I'm really down

[verycontrary247]

Hot karaoke dude is moving. Like, from VA to Texas moving. Got a fantastic job offer and it starts in two weeks. While I know he's wanted to move and this is great for him career-wise I'm still selfishly incredibly sad about it.

Even though we talked about stuff a while back and determined we wanted different things/wouldn't work out as a long term committed relationship, we've still been hanging out really often and I'm having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that he isn't going to be around. Aside from the fact that he didn't want more kids, he was pretty much perfect for me and has turned into an excellent friend. Last night he invited me over to play board games with him and his sister/BIL and everything was just so fun, effortless and easy. How am I supposed to find another guy like this??

Granted, his parents/siblings/kids will still be here so he will visit, but it's not the same I'm not sure what I'm looking for here, maybe poor poodles and hair pats. Sigh.

[abcdefu]

I'm sorry you are feeling down. I hope this doesn't come across wrong, but maybe you are feeling really bad because you had hope that one day you would want the same things. Try not to think about it as "how am I going to find someone like him again?" because you will be disappointed. Maybe you will find someone that is super fun AND wants the same things as you.

Hugs and hair pats!

[1confused1]

I'm really sorry!

Try to keep your head up, that guy that wants all the same things as you is out there somewhere!

[Deleted]

Sorry.  Hugs

[bg]

Sorry you're feeling down. I'd say the 'aside from the' factor is a pretty big one. Maybe with him gone you'll be more open to finding someone even more compatible? (Even if it doesn't seem possible right now).

[redshoejune]

I'm sorry you're sad. Friends moving is always a bummer even if he wasn't the one.

[verycontrary247]

Jun 21, 2015 17:34:32 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

I'm sorry you are feeling down. I hope this doesn't come across wrong, but maybe you are feeling really bad because you had hope that one day you would want the same things. Try not to think about it as "how am I going to find someone like him again?" because you will be disappointed. Maybe you will find someone that is super fun AND wants the same things as you.

Hugs and hair pats!

You're probably right here. I don't think I expected him to change his mind about kids, I just wonder If I'd ever change mine.

It's a little discouraging. Of all the people I've met through online dating that seemed great on paper and turned out to be complete misses, then I randomly have a chance meeting with this guy that's leagues ahead of everyone else. How many of those moments do you get?

[LoveBug]

I'm sorry. I would feel sad as well.

[bl]

I'm sorry you're feeling down. I am sure with a bit of time and the distance it will hurt just a bit less. I truly believe there are so many "right" guys out there for each of us, and maybe now you will be more open to being able to find another one and maybe he will match with you in the ways that this guy didn't.

[riverpestie]

HUGSS!

[jojoandleo]

I'm sorry. It's always hard, even when you know DEEP DOWN it would not have worked out in the long run. And I understand feeling like you will never find that again, but you will. There are BILLIONS of people in the world. There is someone you will click with like this who won't have so many "except for" issues.

In the long run, this will probably be the best thing for you. As long as he was available, you were not going to look for someone who DID want what you wanted. Without realizing it, I am sure you closed yourself off to other prospects. Once you mourn this and move on, I bet you will open up and realize how many prospects there actually are.

[glitzyglow]

I'm sorry you are feeling down. I think Jojo made a really great point, though. Hope you are feeling better soon!