It depends on who you identify with in the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.
If you are a Donatello and your H is a Leonardo, and you think misotiny is definitely a Michelangelo, then are you ready to have a Raphael join your family? ARE YOU?
No but I am bitter mother of three, lol. I was content with one and lord was my life much easier. My DH finally talked me into another and I end up with fucking twins
One kid to get ready in the morning. One kid to put to bed at night. One kid to wrangle in public. One kid worth of expenses. One kid who is freaking fabulous at playing by himself. No more diapers to buy. No more potty training. No more sleepless nights or colicky babies or PPD.
Having more financial freedom. (The big one!!!)
Whenever I feel baby fever coming on, I consult my above list.
We're one and done for medical issues, but I have to admit, it's pretty nice only having one. What's the saying? One kid is an accessory, two are a lifestyle? Since you like to travel a lot, one makes that easier. He has plenty of friends, cousins, and neighborhood kids to play with, too.
Someone on my fb says 'one is fun. Two is poo' ...
Post by underwaterrhymes on May 27, 2015 23:03:51 GMT -5
I voted yes for two reasons.
First, you've indicated you might want two.
And, second, you don't strike me as someone who would let a second child keep you from doing child-free stuff any more than the first one did, and I think you'd have a lot of fun with the kids, too.
Is this when I warn you that Mother Nature gives you the awesome easy first child to sucker you into the 2nd one......that may or may not be the biggest toddler terrorist ever.
Yes, because at one point you said if you had one, you were going to have two, because you felt strongly about siblings.
So, taking that into consideration, I believe you truly WANT another and perhaps don't feel your family is complete. I can speak from experience and know that that specific want trumps any practical consideration.
Absolutely. If only because I'm around the same age as you are (I think) and I'm hoping I'll have the time/energy to have two. Also, misotiny is genuinely cute.
You have a nanny to entertain her when you don't want to. You can afford to buy her friends later if you need to. You like to travel.
That being said, if you're going for a second, do it soon so you're not raising kids for most of your adult life. (DD1s are 10 years apart. Just happened that she had an unplanned and met her keeper-DH that many years later. It's adorable how he dotes on her, but he's a big brother of a baby sister. And you have a great relationship with your brother so there's that.) So, probably no unless you can get it done within the year so they can be playmates. Or wait another eight so you can have a little helper. lol.