And in all seriousness this would be the end of the friendship for me too. They apparently think you need to drop everything you have going on in your own life. That is entirely too exhausting to keep up with. Nope buh bye!
They hired a babysitter Something she told me when I said I could not get babysitting.
LOL. I am not PAYING for a babysitter to give up my Sunday afternoon to come bring you a gift. And I would never expect anyone to do that for me either.
I am SUPER picky about what I will pay a babysitter for. Lol. And going to a baby shower is not one of them.
But I WILL pay a sitter when we don't want to take our kids to the boat with us. Lol. Sometimes I like to tan in peace!! Plus my kids Are both super white and burn easily so if its really sunny I leave them at home.
Wait, so was the H in the couple having the baby the one who said the thing about your mom babysitting or did your H's "friend" say that?
Oh, wait - I was presuming that the guy who shared this info was warning your DH, in a "woah, Josh flipped his shit" kind of way. This friend was on his side? Good lord.
Eh, sort of. He backed off very quickly when my H said WTF.
The friend who told you is a bit of a shit-stirrer, too.
Seriously. He's the one you to whom you should direct your rage. I don't blame anyone for simply noting that you weren't there, but I do wonder what was actually said versus the version you heard through the shit-stirring friend.
(As an aside, I don't think there's anything wrong with co-ed, child-free showers or parties. I don't get why anyone is aflutter over that in the first place.)
I am not aflutter that they had a child free co-ed shower. I am aflutter that they expected a high attendance and were annoyed when people could not go.
The child free CO ED part was a big deal to stress that it was impossible for us to just "stop by". It wold have been a production to go. And that was our out.
And it's a BABY SHOWER. Not a formal black tie evening wedding. Who cares if there are kids there?
Well, the hosts care.
Come on. It doesn't mean black tie versus bouncy house, but you have to admit that a party with kids is a different dynamic than one without. It just is. It's not about one being better than the other; it's just different.
People do co-ed baby showers? That would be my H's nightmare.
See, I thought a traditional shower sounded like my nightmare, so we had a co-ed one. Copious amounts of booze and tacos, zero shower games.
My best friend threw one. The only game we had was "make the baby out of Play Doh." Since we knew we were having a boy (and our friends have their immature side), many humorous attempts at anatomically correct sculptures were made.
I'm all for "kid free" stuff like weddings and parties but it does seem weird to be super strict about no kids at a baby shower. In fact, most of the ones I'm invited to specifically say "children welcome".
Seriously. He's the one you to whom you should direct your rage. I don't blame anyone for simply noting that you weren't there, but I do wonder what was actually said versus the version you heard through the shit-stirring friend.
(As an aside, I don't think there's anything wrong with co-ed, child-free showers or parties. I don't get why anyone is aflutter over that in the first place.)
I am not aflutter that they had a child free co-ed shower. I am aflutter that they expected a high attendance and were annoyed when people could not go.
The child free CO ED part was a big deal to stress that it was impossible for us to just "stop by". It wold have been a production to go. And that was our out.
Look, I couldn't care less either way that you didn't go. Frankly, when I don't really want to go somewhere, I don't bother with reasons why I can't go. It's perfectly acceptable to just decline an invitation without telling them it's because you can't find a babysitter or you have other plans, etc. Telling them that you can't get a sitter just opens it up for discussion. Since these people have a lot of balls to mention your MIL being on the boat to your face, I am actually kind of shocked that they didn't ask why at least one of you didn't come. That seems far more obvious than asking why your MIL couldn't babysit.
This is a gift. Now you don't have to pretend to like them or their dumb kid. I presume their already-existing kid is Veruca Salt with parents like that.
I find it hilarious that the wife wasn't bothered (beyond missing you) and it was the husband that was pissed. They obviously didn't think it through very well, a lot of times a no kid party means the other parent will watch the kids. No kid and coed shower might not have the best turn out.
Laz, you had a second shower for your daughter, didn't you?
I did - sort of!
My mother threw it, not my friends. No one was required to come. Kids were invited and no games were played. My kids are 4 years apart and different sexes.
I never judged them having a second shower. I judged the type of shower and the reactions that came from our declining to come - ESPECIALLY because it was a second shower.
I'm all for "kid free" stuff like weddings and parties but it does seem weird to be super strict about no kids at a baby shower. In fact, most of the ones I'm invited to specifically say "children welcome".
First of all, the idea of a kids vs no kids shower isn't the point of the post and second of all, they did say they could bring the kids if they had to so...not so super strict.
But this was worse!
We would have been the only assholes there with our kids. LOL.
So apparently we decided to be assholes without actually going to the shower.
First of all, the idea of a kids vs no kids shower isn't the point of the post and second of all, they did say they could bring the kids if they had to so...not so super strict.
But this was worse!
We would have been the only assholes there with our kids. LOL.
So apparently we decided to be assholes without actually going to the shower.
Post by adhdfashion on May 22, 2015 13:24:52 GMT -5
If they wanted everyone to show up. Maybe they should have hired a couple sitters to watch all the kids of parents invited. It's not that hard to accommodate guest's.
I am all worked up about this for you. My friendship with my BFF from high school ended because her H decided after their destination wedding that I didn't do enough for her as her MOH during the wedding process and defriended us on FB pretty much as soon as we got back. She agreed with him and called H & I oblivious for being all "WTF?!" about it. THEN she had a kid a few years later and was irked that I didn't go to her shower even though we weren't really speaking at that point.
It doesn't matter if you stayed home to jack off and eat chocolate. If you politely declined their invitation, it's none of their g.d. business what you were doing on Sunday afternoon. Fuck 'em.