So, what's going on with you?

[bl]

sweetchix hugs, no judgement, and if things don't get better soon please take steps to talk to someone. Yay for the 4th party though!

Work: I am in a good place at work, but I am kind of bored out of my mind. Our main office is in Dallas where all my peers and boss are. It's a double edge sword because I get to run my team with minimal oversight and make manager level decisions which is great for my advancement opportunities, but I am also very out of sight out of mind. My boss will meet with my peers, or they will all discuss something and just forget to loop me in. I will work on projects for my boss and have them done, but have to wait weeks to present them to her. I get the feeling that she is checked out which isn't really helping me any. I do a good job, get recognition, and enjoy my job for the most part, so I shouldn't complain.

Friends and Family: My mom is doing much better which is a HUGE relief for me. I think me and my friend from Dallas are finally starting to navigate the long distance friendship, my friend from Nebraska and I are closer than ever. I am starting to feel like I have a good network of girls down here that I really adore and can see being in my life for the long haul. We prioritize time for each other which I really appreciate. One of my friends moved back to Dallas a week ago and I do miss her a ton.

Personal/Love: I have got a much better routine of healthy eating down, so I am super proud of that, but exercise is something I am struggling to make time for. I found a new biking partner (my other one is the friend that moved back to Dallas), so next weekend we will start long rides which will help. Sex life has been great, but love life not so much. I am happy because I think I have 2 fwb worked out now. I always want to take a break from dating, but not a break from sex. I am torn because a part of me doesn't really want to actively date right now, but I also don't love the idea of not having someone to spend my 30th bday with. On the other hand it might be amazing to have some kind of friend bash type thing and be single for my 30th. I haven't been single on my bday since I was 17.

[stephreloaded]

Jul 2, 2015 9:21:38 GMT -5 jigsy said:

Love - pssht. I've gone on some dates from online dudes, but nothing has been great yet. Yesterday, I finally deleted Vegas from my life...texts, contacts, FB, all of it. I have a few dates lined up this weekend.

I need to do this every single time. I am not the type of person who can be in contact with an ex and hope that the feelings go away on its own. I HAVE to delete and block all phone numbers and stop contact with the person so I can move on. 

[kaal337]

Updates on me:

Work: is slow and boring. So boring I cleaned my office from top to bottom.

Personal and love life: this past weekend I went to the beach to see the bf ( I call him OP). Had a great time. We went out to dinner every night, played miniature golf, walked the boardwalk and spent the day on the beach and pool bar. The only negative thing is when I ask him what he wants to do he says what ever I want to do. I wish he would just make the decisions. Next weekend is my sisters wedding so he will be coming back home and meeting the family for the first time. VERY NERVOUS. He is not the typical guy that I date not sure how my mother will take it.

Looking forward to my friends big 4th of July party on Friday night. Best party of the year!

[doriswe]

Hiiiiii!

Life: Things are like 98% chill and 2% not cool, overall. DD is driving (holy hell!) and DS is being more independent (and is almost as tall as me!). XH has been pushing for "true 50/50" custody, which seems to equal "I don't want to pay you child support." He claims to be seeing an attorney today because I won't agree with him about shared placement. It makes me sick to my stomach to do this with him again. DS is super anxious about things, which is why I'm holding my ground on leaving things alone.

Been focusing on diet/exercise and lost 6 pounds in the last month. Training for the Tough Mudder in September (followed by a 26 obstacle mud run 6 days later). Working a part-time job on the weekends.

Love: lmfao...I'm pretty much given up on dating! I had two good dates (a month ago?). One was lined up for a second date (day picked out already), he text a few days prior to ask how my week had been going. I responded. He never responded back. Ever. I've been crazy busy with things anyway, so I'm not really missing that nonsense.

Still scheduling sex with J, which continues to be a fun distraction.

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I have to say, a tag with "What's going on with you?" put me on the defensive. LOL. Glad it was just an update request.

[Deleted]

I wasn't tagged but I'll play anyway.

Work is going ok. I'm 3 months into my new job and I like it a lot when I'm busy. I have a lot less structure/more down time than I'd prefer, though, so some weeks I'm really bored (like this week). But I think that will change a lot in the fall. I work at a university and summer is just not as busy as the rest of the year so it was probably not ideal to start working just before summer started.

Love - not much has changed there, which is a good thing. BF is just the best and things are going very well on that front. We just opened a joint checking account for bills/common expenses which feels like a nice step together. We're going on vacation in a week and I'm so excited to spend the entire week together, just the two of us. Every trip we've taken so far has been either to visit someone, go to a wedding, travel with family, etc so I'm excited to have him all to myself.

Life/health - things are pretty good there too. I feel overall pretty content and happy with my life. Which makes me think something bad is going to happen lol. But I feel like I've had a decent balance of seeing friends/family and doing my own thing so far this year. I recently joined WW and I'm trying to get back into a routine for working out (and BF is too, so I have a gym buddy!). I've weighed in for 3 weeks in a row now and lost 4.6 lbs since my first weigh in, so I'm feeling pretty good about that. I feel like this is a program I may actually be able to stick to (since I can still drink beer and order takeout, just not every day!). I'm actually really excited to lose some weight vs feeling like it's something I "should" do, so I hope I can stick with it.

[boing]

I'll play.
Work- today is my last day at my old job. It was weird jumping back and forth between them so I'm excited to start my new job permanently on Monday. However, the computer use is strictly monitored, which means no more GBCN. No more Facebook. It's going to be hard going from such a lax environment to one where I'm accountable for clocking in and staying the full shift and not using the computer or my cell phone, but I'm looking forward to having responsibility. Having money is going to be nice, too! I have major work guilt about old job, though, because it looks like they may lose my position. I assured them that I've made everything at this desk way faster (I made everything electronic, used to be a lot of manual paperwork) and that it's not going to hurt them. I also made them a how-to binder on every little thing that I do. I know I'm going to cry at my goodbye lunch so that should assuage some guilt lol

Love - I think J and I have decided not to have a wedding, which is a huge stress reliever even though it was still a year away, and instead we have two music festivals on our radar for this year. He wants to elope, or go on a cruise and get married at one of the ports. I'm cool with that. I'm in no hurry, either. Things with us have been really great lately and I'm happy the way they are! We bought our first piece of furniture together this weekend, a huge sectional couch. So nice to have an adult couch!

ETA Health- still terrible. Still trying to lose the exact same weight since January. Something is not clicking with my motivation and I need to straighten it out and soon.

[redredwine]

I don't update on there much, but I guess that's because my life is rather mundane IMO.
Work was super duper stressful April-May, as well as frustrating with a new boss & very high expecations. It's calmed down a bit work-wise and boss wise. I just had my yearly review and had some great feedback, as well as things I should work on. Hoping to be ready to move up by next year at this time. I'll probably be going to Asia and somewhere unknown (maybe S.America?) between Jan-March, so worth hanging out for a bit.

had a great time with @pdx18 this past weekend at a wedding! I was SO NERVOUS to shoot my friends wedding (I get nervous before every wedding!), but I nailed it (with help of a great second shooter). I'm actually swamped with photography work this summer and I'm amazed at how I've grown within a year. My small business is small, but man, it's fun!

N and I are great. we're both really busy and sometimes frustrated with work, and homeownership, and being grown ups, but there's no one else I'd rather go through it with. It hit me yesterday that next month will be FIVE years since XH and I split. I can't believe it.

[DirtySouth]

I haven't been around in months, but want to play.

In December I took a girls trip to NYC.

In February I went on a solo vacation to Miami, and it was wonderful.

In June I took my son on a week long vacation to Washington DC and we had a blast.

In August I'm having gastric bypass surgery and I absolutely can't wait!! I'll be starting therapy pretty soon because it's going to be hard and I have a lot of changes ahead.

I just booked another girls trip to Philly to attend the Running of the Santas in December.

My next 18 months or so will be really focused on getting healthy.

[alleinesein]

Jul 2, 2015 9:18:03 GMT -5 winecat said:

Jul 2, 2015 2:55:16 GMT -5 alleinesein said:

I've been feeding a feral kitty thats been hanging out in the yard. Its a little orange kitty but I still dont know if its male or female. At least the kitty doesn't run away anymore when I go out to put food in the bowl.

Please trap it.  You can usually borrow a live trap from a shelter, animal control, feral cat group.  If s/he is young enough, it can be socialized.  If it isn't it will be spayed/neutered and returned.  If you want to PM me where you live, I'll look for a good group who might be able to help guide you.

Thank you for feeding the little kitten.

There is a reason why we have 10 cats in our house!  8 of them were strays that we took in.  Our neighborhood seems to be a dumping ground for unwanted cats.  

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((sweetchix))

[winecat]

Jul 2, 2015 14:47:54 GMT -5 alleinesein said:

Jul 2, 2015 9:18:03 GMT -5 winecat said:

Please trap it.  You can usually borrow a live trap from a shelter, animal control, feral cat group.  If s/he is young enough, it can be socialized.  If it isn't it will be spayed/neutered and returned.  If you want to PM me where you live, I'll look for a good group who might be able to help guide you.

Thank you for feeding the little kitten.

There is a reason why we have 10 cats in our house!  8 of them were strays that we took in.  Our neighborhood seems to be a dumping ground for unwanted cats.  

You're good people, as they say.    

[abcdefu]

Hey ladies!

I don't have much to update. I'm setting up my mobility evaluation. I have to get one done per my insurance before I can get my new chair. I just really want my independence and my life back.

Once I get my health in check, I am considering signing up for Match or something. I think it will be really good for me to get back to normalcy and social life.

[jojoandleo]

Okay:

VEGAS! It was a BLAST! BLAST! Friday, we got drunk on the flight, then went bar hopping. I danced my ass off just at random bars. Didn't pay for shit. Had some guy give me gambling money to sit next to him "for good luck." LOL. We went back to the ENORMOUS hotel. Seriously. Two bedrooms, three bathrooms, living room, kitchen area, dining room. I proceeded to do drunk Yoga and have the bruises to prove it to get ready for the pool the next day. (because that's how it works, and all...) Woke up at 7 am Saturday. Birthday friend and I ordered room service, then said fuck it and went to the pool at 9am. We had a cabana and a HOT cabana boy. We ended up with bottle services. It was a BLAST! Made friends with randoms at the pool. Stayed until 3. Then, I took a nap until, like 6. We ordered room service again and then started getting ready. GIRLS PARTY! Whoop! Drank, danced, did each other's makeup, so much fun. The club was just okay. bottle service was cool and all, buuuuut, meh. We weren't on the dancefloor as much. I looked good though. I went with the two piece I thought made me look fat because the yellow one piece was just TOO short and you could see my underwear through it. I wasn't going commando in that short of a dress.

I am going to leave off telling you what happened with my divorcing friend because...ugh.

Work: Fucking hate it. Need a new job.

Love life: I don't even know anymore. I love MH, but I sometimes feel like he doesn't even like ME very much. I don't know how to fix it. I feel like I have been working this past year when he told me how he was feeling and it will be fine, then bad, then fine, then bad. But it never feels like HE is working. So, I have pretty much decided I am going to make myself happy and hope it works out.

[Deleted]

Life is good!
Work is great, June was another record month for me in sales and I'm running over 100% increase every month over last year! I have an intern which is rocking! Nice to have help to make me coffee and stuff haha

I've slowed down on the house decorating, 2 rooms left that have nothing at all in them so I'm going to start planning the design. It's overwhelming to start from scratch!

My dr lowered my dosage on the drug that caused my rapid weight increase. (30 lbs in a year). It's been 2 weeks. I'VE LOST 8 POUNDS!!! Nice to lose weight and have the validation that it was the drug that caused the weight gain.

I finished season 3 of OITNB so I need something new to watch.
I miss my son but try not to think about it. He's been with his dad for like a month. He'll be home in 2 weeks.

I'm dating here and there but haven't met anyone special in a while. Fortunately there are a lot of fish in the sea.

[glitzyglow]

Guys, anyone is welcome to post. I was just peer pressuring some people to get this started, lol!

sweetchix, we all make mistakes but make sure you are putting you and your health first.

It's so good to hear from you all!

[achase123]

jojoandleo-Vegas sounds sooooo fun!

mp-I love your work outfit you posted on Facebook.

boing-I could understand not having a wedding. Even if they're small they seem stressful!

Update on me;

Work is going amazing. My coworker and I had a six month "check in" to see how much progress we've made on goals we established in January. We're totally rocking. Them! Then we did a 1 year, 3 year and five year plan. Coolest thing is what she wants to do totally lines up with me. She wants more time out of the office to travel with her fam; work remotely. I want to be in the office making as much as possible and really Hands on. If we expand our team this will work well! I'm soooo excited!

P is good we are still seeing the counselor. xh has dropped off of contact quite a bit. Rumor is he's very tweaked out and porn obsessed. Neither of which surprises me. No cs this month which is fine. Just makes him look worse in court. We go back to court for return from mediation one week from Monday.

BF and I are awesome...it will be eight months that we've been together next week. We've been talking more about the future. We could both see getting engaged within the next year if things keep going well! We still have yet to get In a fight. He's really mellow so he balances me out. He's also really good around P and really conscious of what his role would be with him (trying to establish a relationship without replacing his dad or moving too quickly). P and him really like eachother which is fantastic. My family loves him too so I'm grateful for that. All in all its a very good thing!

[Eureka1984]

Love: I want to get back into a relationship. I decided to get back into the game on Match but I haven't gotten anything. I'm trying to remain hopeful but it's hard and makes me feel down and out. I'm trying new outlets with Meetup and the gym but men around here are just as picky as girls.

Work: I got a new job over the summer working as a secretary which is completely opposite from Education. I'm actually thinking about staying. I'm sick of being underpaid and and under appreciated. This job is nice but extremely different so that's why I've been away. My bosses are good and do appreciate everything I do. They told me they see big things for me which is a huge blessing.

[redshoejune]

Work is too busy and I always feel like I'm failing at something, but I've gotten better at leaving it at the office and doing other things at home.

My kids are good, but I miss them so much this weekend. I didn't have them at all Memorial Day weekend and I don't have them at all this weekend and I'm so lonely! I don't have anything else to do/no friends or parties or anything going on and all of the 4th activities are so family oriented I alternate between wanting to get out and wanting to hide.

I have been kicking ass at yard work this weekend so far and I'm really sore.

I found out that X has a girlfriend and that he introduced the kids to her after only a few weeks without telling me. Want to kill him. Also has made me pretty depressed this week even though I don't want him and am not ready to date yet. Makes me feel even worse about being so lonely knowing that he has someone to spend time with.

[katieido]

It took a year, but i have filed finally. My daughter had a planned week visiting with his family this week so he wont be served until she is home. Just a waiting game now. I'm relieved to have that part underway.