H and ineach had a huuuuge mug of beer at the HofbrÀuhaus House in Munich. Then we came back and realized that our hotel room does not have AC. It's supposed to be in the mid 80's in Munich this week. I'm hot blooded. Our hotel room is on the second floor and faces a busy street. Exactly how much courage will I need to screw up to either 1) convince H to move hotels to somewhere with AC; or 2) ask to move to a quieter room?
I'm a bear without enough sleep. Such an asshole American.
Oh you're in Munich! I really enjoyed our visit there last summer. Check to see if your current hotel has a room with A/C. We changed rooms in Cesky Krumlov for this exact reason and they didn't even charge us more because they weren't busy (I love travelling in shoulder seasons).
I just resolved to ask in the morning (it's 10:47pm and H is snoring next to me). It's going to make H super uncomfortable to ask (I'll do it if he won't), but it's hot, noisy with the window open (I can hear everything said by pedestrians on the street below) and BRIGHT! We're right across the street from a parking garage and they don't have blackout curtains. I fell like a stereotypical Ugly American doing it, but I can't go home on Saturday more exhausted then when we arrived.
And I truly don't get all the "but you live in such and such place and have so many better options!" thing. Sometimes you want real Italian food. Sometimes you want fake Italian food.
(Note also: most of the Italian food we find in these parts isn't exactly authentic to what you'd find in Italy anyway -- it is fake in its own way.)
I wish I could find good Italian food by work (in NJ). Everything I've had so far has been mediocre enough that I'd definitely vote for og breadsticks instead.
This is exactly how I feel about Taco Bell, even though I have lived pretty close to the border where there is good, authentic Mexican food for just as cheap.
Also, when I lived in Italy, there were times I really wanted to eat at Olive Garden. The food is different and I was too broke to eat out at good restaurants all the time.
I pierced my baby girl's ears and it IS cultural. So, these actions cancel each other out?
Also, I haven't cut my baby son's hair, which apparently makes him unkempt and me "privileged." I am still processing that one.
Privileged? Huh? Well OK then...
I don't know. I am supposed to look at some CEP thread for context, but I haven't gone over there yet. I thought it just made me the kind of person who doesn't particularly care what the baby's hair looks like as long as there aren't big chunks of banana in it.
It's totally OK to ask nicely, @idaholakelady. Don't be embarassed! If it helps, remember that they work in hospitality. And that I'm sure they have stories of truly ridiculous requests and this won't even be a blip on the radar.
Omg I'm so glad I asked! They were able to move us to a room off of the Main Street, overlooking the restaurant square. It doesn't have AC (the whole hotel doesn't have AC), but it doesn't face south and the restaurants close at 11pm. And it has blackout curtains on the windows. All for the same price. Muuuuuch better! Thanks for the encouragement. I'm so self conscious of being a visitor in this country and not wanting to be rude.
I don't know. I am supposed to look at some CEP thread for context, but I haven't gone over there yet. I thought it just made me the kind of person who doesn't particularly care what the baby's hair looks like as long as there aren't big chunks of banana in it.
Summary from what I've read on CEP:
Judgement over appearance is different for different groups. Hence the privilege thing. I can get away with having my kids not dressed perfectly every time we leave the house. The privilege comes from the fact that I don't really have to worry about it or think about it. If I want to be the type of "person who doesn't particularly care what the baby's hair looks like" I can. Where as in the black community, appearance has become so important with kids because of the judgement. Look at how people react to Blu Ivy's natural hair.
Hair is something that is steeped in history and issues of privilege, especially in the black community but in others as well. Think about how differently our society views different hair styles, like braids and the like when they are on a black person or a white person. A white person with dreads is a hippy stoner. A black person is a thug.
So it's deeper than just cutting a babies hair and there are centuries of history wrapped up in it. But there in lies the privilege. I don't have to think about it. I just do what I want with my kid's hair and move on.
But that is just my very shallow understanding of it.
Interesting, irishbride2. Not directed at you, but my general response is that I come from a culture that places a lot of importance on the texture of your hair and what it says about your racial background. I've spent my life trying to get away from this because I think it's stupid and racist to tell your grand kids or your friend's kids or whomever that they should straighten their naturally curly hair because it looks "more polished." I've also had strangers on the street tell me "how lucky" I am that my kids look "so white."
So, yeah, I'm familiar with this talk. Unfortunately. But I feel like it was brought in out of context to the other thread where I saw it, so thanks for clarifying.
Yes, early ear piercing is culturally normative to me. However, it doesn't bother me at all if other people don't care for the look.
DD's ears aren't pierced yet. If I was the only parent, I probably would have taken her around now, but DH was hesitant. We agreed that she can get them pierced if/when she asks for it, whenever that might be.
Post by explorer2001 on Jun 3, 2015 10:40:14 GMT -5
Seriously unpopular, but I don't think flame worthy, still :zips up fire proof suit:
I don't have my ears pierced. I never have. I don't intend to pierce my hypothetical future kids ears unless they ask and are old enough and responsible enough to take care of it themselves.
I generally think unless there is a medical reason for it body modifications should be the person who lives in the body's choice. I get so much crap from people about how I should pierce my ears. Seriously?! I'm a grown woman who could easily do so if I wanted to. Why are strangers so vested in my ears? This is one of the few ways I don't fit in reasonably well with cultural norms of appearance (I have been teased for being as pale as snow white but hey if I'm being compared to a fairy tale princess in looks I figure I'm doing on), so I can't even imagine how much it must suck to have to deal with worse/be further from the norm (not that I think the norm is correct).
Seriously unpopular, but I don't think flame worthy, still :zips up fire proof suit:
I don't have my ears pierced. I never have.
My sister never got hers pierced, either, and doesn't intend to. She's 28.
How weird that anyone would care THAT much about YOUR ears to comment on it. Why on earth do they think that's any of their business, or that it affects their lives in any way?
Here's my flameworthy confession: a family member went through a deep depression and anxiety a few months ago. She went through an 8 week roller coaster of new meds, med reactions, new meds. Now she's doing much better and feels totally back to normal.
But she keeps posting on Facebook these memes about how its better to have cancer then mental illness because people see cancer.
Some people are responding and even asking about my daughter as a follow up in the comments.
I just find this incredibly hurtful. Mental illness is real and I'm incredibly sorry she went through all this but comparing her 8 weeks of trouble to cancer just doesn't sit well with me.
Here's my flameworthy confession: a family member went through a deep depression and anxiety a few months ago. She went through an 8 week roller coaster of new meds, med reactions, new meds. Now she's doing much better and feels totally back to normal.
But she keeps posting on Facebook these memes about how its better to have cancer then mental illness because people see cancer.
Some people are responding and even asking about my daughter as a follow up in the comments.
I just find this incredibly hurtful. Mental illness is real and I'm incredibly sorry she went through all this but comparing her 8 weeks of trouble to cancer just doesn't sit well with me.
#dropsmatch
Nothing about this is flameworthy.
And to tie this thread together, if I ever saw this family member, I wouldn't need anyone to hold my gold because I don't have pierced ears.
I haven't been to Disney since high school so I have no opinion on whether I'd like it as an adult, but adults who love Disney for any reason other than "because my kids love it" scare the sweet bejesus out of me.
I read this as "I went to the Disney high school" and I'm all "THERE'S A DISNEY HIGH SCHOOL?!?!? OMG!!!".
I have a FB friend who wrote a check to her internet/cable provider to pay her monthly bill and in the memo line wrote something along the lines referring to rape. A few people were responding with a "right on" attitude and I had to ask if we're really comparing our non-essential bills to rape? The OP responded with a "YEP".
I have never been to a Disney park, and intend on taking DS there when he is old enough. I have my ears pierced, and intend to get a second set of holes done. I have 4 tattoos and eventually want to get more. And I don't care what people do to their bodies, as long as it doesn't affect someone else. But, they also need to realize that there is still a perception associated with tattoos, hence why I have mine in places I can cover up for work.
Here's my flameworthy confession: a family member went through a deep depression and anxiety a few months ago. She went through an 8 week roller coaster of new meds, med reactions, new meds. Now she's doing much better and feels totally back to normal.
But she keeps posting on Facebook these memes about how its better to have cancer then mental illness because people see cancer.
Some people are responding and even asking about my daughter as a follow up in the comments.
I just find this incredibly hurtful. Mental illness is real and I'm incredibly sorry she went through all this but comparing her 8 weeks of trouble to cancer just doesn't sit well with me.
I have a FB friend who wrote a check to her internet/cable provider to pay her monthly bill and in the memo line wrote something along the lines referring to rape. A few people were responding with a "right on" attitude and I had to ask if we're really comparing our non-essential bills to rape? The OP responded with a "YEP".