This place has me so paranoid about being "gift grabby" that I didn't even want to put registry information in with the invitations.
The latest thing in proper gratitude is to wear a hairshirt to your shower (belted, natch), and blindly donate everything to charity. Unless it was selected with care or handmade. Then you should make a small shrine to the giver in your living room. Or backyard grotto if you happen to have one.
Post by killercupcake on Jul 6, 2015 15:59:21 GMT -5
1: The sister requested the cash. Maybe it was at the bride's request, but who cares? Every "What should I get this person" thread here is answered with "Cash." 2: They don't need anything, so I don't think it's a big deal because even with a damn registry, we got shit we didn't need or want. The cash would've been better. I ended up with 3 of the same Pyrex set because nobody could be bothered to look at the damn thing. THAT'S ANNOYING. 3: Cash is so much easier.
I don't begrudge the girl her shower, but it does seem odd to have people watch her open a bunch of envelopes. That being said, I would still go and just bring her cash but it is kind of strange.
Maybe she'll just...drink mimosas and NOT ACTUALLY OPEN ANYTHING.
Fyi, should I ever marry again ain't none of you bitches invited to my shower.
Maybe she wanted a shower because she wanted to celebrate a life event with friends? Maybe her sister wanted to dp something nice for her?
God. What a FAMILY OF FREAKS.
I didn't even HAVE a shower and I think half of you are off your rockers.
Like....a wedding reception?
I don't begrudge the girl her shower, but it does seem odd to have people watch her open a bunch of envelopes. That being said, I would still go and just bring her cash but it is kind of strange.
Where did the invite say that they would be opening a bunch of envelopes?
I've been to several showers without gift/envelope openings. If/when I have any kind of shower in the future I don't plan to open anything because guests usually hate that part anyway!
Obviously you can't assume anything, but when people are anticipating getting a lot of cards there is usually a card box with no opening of envelopes during the event.
Post by snipsnsnails on Jul 6, 2015 16:06:05 GMT -5
Huh, I've only ever been to showers where the intent was to open the gifts. I mean, we eat finger foods and play a game or two, but the main thing is opening the gifts. I'm out of touch. Heh.
So many times we've heard people here complain about how bored they are watching someone open gifts at a party. And now there is offense taken if there is no gift opening planned?
ML, you fickle little whore.
Nah, no offense, I've just never been to any other sort of shower before. Like I said, I'm out of touch!
Where I live, this would be weird. Having a shower where gifts aren't opened just isn't done. Bringing only cash gifts to showers is also not done.
But, I would be OK with it. Maybe this is the norm in her circle. Or maybe she is trying to make it the norm! I wouldn't care, but I do see where people are coming from who find this odd.
OP, I would just bring a check. Or, I did like your idea of finding out where they are honeymooning (if they are going on one) and buying them something for that. I would have loved a free dinner on our HM or something similar.
So many times we've heard people here complain about how bored they are watching someone open gifts at a party. And now there is offense taken if there is no gift opening planned?
ML, you fickle little whore.
Right?
Along with "What should I give this person?" "Cash."
Two days later: "This person asked for cash!" "The nerve!"
Yes the gift opening is the worst part of showers anyway. Especially for the bride or pregnant person, but also for the guests.. Will she like what I bought? omg I bought the same thing she just opened. Nooo. Never mind the poor soul frantically taking notes
Post by alexithymia on Jul 6, 2015 16:27:07 GMT -5
I guess I don't understand why asking for cash instead of gifts gets so much hate. If I was to give a gift to a couple, I'd hate to know that they were selling it on Craigslist or that it went straight to Goodwill because I insisted on buying them crap they specifically asked me not to.
You also never know if they might be hurting financially and could really use the cash and the extra junk lying around really would be of no use to them.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Jul 6, 2015 16:31:56 GMT -5
So instead of being "showered" with gifts, she wants to be showered with dollar dollar bills.
Okay then.
Ugh.
Emily Post is cringing. My guess is that the bride didn't want the shower, because they don't feel they need anything, but the family wanted one bad enough that they somehow thought this would be the compromise. Cash at a shower just seems squicky. I'd probably do what someone else suggested, get a gift card and tape it to a nice bottle of Champagne and call it good.
My favorite gifts from my wedding were cash/checks. So much better than the lame candy dishes someone bought us. I will never forget the money givers! They hold a special place in my heart almost 10yrs later.
If you absolutely must do a gift card of some sort then grab one of those visa gift cards.
Post by mariafromnj on Jul 6, 2015 17:32:30 GMT -5
I don't like "Give me Cash" showers. If you have everything you need and just want a party than don't register and tell people you just want to get together and celebrate and gifts aren't needed.
I have gotten 2 invites like that for older more settled brides. Some people brought nice bottles of wine or alcohol, gift cards or gave cash but no one walked around thinking the bride was having a party just for cash.
The problem with cash is that you open the envelope and know exactly what is spent. Some times people don't have a lot of money. They can get creative with their gif for use a coupon so it doesn't show the exact amount but more the thought when the gift is opened. In this situation
The problem with cash is that you open the envelope and know exactly what is spent. Some times people don't have a lot of money. They can get creative with their gif for use a coupon so it doesn't show the exact amount but more the thought when the gift is opened. In this situation
Wait, is everyone at the showers you go to making mental notes and judging how much everyone spent? That's way, way worse than asking for cash.
I doubt they are going to open all the envelopes at the shower and announce the amount everyone gave.
The problem with cash is that you open the envelope and know exactly what is spent. Some times people don't have a lot of money. They can get creative with their gif for use a coupon so it doesn't show the exact amount but more the thought when the gift is opened. In this situation
Wait, is everyone at the showers you go to making mental notes and judging how much everyone spent? That's way, way worse than asking for cash.
I doubt they are going to open all the envelopes at the shower and announce the amount everyone gave.
No not the other guests, the person whose party it is. Maybe someone really cares for them and wants to get them something special but doesn't have a lot of money so they can get creative with a gift to show they care. If is it cash then the money they have is all they can give and it won't look special when every other envelope will contain the same or more.
I don't begrudge the girl her shower, but it does seem odd to have people watch her open a bunch of envelopes. That being said, I would still go and just bring her cash but it is kind of strange.
Maybe she'll just...drink mimosas and NOT ACTUALLY OPEN ANYTHING.
Fyi, should I ever marry again ain't none of you bitches invited to my shower.
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