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[Deleted]

Grrr. I'm sorry it's not you but this also means that good people get jobs so you're next!

[Velar Fricative]

I'm sorry. I hope you get the perfect job soon!

[hermione]

I'm sorry.

I had it out with my boss today. Our conversation included things like her saying I owe her an apology, me saying hell would freeze over first, and both of us saying I should extend my vacation to include this week and that we will talk again when the director can meet with us. I even asked if I should expect to be fired when I return late next week.

I hope we both find something new soon.

[countthestars]

Sorry TamiTaylor and hermione. I hope you both find great jobs soon.

[shelbyann]

I'm sorry. I hope you both find better opportunities soon!

[noodleskooze]

I'm sorry. Job hunting is the most soul-killing thing ever. It sucks.

[Deleted]

Holy shit hermione, I hope things turn out okay!

Sorry, TamiTaylor, it sucks to feel like you're the second runner up. So close, yet so far!

[Deleted]

May 18, 2015 12:45:53 GMT -5 hermione said:

I'm sorry.

I had it out with my boss today. Our conversation included things like her saying I owe her an apology, me saying hell would freeze over first, and both of us saying I should extend my vacation to include this week and that we will talk again when the director can meet with us. I even asked if I should expect to be fired when I return late next week.

I hope we both find something new soon.

Fuck.  Why did she think YOU should apologize?

[redheadbaker]

I'm sorry I get being bummed. I got to Round 2 of an interview for a job that felt like a perfect for me. I had all the experience they wanted, and did REALLY well on their skills assessment. Yet got passed over for someone with less experience (likely so they could pay a lower salary).

[Deleted]

May 18, 2015 13:16:12 GMT -5 TamiTaylor said:

May 18, 2015 12:42:54 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

Grrr. I'm sorry it's not you but this also means that good people get jobs so you're next!

See. I'm starting to feel like maybe I'm a bad person so bad things keep happening to me or not happening for me. It's depressing.

You're not a bad person!  I hope something comes your way soon.

[thebreakfastclub]

This thread is about to get some additional traffic.

[countthestars]

May 18, 2015 15:21:26 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

May 18, 2015 15:09:20 GMT -5 thebreakfastclub said:

This thread is about to get some additional traffic.

Please elaborate on this statement.

pandce.proboards.com/thread/447417/feel

[sarahsas]

Oh man... leave the drama out of here! That's one of the reasons I like this board, way nicer than others.

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May 18, 2015 15:32:39 GMT -5 sarahsas said:

Oh man... leave the drama out of here! That's one of the reasons I like this board, way nicer than others.

I think we are just more likely to follow the adage 'if you don't have anything nice to say....' But I also understand the newer adage 'if you don't have anything nice to say, save it for the internet and say it anonymously'

[sarahsas]

Well I'm fairly new but it is less likely to get jumped on here than other boards... um except now. Thanks for the quotes guys! Glad I diverted the heat from hermione for a second.. ha.

[hermione]

May 18, 2015 15:34:37 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

Got it. I've been busy today. I meant to reply to this earlier and got sidetracked, but may as well go for it now.

hermione - I'm worried about you. I 100% understood where you were coming from in writing that email and wanting to send it. I also understand not being motivated at work after what they did to you. Your boss was absolutely wrong for leading you on.

That being said, two wrongs don't make a right, and you have sounded seriously bitter about this whole thing. Like to the point where I've doubted that you've been able to control it at work. If it's affecting your performance now, all you're doing is making them think they made the right choice. Don't give them that satisfaction.

You've got to find a way to get your feelings under control, because at this point, you're going to damage your reputation and make it that much harder to find something else. You are daring them to fire you. It's not worth going out in a blaze of glory.

I sound bitter? That's because I'm bitter.

And as for my performance at work? You really have no idea what you're talking about. I can excel at my job without kowtowing to these people. I can excel at my job without even speaking to them. So, yea.

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May 18, 2015 15:40:00 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

May 18, 2015 15:37:07 GMT -5 @hannymaren said:

I think we are just more likely to follow the adage 'if you don't have anything nice to say....' But I also understand the newer adage 'if you don't have anything nice to say, save it for the internet and say it anonymously'

There is a lot of great, helpful advice that is not "nice."

I prefer when people are honest. Definitely. Otherwise why ask for help.
Agreed

[Deleted]

May 18, 2015 15:41:24 GMT -5 hermione said:

May 18, 2015 15:34:37 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

Got it. I've been busy today. I meant to reply to this earlier and got sidetracked, but may as well go for it now.

hermione - I'm worried about you. I 100% understood where you were coming from in writing that email and wanting to send it. I also understand not being motivated at work after what they did to you. Your boss was absolutely wrong for leading you on.

That being said, two wrongs don't make a right, and you have sounded seriously bitter about this whole thing. Like to the point where I've doubted that you've been able to control it at work. If it's affecting your performance now, all you're doing is making them think they made the right choice. Don't give them that satisfaction.

You've got to find a way to get your feelings under control, because at this point, you're going to damage your reputation and make it that much harder to find something else. You are daring them to fire you. It's not worth going out in a blaze of glory.

I sound bitter? That's because I'm bitter.

And as for my performance at work? You really have no idea what you're talking about. I can excel at my job without kowtowing to these people. I can excel at my job without even speaking to them. So, yea.

You can excel but can you get by?
I can do my job amazing and my customers will love me. But if my boss thinks I have a bad attitude, it's all for naught. Because at the end of the day, my boss makes the decisions. Not me
My boss is also my reference when I leave.
Sometimes you have to keep on and play nice even when you don't love to. IF you want to keep on having a job.

[thebreakfastclub]

TamiTaylor and @this right now:

[hermione]

May 18, 2015 15:45:49 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

May 18, 2015 15:41:24 GMT -5 hermione said:

I sound bitter? That's because I'm bitter.

And as for my performance at work? You really have no idea what you're talking about. I can excel at my job without kowtowing to these people. I can excel at my job without even speaking to them. So, yea.

It sounds like you have done zero reflection about whether you could improve in any way to warrant being promoted in the first place. It sounds like everything is your boss's fault and that none of this could be the result of your colleague simply being a better employee. Your whole "well, fuck those guys" attitude makes me believe you may not be the easiest to work with.

Obviously.

[Deleted]

May 18, 2015 15:47:55 GMT -5 hermione said:

May 18, 2015 15:45:49 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

It sounds like you have done zero reflection about whether you could improve in any way to warrant being promoted in the first place. It sounds like everything is your boss's fault and that none of this could be the result of your colleague simply being a better employee. Your whole "well, fuck those guys" attitude makes me believe you may not be the easiest to work with.

Obviously.

I'm so glad you understand what jenny1980 was saying. She had good information there.

[Deleted]

May 18, 2015 15:41:24 GMT -5 hermione said:

May 18, 2015 15:34:37 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

Got it. I've been busy today. I meant to reply to this earlier and got sidetracked, but may as well go for it now.

hermione - I'm worried about you. I 100% understood where you were coming from in writing that email and wanting to send it. I also understand not being motivated at work after what they did to you. Your boss was absolutely wrong for leading you on.

That being said, two wrongs don't make a right, and you have sounded seriously bitter about this whole thing. Like to the point where I've doubted that you've been able to control it at work. If it's affecting your performance now, all you're doing is making them think they made the right choice. Don't give them that satisfaction.

You've got to find a way to get your feelings under control, because at this point, you're going to damage your reputation and make it that much harder to find something else. You are daring them to fire you. It's not worth going out in a blaze of glory.

I sound bitter? That's because I'm bitter.

And as for my performance at work? You really have no idea what you're talking about. I can excel at my job without kowtowing to these people. I can excel at my job without even speaking to them. So, yea.

Yikes.

Isn't the library world small?

I'm pretty sure most of us have wanted to yell a good Fuck You to our bosses and/or coworkers, but against our better judgement haven't.

I don't think it's ever good to burn bridges. You can be amazing at your actual job, but if you have a poor attitude and are difficult to work with, you're not doing yourself any favors.

If your boss said you should extend your vacation and you asked about being fired, I would take a hunch and say that you have areas you could improve in.

[redheadk]

May 18, 2015 15:32:39 GMT -5 sarahsas said:

Oh man... leave the drama out of here! That's one of the reasons I like this board, way nicer than others.

Wait, what? This board has plenty of drama. I think you're lost.

[sparkythelawyer]

I'm sorry, Tami. I'm sure things will pick up soon.

And I am not touching the other hot mess in this thread. Wow.

[thebreakfastclub]

Orchestrating one's own firing and likely blackballing makes 0 sense. The "you go girl!" vibe from some posters was equally confusing.

I assume community library work in a medium sized city is a relatively small world. I work at a big company in a big industry, and I have seen people quietly shut out of opportunities for lesser political missteps, much less a full-scale meltdown.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry! I hope something great opens up soon! When I was in despair over not getting a teaching job, my dream district ended up offering me a job at the end of August with a few days left to go before the start of the year. So you never know. Keep your chin up

[Deleted]

May 18, 2015 15:46:09 GMT -5 pennypenny said:

May 18, 2015 15:41:24 GMT -5 hermione said:

I sound bitter? That's because I'm bitter.

And as for my performance at work? You really have no idea what you're talking about. I can excel at my job without kowtowing to these people. I can excel at my job without even speaking to them. So, yea.

I have been where you are. But one thing I learned was that being great at your job is not all that matters. Actually it is not the most important thing. If people don't want to work with you, you are not going to get promoted and they will try to find a reason to get rid of you. Sometimes you have to keep that bitterness held in until you get home or get on the internet or whatever. I feel for you. But I think you should tread lightly here.

This is good advice. Surprisingly there are a lot of politics in places like schools and I would assume libraries are kind of the same. My principal once sent out a survey asking employees about their thoughts on some program he was spearheading. Stupid me, I wrote down what I honestly thought (which was negative). I cringe when I think about that now. He went from writing glowing reviews of my lessons to dinging me on stuff like not having enough posters in my room :/ Seriously petty stuff but his was the only opinion that mattered which I realized way too late. Most places, you have to go along to get along. Keep your head down until you are in a position of authority. That is not something I understood at 25-26. I thought simply being good at your job was enough (lol). I wish I had gotten advice like the quote above back them. 

[annieh22]

I hope you get an even better job in your dream district. It hurts to be passed over, I get that. You are handling this really well.

And I bet your co-worker was cheaper, therefore the one hired. Stinks that's the way it works.

[curbsideprophet]

Well this took a weird turn. Sorry about the job Tami. Hope you get a good offer soon.

[justjen]

Hang in there, tami. Job hunting sucks