Last night I was at a LLL meeting and was talking to a leader (who is also a nurse) there about DS2's spitting up as it seems to be getting worse. I also mentioned that he projectile vomited yesterday and that a few days ago his belly button popped out. She recommended I take him to the pedi urgent care. The doctor there is concerned he might have pyloric stenosis. So we have to watch for more projectile vomiting and take him to the ER if he does. And, luckily, his belly button is a benign hernia that will go away.
This morning DS1 was touching his calves and said "Mommy they're just like yours!" I said, yes, I have legs, too. He clarified, "No, mommy they're scratchy like yours!" Thanks kid. I guess I should shave my legs today.
This morning DS1 was touching his calves and said "Mommy they're just like yours!" I said, yes, I have legs, too. He clarified, "No, mommy they're scratchy like yours!" Thanks kid. I guess I should shave my legs today.
I love this.
S's latest thing is when I'm getting dressed in the morning to point at my crotch and laugh. He doesn't do this to H. I'm guessing he either finds my lack of penis hilarious or my hair there looks funnier than H's cause it's more drastic.
Last night B said that two of the boys at his summer camp completely stripped down in the bathroom. Nothing else, just that they got completely naked. But that the teachers didn't know. So we got to have a conversation about that.
My older brother had pyloric stenosis. I have nothing else useful to add besides *hugs* Brother ended up fine. Just has a scar on his belly from the surgery...and they do it laproscopicly (that's spelled so wrong that spellcheck can't help me...) now so much smaller scar. So worst case scenario is scary because baby surgery is scary, but it has a great prognosis!
Shorti had a fever for the past two days. I was trying to "work from home" with her. Which is totally possible when she's actually sick since she just wants to lay on the couch and doze and watch TV, but when she just has a mystery toddler fever for no good reason it was IMPOSSIBLE. I also wanted to strangle her by the end of the day yesterday. FB friends saw my Free Baby post. I couldn't even get her to just chill and watch TV so I could have a quick conference call...she decided that at that exact moment what she REALLY needed was to snuggle. And then she needed her cup. And maybe some cheerios. Oh, and markers. Oh, and MAMA I WATCH THE CARS! (which means she wanted to see one of my traffic simulation programs run on the computer) My team got a good laugh at that one. Every time I tried to use my computer (after getting her set up with crayons or a snack or whatever) she'd run over and try to hit buttons/watch the cars/slam it shut and if I gave up on that and tried to just mark up some reports she'd come snatch my pen or knock my pile off the table.
And then the buddy balls incident. (for non FB people - she was opening the pantry cabinet and asking for buddy balls and had been for a good 20 minutes. I have NO IDEA what buddy balls are. She couldn't point to them. She specified that she wanted them in her orange cup, but had no more details to offer me) I still can't figure out what she wanted. I have never been so happy to see MH before though because I was about to break down and just start crying with her.
Last night I was at a LLL meeting and was talking to a leader (who is also a nurse) there about DS2's spitting up as it seems to be getting worse. I also mentioned that he projectile vomited yesterday and that a few days ago his belly button popped out. She recommended I take him to the pedi urgent care. The doctor there is concerned he might have pyloric stenosis. So we have to watch for more projectile vomiting and take him to the ER if he does. And, luckily, his belly button is a benign hernia that will go away.
This morning DS1 was touching his calves and said "Mommy they're just like yours!" I said, yes, I have legs, too. He clarified, "No, mommy they're scratchy like yours!" Thanks kid. I guess I should shave my legs today.
my step-bro's son had that. he was fine within a few days of the surgery. it's scary but totally takecareable.
i'm tired and making up words. you're welcome, internet.
Last night I was at a LLL meeting and was talking to a leader (who is also a nurse) there about DS2's spitting up as it seems to be getting worse. I also mentioned that he projectile vomited yesterday and that a few days ago his belly button popped out. She recommended I take him to the pedi urgent care. The doctor there is concerned he might have pyloric stenosis. So we have to watch for more projectile vomiting and take him to the ER if he does. And, luckily, his belly button is a benign hernia that will go away.
This morning DS1 was touching his calves and said "Mommy they're just like yours!" I said, yes, I have legs, too. He clarified, "No, mommy they're scratchy like yours!" Thanks kid. I guess I should shave my legs today.
my step-bro's son had that. he was fine within a few days of the surgery. it's scary but totally takecareable.
i'm tired and making up words. you're welcome, internet.
The nurse at the urgent care also had a son that just had the surgery, too. I'm glad that it's easily taken care of.
DD was at theater camp the past two weeks. Their performance is today. They wrote their own scripts, designed costumes and sets, and will be acting/singing. It will probably be a painful, yet adorable show.
At said camp, there is a 7 yo girl with her own cell phone. DD has been nagging since day one for her own which is not going to happen. Last night at dinner she starts talking about SnapChat. I ask where she heard about that, she told me the 7yo with the phone has SnapChat! At first I didn't judge the parents, she is at camp for 3 hours maybe they gave her their phone. I can see a some senerios where a 7yo needs a phone, but SnapChat . No, I am judging you.
9w4d with #2. Feeling so-so, but eager to be done with first tri. I would love to hear success stories of people simultaneously handling an infant and a young child during the shitty witching hours, which of course coincide with dinner, bath, and bed for older kid. Especially doing it solo.
Congratulations! I usually just popped the baby in the Baby K'Tan carrier and she either slept or nursed while I did things like that. The rock and play was also a godsend. Highly recommend it. She slept in that a lot too while I cooked or gave the older kid a bath.
In other news, we found out last night that my oldest has a new allergy. Sumac! At least it's a lot easier to avoid than shellfish. We were declared allergy free for a year and a half up until I served dinner last night. Le sigh.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
DS has strep, and now I suspect dd has it too. DS is fine when he's sick - just lays on the couch and watches tv. But dd is at the age (13 months) where TV is of no interest and so she just whines all day instead. I need a caffeine drip and a nap.
C is definitely in a phase lately, and it isn't fun. He's acting up at daycare with being handsy and not listening to the teachers. They suspect that he's just bored, now that he's one of the oldest in the class and just ready to leave daycare for kindergarten. I can get that, but I'd still want him to behave well. He's also obsessed with getting 'stuff'--toys, food, whatever. Every time we go out we remind him we're not getting toys, waiting for his birthdya in August. But we still get a non-stop "can I get a toy/lollipop/game/etc" and a meltdown when we stick to our guns. We treated him to Chuck E Cheese, and had to leave carrying him out screaming because he only had 230 points and wanted something that was 600. I didn't get this behavior in public as a toddler, so I guess we're paying for it now
Also, DH watches the news in the mornings. Yesterday, C saw a photo of Cosby--"Mommy, who is that man, is he dead." No kiddo, he's in trouble, he's not a nice man. "What did he do" He hurt people. "Oh." Was very relived I didn't have to go into details on that one...
So Scarlett has been sleeping in our room from like midnight on for over a year now. Probably almost 2 years. 99% of the time, it was not an issue because she would come in, crawl in the twin bed we had set up for her on the floor and we didn't wake up and she was getting plenty of sleep. This summer, it has all gone to hell. I don't know if it's because we are generally still awake when she comes in now, if she's overtired because she's been going to bed later due to Jackson's football practices, or if this is what I deserve for not doing anything about it sooner. I think the general issue is that if we're awake when she comes in, we often just let her get in our bed and one of us goes and sleeps in her bed. So now the small bed and not waking us up isn't good enough and she wants to sleep with at least one of us and when she comes in and we're asleep, she becomes hysterical if she can't get in bed with me, which is a problem because a) I don't want to be awakened by a screeching banshee and b) I don't want to give into one but when I am woken up from a dead sleep I feel like I just want to make it stop and go back to sleep. Last night though, I woke up about 5 minutes into her shrieking with MH telling her no. Just last week, we made a deal with her that I would lay down with her for awhile as she fell asleep and then when she came in our room, I'd give her a hug and then she'd get in the little bed. But it's not enough I guess, because despite it working for a week she decided she absolutely did not want to be in the little bed.
So she's throwing a fit and I am exhausted, MH is also exhausted, and Scarlett is exhausted because she couldn't fall asleep last night and was throwing fits at bedtime. She's apparently terrified of her fan - MH thinks she is legitimately scared of the shadows it makes with her nightlight. So we took down the blades at bedtime last night and are going to get her a new light fixture. She apparently thinks the blades are a giant spider. It was a powder keg that ended up in like an hour of her shrieking hysterically, us telling her she needed to stop, and trying to hold the line on her not getting into our bed. We get her back in her bed, she seems to go to sleep and has calmed down but not 30 minutes later she's back in our room and at this point I am just like fuck it. I can't deal with this and I still feel like I was run over by a truck this morning.
I just don't know what to do. I absolutely don't mind her being in our room; it doesn't disrupt anything if she just comes in and goes to sleep. But it's like because we've been inconsistent about that, it's all gone to hell. She definitely understands what she's supposed to do - she's almost 5. I seriously can't take anymore broken sleep and dealing with a shrieking, hysterical 5yo, but I also don't think we should just give into it.
9w4d with #2. Feeling so-so, but eager to be done with first tri. I would love to hear success stories of people simultaneously handling an infant and a young child during the shitty witching hours, which of course coincide with dinner, bath, and bed for older kid. Especially doing it solo.
Congrats! That's so awesome.
I second the sling idea. The swing and the bouncer were a total miss for us when it came to DS. I'll admit I've blocked out a lot of that particular time, but from what I remember it was, put baby down for last nap of the day and do any dinner prep I could then, feed DS when he woke up, then give dinner to DD around 5ish. We did bath time for baby after dinner. Then H came home and most of the time he would handle bath and bed for DD, while I gave baby a feeding and rocked him to sleep.
On nights that I had the kids by myself, I would let DD watch a cartoon, read quietly in her room, or play on the ipad while I did bedtime with DS, then I'd finish up in her room. Baths were hit or miss on those nights. Sometimes running through the sprinkler counted as a bath.
I also started instituting regular evening dance parties around this time. I would just be so worn out and cranky, and when both kids are cranky it was awful. So when I'd start to lose my cool I'd throw on some music and we would dance around in the family room like crazy people. The bouncing usually kept the baby content, and DD and I would feel a little better. Evening walks during this time were also a go to solution, either right before or after dinner. Bedtime was very much based on how much I could handle at any given moment. Most nights bedtime was 7-7:30pm, but if 6pm came around and I was done, bedtime was moved up. Kids definitely ended up in bed by 6:30pm some(many?) nights. It's better to have an early bedtime then to end up on the news. Also wine, so much wine.
9w4d with #2. Feeling so-so, but eager to be done with first tri. I would love to hear success stories of people simultaneously handling an infant and a young child during the shitty witching hours, which of course coincide with dinner, bath, and bed for older kid. Especially doing it solo.
I either wear DS2 or put him in the swing. I also have a bouncer I move from room to room.
9w4d with #2. Feeling so-so, but eager to be done with first tri. I would love to hear success stories of people simultaneously handling an infant and a young child during the shitty witching hours, which of course coincide with dinner, bath, and bed for older kid. Especially doing it solo.
You are sneaky!!! You are about a week ahead of me!!!!
DD has been our worst sleeper.. she still gets up 1 million times per night, and I just bring her to bed with us after the first wake up. Last night the first wake up was 10:30- 30 minutes after I got in bed- so I was really gearing up for a terrible night- and then I woke up at 4:40 with DS2 crying and throwing up. So she did a really good stretch! Maybe I can see light at the end of this sleep deprived tunnel!!! DS2 is totally fine now, so I don't know what the throwing up was about.
Please excuse me while I bitch about my SIL and in the process feel like a terrible human being.
My niece had an allergic reaction to some sort of protein bar last week. The entire time we saw them this weekend all SIL did was complain about not wanting a kid with food allergies and how difficult it is going to be to pay attention to everything and how vigilant she is going to have to be.
Meanwhile I have no sympathy because this is the same person who volunteered to make macaroni and cheese for the kids to eat at Christmas and randomly put eggs in it knowing full well that M is allergic to them and then didn't say a thing to me when we were feeding the kids. My sister had to sprint across the room and pull M's plate away and tell me that she had seen eggs be added to the Mac and cheese. It never would have occured to me to ask because who the eff puts egg in macaroni and cheese? Especially when one of the five people it is being made for will end up in the hospital as a result? And says nothing?
It never would have occured to me to ask because who the eff puts egg in macaroni and cheese? Especially when one of the five people it is being made for will end up in the hospital as a result? And says nothing?
@dontcallmeshirley1 - Super congrats! I hope your pregnancy goes smoothly.
eclaires - Ruined sleep for weeks? That sucks, hope you get a nap today or a break tonight and she sleeps great.
On Sunday my youngest got mad and passed out again. He was eating crackers when his cousins and brothers closed the door to a room and said, "No babies here!" That's all it took for him to loose it after about a month and a half of no episodes. Luckily I got to him quickly and could sweep his throat for food before he passed out, but I did freak out everyone since I calmly yelled for my DH to "Get your phone to call 911 b/c I don't know if he inhaled any of that food when he started so if I have to do CPR, I want them here quick." It sucks b/c I stay calm in the moment and reassure him to breathe again, but I hate seeing my baby (well 2.5 yr old) turn blue and struggle for a few minutes. I feel more and more anxiety about leaving him alone, even for a few minutes, in case it happens when I'm not close. For some reason he was really tired today when I dropped him at daycamp and now I'm worried that he is going to do it at school.
Oh, also - I had to take Shorti with me to my midwife appointment yesterday. Which means she got to watch me pee in a cup.
And then was CONVINCED that it was a cup full of apple juice that I was just withholding from her for no good reason.
Luckily she's used to my withholding juice for no good reason, so she didn't freak out. She did keep asking though. Just in case I changed my mind about giving her the cup of juice. *sigh*
Sending us both good thoughts this time for a successful pregnancy.
How many apts have you had at this point?
How are you feeling?
Any thoughts: boy or girl?
I had a few early betas and one quick scan at 5 weeks, which only showed the sac. My first big appt was at 7ish weeks, which showed me measuring a few days ahead, but we're keeping the same due date. Feeling okay, but there really is a new set of challenges doing this with a young child. I'm mostly freaking out about logistics of the next year when I know we can handle them. I keep thinking boy, which would be something different, but another girl would be easier in terms of a few logistics.
What about you?
I've had two apts so far. I'm scheduling another for next week because I'm freaking out. My constant nausea dissipated. Probably normal but with a loss under my belt I'm anxious. At the last apt I was measuring 5 days behind which the NP thought was well in the range of normal especially since my cycles run 30-32 days. I woundn't be surprised if my due date changes (officially Feb. 24th). It could be a leap year baby!! I think everything will be okay with two. I think it's harder to go from 0 to 1 than 1 to 2. But I'm just telling myself these things to sleep well at night. I have no idea what this one is. I would pick girl if I could pick so that means probably boy. That's what I'm preparing myself for.
My DS2 is getting a tonsillectomy either next week or the following week. Hopefully next week so it doesn't completely jack up our return to korea in August. He's my crabby, stubborn kid so I'm a little scared what his recovery will look like. @majorwife was it really bad?
downtoearth--That's so scary. Has the doctor said anything?
Yes and no. Doc reassures me that some kids just do this, breath-holding spells, and has done some extra review of his heart and blood work to reassure us that we just have a willful kid who doesn't have a brain that can regulate breathing and being mad at the same time. I guess it's not common, but not a cause for alarm. All we can do is wait until his brain grows and can regulate - I guess by 7 or 8 it shouldn't happen again, but it could be sooner. He's done this since he was just before a year old. I think it just is worse as he gets a larger lung capacity b/c it takes longer and he gets trembles when it happens in his hands. I feel bad for him and it adds a level of stress, but we can't give into his every whim, I can't tell the other kids to tiptoe around him (or the dog, he once did it when our dog took a stick from him), and they aren't always related to the same upsetting issue.
wawa I can't picture a leek in your belly...like is the kid just reclined and stretching out? Isn't there another rounded vegetable that your fetus resembles better?
We're still in the er. They did an ultrasound and now we're waiting for the doctor to review his scans. But they won't let me feed him. So my boobs and two month old aren't very happy right now.
downtoearth--That's so scary. Has the doctor said anything?
Yes and no. Doc reassures me that some kids just do this, breath-holding spells, and has done some extra review of his heart and blood work to reassure us that we just have a willful kid who doesn't have a brain that can regulate breathing and being mad at the same time. I guess it's not common, but not a cause for alarm. All we can do is wait until his brain grows and can regulate - I guess by 7 or 8 it shouldn't happen again, but it could be sooner. He's done this since he was just before a year old. I think it just is worse as he gets a larger lung capacity b/c it takes longer and he gets trembles when it happens in his hands. I feel bad for him and it adds a level of stress, but we can't give into his every whim, I can't tell the other kids to tiptoe around him (or the dog, he once did it when our dog took a stick from him), and they aren't always related to the same upsetting issue.
wawa I can't picture a leek in your belly...like is the kid just reclined and stretching out? Isn't there another rounded vegetable that your fetus resembles better?
You know, it seems all wrong to me too at first, but given how often he streeeeeeeetches out in there and it feels like his feet are about to just pop right through my belly, it seems about right. Because there is no way a whole leek would fit in my belly, and yup. He doesn' tfit. It's true. I feel like labor pains would be a welcome pain at this point (at least at first) because it'd mean that I'd stop feeling like I'm being beat up from the inside.
Next week I get back into gourds.
As long as I don't have to go here again (I spent 2 weeks with a picture very similar to this as my sig with Shorti):
I was inspired by the time mominatrix had the moon as her sig when she went late with #2.