I can't understand why you would go to the expense and trouble of building a custom house and then make it look exactly like every other new house built from 2008-2015.
Didn't you read?! Other people's friendly advice on her pregnancy she took as medical advice and therefore they caused her to get HELLP, which has many contributing factors and isn't predictable, but in her case was caused by others around her giving her advice. Duh?!
With all that empty yard they planted a tree right in the middle of the line of sight of their front door? There's another thing that's going to make her uterus hurt in a few years.
My Feng Shui friend would freak the fuck out at this.
I read this as, "My Feng Shui friend would fuck the shit out of this." and laughed so loud... until I read again. I like my version better.
Didn't you read?! Other people's friendly advice on her pregnancy she took as medical advice and therefore they caused her to get HELLP, which has many contributing factors and isn't predictable, but in her case was caused by others around her giving her advice. Duh?!
Didn't you read?! Other people's friendly advice on her pregnancy she took as medical advice and therefore they caused her to get HELLP, which has many contributing factors and isn't predictable, but in her case was caused by others around her giving her advice. Duh?!
I hope like hell she finds her way back here. We need to have a chat.
I'm sure she's getting a ton of traffic since she got that blip of a mention on the Today show. But I'm still clicking the link to her blog a few extra times just for the sake of hoping she's obsessive about her analytics.
AndPlusAlso... can I be pissed that there are real people who are struggling and house/rent poor every month who raise beautiful, non-material, loving kids in their homes and they don't get paid for a stupid blog rant that they wrote as they sit at home and watch their kids from their Keurig-dispensed coffee haze over the granite counters?!
We prioritize, stick to our plans, and are teaching our young children about self-control by living as their example.
am I the only one who finds the bolded... odd?
I dunno. I have young children and often think about the things I'm teaching them, and the example I'm setting to them, and I've NEVER once thought about teaching them about self-control.
Post by mominatrix on Jun 30, 2015 10:56:14 GMT -5
Also, I know a couple of people who are this planning-obsessed.
One, a woman who I went to college with, planned her life to the extent that she (at the age of like 20 or 21) had decided when she would birth children. She had it ALL laid out. When they'd buy starter house. When dream house. Where vacations. When retirement. Where retirement. ALL.OF.IT. While still in college.
When I see her or hear from her (blissfully rarely) she doesn't seem happy with anything except how well she's stuck to plan. It's like the plan has become the raison d'etre for her whole life.
Didn't you read?! Other people's friendly advice on her pregnancy she took as medical advice and therefore they caused her to get HELLP, which has many contributing factors and isn't predictable, but in her case was caused by others around her giving her advice. Duh?!
She certainly is a victim.
I'm glad to see she is making such a brave choice.
We prioritize, stick to our plans, and are teaching our young children about self-control by living as their example.
am I the only one who finds the bolded... odd?
I dunno. I have young children and often think about the things I'm teaching them, and the example I'm setting to them, and I've NEVER once thought about teaching them about self-control.
Maybe that means I'm out-of-control, who knows.
I found it odd, only in that she seems to be teaching them that being satisfied or even coping with less than what they have (which is upper-middle class by description) is somehow taboo.
Kids do need to be taught self-control (otherwise they grow up thinking their id is the shiz when it's not), but I don't think she's got the right handle on how she is/isn't teaching them.
I dunno. I have young children and often think about the things I'm teaching them, and the example I'm setting to them, and I've NEVER once thought about teaching them about self-control.
Maybe that means I'm out-of-control, who knows.
I found it odd, only in that she seems to be teaching them that being satisfied or even coping with less than what they have (which is upper-middle class by description) is somehow taboo.
Kids do need to be taught self-control (otherwise they grow up thinking their id is the shiz when it's not), but I don't think she's got the right handle on how she is/isn't teaching them.
thanks.
yeah, kids do need self-control, ITA. And we work on teaching that.
I guess the issue in this for me was about how she's setting herself up as this shining example of self-control because she bought used clothes for a year so she could buy a mcmansion.
...and, my guess is that she'd say that the poors really do need to learn more self control so they can have mcmansions of their very own. Like, they did it with nobody "gifting" them a down payment and by eating canned foods and YOU CAN TOO. It's that easy.
Like, the way she phrased this makes me think her definition is a bit off. Like how teenagers are obsessed with whether or not something is "mature"...
Post by mominatrix on Jun 30, 2015 11:17:17 GMT -5
If I had a sense that she (and her H) came from being REALLY poor (not Nest-poor) and she and a mcmansion really was this kind of actual dream, and they had lived with privation and scrimped to have a house like that... yeah, I could go there with her.
But I don't get that sense from her at all. The sense I get is that she's privileged and doesn't really know how privileged she is.
I found it odd, only in that she seems to be teaching them that being satisfied or even coping with less than what they have (which is upper-middle class by description) is somehow taboo.
Kids do need to be taught self-control (otherwise they grow up thinking their id is the shiz when it's not), but I don't think she's got the right handle on how she is/isn't teaching them.
thanks.
yeah, kids do need self-control, ITA. And we work on teaching that.
I guess the issue in this for me was about how she's setting herself up as this shining example of self-control because she bought used clothes for a year so she could buy a mcmansion.
...and, my guess is that she'd say that the poors really do need to learn more self control so they can have mcmansions of their very own. Like, they did it with nobody "gifting" them a down payment and by eating canned foods and YOU CAN TOO. It's that easy.
Like, the way she phrased this makes me think her definition is a bit off. Like how teenagers are obsessed with whether or not something is "mature"...
Yeah, you and I are on the same page there. I think her definition of "self-control" is skewed if she thinks the only appropriate reward for actual self-control is big-house-SAHM-custom-playroom-timeshare. To me, that's why it came off as "eh?"
She supposedly came within arm's length of dying in childbirth and she discovered that what's most important in life is....a big house??
OK. The stupid house thing I can ha-ha at because she's just basic. But THIS? Makes me rage. Eating food does not give someone HELLP Syndrome. What the fuck. Stupid ass bitch.
Didn't you read?! Other people's friendly advice on her pregnancy she took as medical advice and therefore they caused her to get HELLP, which has many contributing factors and isn't predictable, but in her case was caused by others around her giving her advice. Duh?!
One hypothesis for the cause of HELLP is that a woman's body is reacting to her husband's sperm/DNA as a foreign object and reacts to that like an organ rejection.
She should have taken everyone's advice to suck a dick more often, which I'm sure is advice she gets all the time. Probably would have staved off the HELLP.
Did anyone else find it weird that they'd apparently have to downsize to have a 3rd kid? What, is the luxury dream house a freakin basementless 3 bedroom?
If I had a sense that she (and her H) came from being REALLY poor (not Nest-poor) and she and a mcmansion really was this kind of actual dream, and they had lived with privation and scrimped to have a house like that... yeah, I could go there with her.
But I don't get that sense from her at all. The sense I get is that she's privileged and doesn't really know how privileged she is.
In fact, she says herself that she grew up in a 'privileged' part of New Jersey.
Which is where the whole "and nobody even gave us the down payment money!! Can you believe that???" part comes in.
Like, the way she phrased this makes me think her definition is a bit off. Like how teenagers are obsessed with whether or not something is "mature"...
This also applies to her claims that they planned the house purchase "meticulously." If they didn't make a contingency plan for the sole breadwinner losing his job, then they did not plan this well at all.