here. I would trust your gut. It's telling you all you need to know. I embrace my bitchy mamma bear and don't care if feelings are hurt or not. It is not worth it to me, to send my kid somewhere that while they are there I am I am going to worry about them the whole time they are there. If I am doubting myself I always ask myself, "would I let my child go with a stranger who creeps me out just because they ask? If the answer is is no, why would I go against everything I feel just because the person asking is family!
Post by bunnymendelbaum on Apr 28, 2015 13:51:32 GMT -5
I had to attend a workshop about abuse for DDs school. The one thing they said was go with your gut. If something feels off, don't put your child in that situation. No thanks, no thanks, no thanks, over and over again. You do not need to explain or make excuses.
Nope nope nope! I have a BIL that gives me a similar feeling, and I've told MIL and DH specifically "my kids are never to be alone with him. Ever. Not even for 2 minutes."
And fwiw I'm pretty breezy about sleepovers and I've only ever had this feeling about this one person.
Thanks for the reassurance. It was always a nagging feeling. My husband came home yesterday and said that he doesn't want to go over there anymore. After I told him, he got pretty spun up about it. I do worry about abuse with my daughter, but I allow her to spend the night with my parents and ILs. My husband and I talked about how we would be okay with some people. Maybe not worry, but cautious.
He says inappropriate comments to his kids and I don't want my daughter being exposed to that. He has has made an indirect comment about his sons girlfriend having large breasts. omg. That is really creepy.
Thanks again. Typing this out maybe realize how uncomfortable I really am about it.