Post by MadamePresident on May 24, 2015 21:30:07 GMT -5
So I promise my daughter's head doesn't stink. I even had my husband do a smell check. She is a pretty neat 2 year old, she isn't moisturizing her hair with pasta sauce. I otherwise bathe her, brush her teeth, clip her nails, and make her wear clean clothes.
I make her do many things she doesn't like, but I don't fight her on this often.
My daughter doesn't like for her hair to be washed, but it gets washed anyway.
Kids don't like to do lots of things that need to be done: brushing teeth, clipping nails, haircuts, etc.
I don't know kids, you all know, but it's the same with my dogs, lol. Do you think they like baths, ear cleanings, nail clippings (which have to be done by the vet)?
Agreed.
I have a kid on spectrum and a long haired cat. Neither liked baths initially, but with practice they got comfortable with the process. I never did get to the point where I could cut the cat's nails. Fortunately my local vet's tech would do it for me- and the little bastard would sit still and purr for her.
This seems extreme. I'd wonder if the kid had some sort of sensory processing issue.
Post by cinnamoncox0 on May 25, 2015 7:48:46 GMT -5
While I can't imagine not washing my kids' hair for months in end, I will say her hair doesn't look dirty or greasy in your dig pic. Was this taken before she freaked over shampoos? She looks cute and clean.
I get it. My older son hates water. He can't stand being wet. He's hated baths since the day he was born. He will not swim. He only recently started enjoying jumping in puddles (if he's all decked out in rainboots and waterproof pants). He's an agreeable person generally and will always follow rules and do anything else I tell him. But bathtime has always been a struggle. If so much as a drop of water rolls down his face he would scream and cry and try to stand up and crawl out of the tub :/ So I washed his hair as infrequently as I could get away with in an effort to condition him that baths are not scary and horrible. Sometimes that meant only using soap on his head once every week or two. He is a neat and tidy kid. In winter months when sunscreen and sweat aren't a factor, his hair and scalp were fine. No food or dirt. At bath time I just used a damp cloth to wet his hair a little bit (which the poster on mmm also does at bathtime,so it's not like the kid's hair never gets a very basic cleaning).
Ds1 is 3 now and recently started understanding that if he looks up at the ceiling while I wash his hair, then no water will drip into his eyes when I dump it over his hair. In fact, he's starting to actually play in the bathtub now, presumably because he's no longer anticipating getting water in his eyes.
I wash DS's hair once every other day or every three days if we have something going on that prevents a bath at a reasonable hour. I don't wash my hair everyday - I grease trained it specifically so I could do this.
I wear this shower cap on the days when I don't wash it - I still wash the rest of me because I would stink otherwise.
It's so sensual - DH can never resist me in it.
ETA: and for the record, there are literally THOUSANDS of things I make DS do that he doesn't want to in any given week, from simple teeth brushing to going to nursery school, to insisting he wear clean clothes rather than his pjs' to school. That's life at our house.
A friend moved into her freshman dorm in college, and while unpacking realized she had forgotten to pack her shower puff/loofah. Her new roommate said "oh, I don't use one of those." My friend, making conversation, asked "oh, do you use a bar soap?"
Roommate: "No, I just stand under the water until I feel clean."
Apparently feeling clean and smelling clean are two different things. If you just get your dirty skin and hair wet, you smell like wet dog, even if you "feel clean."
My local radio show did a bit one time that Hispanic people shower less than white people, and they think it's ridiculous how much white people shower and how bad it is for your skin and hair, and it dries it out.
Half the callers agreed, half disagreed. The main girl said she showers once every week or two, even with working out.
Long story short, maybe it's cultural?
I'm Puerto Rican and I showered three times yesterday. Usually it is twice a day, once in the morning after working out and then at night before bed. Every one I know back home showers daily. So not true for me.
Yeah, I didn't wanna say anything but I had the same reaction. My Brazilian relatives were horrified that I don't put baby cologne on S. "What do you put on him after his bath?!" "Lotion." "BUT WITH NO SCENT?!" Polar extremes, lol.
I used to work with a little boy who wore cologne and I loved it. I want some for my toddler but I don't know what to get!
My local radio show did a bit one time that Hispanic people shower less than white people, and they think it's ridiculous how much white people shower and how bad it is for your skin and hair, and it dries it out.
Half the callers agreed, half disagreed. The main girl said she showers once every week or two, even with working out.
While I can't imagine not washing my kids' hair for months in end, I will say her hair doesn't look dirty or greasy in your dig pic. Was this taken before she freaked over shampoos? She looks cute and clean.
It's from February. I work very hard to keep my kids looking nice and presentable.
I wash my 4 yo's hair every Saturday. She has quite a bit of thick, Afro hair. Hair washing is a long process forger-pre poo, shampoo, condition, detangle, moisturize, style. She doesn't like it but she is a little black girl and if I did t take care of it, it would get brittle and break off, smell, etc.
My step mama used to say little black girls learn the price of cute early.
While I can't imagine not washing my kids' hair for months in end, I will say her hair doesn't look dirty or greasy in your dig pic. Was this taken before she freaked over shampoos? She looks cute and clean.
It's from February. I work very hard to keep my kids looking nice and presentable.
I hope it didn't seem I was being fresh or sarcastic, I really think she looks cute and clean. I'm sorry if it appeared I was calling you a bad parent or mocking your dd. She seems too young for it to get actually greasy anyway. She's cute. Maybe this summer she will enjoy pools and swimming and will get over her dislike of the water.
The only thing I have to add to this is that radio show hosts are the last source of information I'd trust on cultural differences and, well, pretty much everything else outside the time and temp. Even then, ours are pretty bad.
It's from February. I work very hard to keep my kids looking nice and presentable.
I hope it didn't seem I was being fresh or sarcastic, I really think she looks cute and clean. I'm sorry if it appeared I was calling you a bad parent or mocking your dd. She seems too young for it to get actually greasy anyway. She's cute. Maybe this summer she will enjoy pools and swimming and will get over her dislike of the water.
I didn't take it as offensive at all. I like my daughter and think she is adorable. Well except for when she is acting like a fussy pants.
I do hope playing outside in the pool helps her to get over her dislike of having a wet head. She can be very resistant to new and different things. Even the beginning of summer was tough when we started pulling out the shorts. She resisted them for a couple weeks.