Monday Randoms

[bl]

I flew back super early yesterday with the thought that I would still have my whole Sunday to get stuff done. I did nothing .  I need to go to the grocery store tonight and get back on the workout train.

[winecat]

I really need to make yoga a priority, especially on the days that I'm not working. I've found it is a great way to stop those negative thoughts and I see other people!

[mommadukes]

i only have a 4 day work week this week. looking forward to being off on Wednesday. I do have to save my days for the fall/winter since my DD is starting kindergarten and need to be prepared to take days off for holidays/sickness

still hungover from my fun/kidless weekend. not sure if I can keep up this much fun lol

[pantsoffdanceoff]

I had another expensive weekend revamping my wardrobe.

I didn't go to sleep until close to midnight last night and I woke up at 4:30 this morning to go to Bar tonight. I hope I'm able to be charming tonight for my date.

[Deleted]

I am totally exhausted lately. Which is ridiculous because I shouldn't be. All I've done is sleep lately. I hoping to get myself back on a healthy eating and exercise routine this week so hopefully that will help.

Lifetime Movie network has some good movies on today while I'm working on banging out a fundraising plan. It's fairly mindless work. Later I might go hang out with a friend who has Mondays off. Tomorrow I'm going to go see Aerosmith with thejen626. I can't wait!

[Deleted]

The weekends always fly by so quickly. We went to a baseball game yesterday and didn't accomplish much else afterwards other than making burgers and knocking back a few beers. Which means I'm dragging a little today. I NEED to go to the pharmacy and grocery store on my way home from work later. Sometimes it's nice to pass by after work to shop because it's not super crowded, but sometimes I just wanna run home and plop on the couch! Lol.

[achase123]

P is sick today so I'm working remotely and GBCN. I saw my grid (where we see our commissions) this morning and I'm fine for the month so I'm not overly concerned about it. He's feeling better now so I may go back in for the afternoon if he goes awhile and still feels better. I wish he would take a nap because it seems like the kid never takes a break.

BF and I had a really good talk last night about not letting our pasts get too much in the way of our future. It's a fine line between being cautious about things because of what we went through and letting bad past relationships affect ours. I feel like things are going really well; although I tend to get impatient. I'm trying to realize that if it's the right thing it will happen during the right time. He said "I wish I would've married you first" (he was married before for a short time) so that was super sweet.

[redredwine]

Jul 27, 2015 12:44:09 GMT -5 mp said:

It's my birthday week. and I hate it. I am turning 30. I was super excited to spend it with trivia guy... And now I pretty much just want to crawl in a hole.

I have struggled with my birthday the last few years. It sucks. I just want someone who knows the future to tell me that I won't be alone forever. Logically that sounds silly... But I really don't know if I will find anyone and it sucks.

I'm sorry lady. You have so much going for you, you have lots to look forward to!

If it's any help, my 30's have been by FAR my favorite decade. I feel like I'm so much more comfortable in my skin and learning what's really important. Relationships aside, I've dug my 30's.

[redredwine]

I'm going through a big work identity crisis. I have a boss who makes me feel like I'm rarely ever good enough, like I drop the ball on everything and I'm filled with a new kind of stress where at least once a week I'm on the verge of tears. As whole, I love what I do. I've worked so hard to get here, my job has great perks but dammit, is it worth this kind of stress? I always said I never wanted to go into photography full time (I own a small side business) but it's looking more appealing. The thing is I can't afford to leave my job and I feel like it would not be logical to do it anyway. I just wish I COULD do photography full time and not have to worry about A.not making enough and B.letting myself down/saying "goodbye" to a career I've always wanted. I also don't want the stress of having to rely solely on photography full time-I don't want to end up hating the thing I love.

It's just a mid-career crisis.

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redredwine that sucks and is so stressful. Could you do what you do at one of the other companies in town? It sounds like it's more of cultural (i.e. boss) thing and not the nature of the job. Also I fully support you going into photography full time, but I don't want you to hate it:).

[jojoandleo]

Jul 27, 2015 12:57:54 GMT -5 redredwine said:

I'm going through a big work identity crisis. I have a boss who makes me feel like I'm rarely ever good enough, like I drop the ball on everything and I'm filled with a new kind of stress where at least once a week I'm on the verge of tears. As whole, I love what I do. I've worked so hard to get here, my job has great perks but dammit, is it worth this kind of stress?

This is where I am. And a year and a half in, I have to say, no. No it is not. I LOVE being an attorney. I do. But waking up every morning feeling sick to my stomach is not worth it.

Speaking of which, I have an interview tomorrow and I am SO NERVOUS! I just want to get out of this job.

In other news, we just had a 4.0 earthquake. My building swayed (I'm on the 11th floor). It was not fun. But, ya know, fraking TOTALLY does NOT cause earthquakes signed-the oil and gas industry.

[glitzyglow]

Jul 27, 2015 13:01:22 GMT -5 mp said:

Jul 27, 2015 12:55:50 GMT -5 TR said:

It doesn't sound silly. I remember saying that about TTC after my miscarriages. I was like I don't care if it takes awhile if I just knew that it WOULD happen. And a friend of mine at dinner last night was like "It's not fair that I want a husband and not kids. If I wanted a kid, I could make that happen. I have no control over the husband thing." She wasn't interested in my mail order husband idea.

If I knew it would take five years... I'd be ok. Because I'd know it was worth waiting for.

I KNOW I am pretty kickass. I've worked really hard in being healthy and having a full life. I really feel like the only thing that's missing is a partner. And no, I don't feel I am needy or need to work more on me - it's just tiring when I can get whatever job I want if I work hArd... It's all such a logical process. Love is not logical and that's hard for me to be at peace with sometimes.

This isn't to say I don't feel my life has purpose as a single person, or that i am not whole and complete on my own. Just I feel my life is made better with someone. And that I am a pretty awesome girlfriend.

To be fair to myself, I'm not sulking and crying a lot right now. I'm doing a great job moving forward and taking care of myself. Just... Struggling still

You nailed exactly how I've been feeling with my frustrations in love and dating. I wish it were logical so I could process it more easily, but that's not how it goes unfortunately for my brain/heart.

On the birthday front, I'm not too far behind you on hitting 30 (t-minus 62 days) and I completely understand how you are feeling. I try to do things on my birthday to celebrate me now, as it used to be the anniversary of exH and I. I know I am going to have a blast on my trip, but I also know I would trade it in a heartbeat to have a meaningful relationship with a partner. I think I'm good at being single, but it's been 3.5 years of singledom. I'd like to remember what it's like to be in a relationship and actually feel the feels. I'm trying to be hopeful about love in my 30s, but sometimes it feels like I am just setting myself up for the nothingness that is my current dating life.

/end brain dump

mp...
 

[glitzyglow]

In other randoms, I am about to do my makeup and go do something to get out of the house. I need some eye cream, so I may go to my old retail job to buy some. A TopShop just opened that I want to check out as well, and then I plan to tempt the fates and go in Target and "look around," lol. Maybe World Market, too.

[Deleted]

Can I join the rest of you feeling blah about dating? I'm tired of pretty much being the only single person I know. And 5 years later I'm just like WHERE IS HE? But at the same time I'm totally burnt out on dating. I have lots of cuties interested on Tinder, but I'd rather just hang out with my friends honestly. I decided to stop seeing a guy who was pretty much only interested in sex and kind of boring. I really only get super bummed when my friends are all busy with their significant others. Or when things like wanting to go on a vacation or weekend away come up. I've pretty much given up any hope of finding someone at this point.

[bl]

mp and glitzyglow I can relate on the bday thing. I will be 30 in 36 days and have been struggling too. This will be the first bday I have been single since I was 16. I actually know spending the time with friends and not having a guy to tie the memories to for the first time in my life is probably a good thing, but that doesn't mean it's easy. I am just hoping this bday with friends will be awesome. I also agree on the dating not being logical frustration. I tend to try to make a logical argument for everything and I just don't have one for dating and like mp said it's not like I can work any harder to make something happen like I can at work or working out or whatever else.

jojoandleo lots of thoughts for a great interview

redredwine My opinion is usually no it's not worth the stress, unless there is a light at the end of the tunnel or a specific reason that is causing you stress that will end soon. If this is just how it is going to be, I say try and get out. I genuinely believe that we should be happy at work, it doesn't have to be puppies and rainbows all the time because that's a fantasy, but the good should outweigh the bad. We spend too much time to feel that bad, to me it is similar to being in a bad relationship, just not worth it.

[redredwine]

Jul 27, 2015 13:11:19 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

redredwine that sucks and is so stressful. Could you do what you do at one of the other companies in town? It sounds like it's more of cultural (i.e. boss) thing and not the nature of the job. Also I fully support you going into photography full time, but I don't want you to hate it:).

It's crossed my mind to look elsewhere, but I feel like it would be stupid to leave at hte same time (yes, I could always come back). I've had 3 bosses in a year and a half and this is the most nit-picky one by far, so I know it's more the boss vs. the job though the job is grinding, too. 

I would have to make like double what I make now if I do photography full time because of what gets eaten away after taxes, etc. (well, I'd have to supplement with a part time job somewhere else) That's unfathomable to me. I'd good, but I'm not THAT good yet. ANd I'd have to give up m y weekends during late spring through early fall for wedding season, as that's where the $$ is., 

[formerlyak]

Jul 27, 2015 12:44:09 GMT -5 mp said:

It's my birthday week. and I hate it. I am turning 30. I was super excited to spend it with trivia guy... And now I pretty much just want to crawl in a hole.

I have struggled with my birthday the last few years. It sucks. I just want someone who knows the future to tell me that I won't be alone forever. Logically that sounds silly... But I really don't know if I will find anyone and it sucks.

It's my birthday week, too. I am turning 40! YIKES! When did I get this old?

Happy birthday, mp!

[bg]

As of right now the class I start teaching today is still on even though enrollment is super low. I'm nervous and excited -- I hope it will go well. I didn't get up and run this morning and I think it would have helped get rid of some nervous energy!

Positive thoughts to everyone who needs them with work, or relationships, or life in general!

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redredwine, that is a crappy feeling. I hope things get better. Maybe this boss will move on soon! I had one like that and then she quit. Best day of my life hahaha.

[pantsoffdanceoff]

I'm getting really nervous about my date tonight. I spend too much time worrying that they guy won't like me or think I'm pretty enough or if he will think I'm too chubby and I don't even worry about whether *I'm* interested in him. I do however know that he will think I'm nice because I'm charming as fuck!

[sweetchix]

mp, I hear you on the birthday thing. I will be 40 next year and am sad to think that I may not have a special someone in my life to celebrate a benchmark bday with.

I am a bit confused by M. She is being friendly with WG again, almost as if nothing happened. I'm still pretty pissed about the whole thing. I don't see me being angry with him forever, but come on! It's only been 3 weeks!! I'm not sure how to feel about this.

ETA: I called my OBGYN and all the culture tests came back negative. YAY! Now I just need to get the bloodwork done, although I donated blood a week and a half ago and would have heard something from them by now if the blood tests came back with anything.

[redredwine]

Jul 27, 2015 14:35:06 GMT -5 mp said:

Jul 27, 2015 14:31:04 GMT -5 redredwine said:

It's crossed my mind to look elsewhere, but I feel like it would be stupid to leave at hte same time (yes, I could always come back). I've had 3 bosses in a year and a half and this is the most nit-picky one by far, so I know it's more the boss vs. the job though the job is grinding, too. 

I would have to make like double what I make now if I do photography full time because of what gets eaten away after taxes, etc. (well, I'd have to supplement with a part time job somewhere else) That's unfathomable to me. I'd good, but I'm not THAT good yet. ANd I'd have to give up m y weekends during late spring through early fall for wedding season, as that's where the $$ is., 

And the Debbie downer in me says - ️Photography will only get progressively more difficult to make a living doing, for most people.

I would not make photography a full time gig, unless you have a solid plan and expectation that it will work. (Note- I am a pessimist on this topic and it's not to say some people won't make it work despite the downturn of the market.)

No, totally. Especially having it as a part time gig, I realize it's WAY unrealistic to have as a full time gig. While I adore it, it's not very profitable (unless you get into commercial work, from my understanding, but I have no desire to go that route)
I think I just have to get through this rough patch. 
It's just fun to day dream and also makes me appreciate having a balance of working for myself and working for "the man"

[1confused1]

I just had to ask my attorney to set up a payment plan to pay off my balance :-(

Fuck you xh and your refusal to pay daycare or child support. I'm drowning here.

[dreamcrisp1]

Well, if it makes you guys feel better, my cousin is 32 and single and still lives at home. Well, actually... I am the only one to move out of my parents house out of almost all my cousins excluding 2. Lol. You guys are in a much better place in life!!!!

BF's best friend got engaged last week. There are three of them that grew up together and now 2 are engaged. It's too soon but I kind of wish it was our turn soon.

[riverpestie]

I want to buy one of these watches and I can't decide on which face to purchase. I like the ones that say "Beagle Freedom Project" but I also like the black and white paw print one.
THEN I have to decide on which face color to buy.
modifywatches.com/collections/beagle-freedom-project?utm_source=collaboration&utm_medium=multi&utm_campaign=beaglefreedomproject

[jojoandleo]

I am sorry for all the dating struggles. This stuff is all such a crap shoot! It's about finding 1-the right person 2- at the right time and 3- at the right place (both physically and mentally/emotionally). I meant, I believe there are multiple right people, but still. It's rough. And it sucks.

bl-thank you! I am so nervous about it. I feel like I might throw up. I am not really good at interviews. Like, when they are all "Tell me about yourself?" I know it's bad to say, "Well, I like to go out and drink too much on the weekends with my girlfriends." right? But, like, what do I say? I'm married with two dogs and love to do something work related on my time off (which is a total lie, unless following the SCOTUS blog counts)? GAH!

[achase123]

I've definitely felt the dating struggle thing before. I think the most important thing is to not beat yourself up for feeling like that. It's ok and it does suck; big time. If I didn't feel like dating I didn't date. A lot of times I was in periods where it just wasn't something I was into. Something I did awhile back that was kind of cool (at the suggestion of my counselor) was make a vision board where I put down everything I'd want in a partner. I used a secret board on Pinterest and it was really fun. But there were other times when I didn't want to even put energy into that area at all.

For me, I love looking forward to things for business like my weekly conference call/book club. There are four of us and we pick different books that are about empowering yourself to be better in business and it's been so inspiring. We started off with "Think and Grow Rich" and have done a few others like "Daring Greatly" by Brene Brown. It's nice to have something really empowering like that to look forward to every week. I also go (when I can) to a ladies potluck night every Tuesday evening.

[bl]

jojoandleo I've lucked out that I have interviewed hundreds of people in my career, so I just steal all the best answers I hear and personalize them to myself. That being said I still get nervous as hell.

achase123 did you like daring greatly? I am 5% into it because my counselor suggested I read it, but I started something else, then something else and never made it back to it. Should I pick it back up?

[achase123]

Jul 27, 2015 18:30:19 GMT -5 bl said:

jojoandleo I've lucked out that I have interviewed hundreds of people in my career, so I just steal all the best answers I hear and personalize them to myself. That being said I still get nervous as hell.

achase123 did you like daring greatly? I am 5% into it because my counselor suggested I read it, but I started something else, then something else and never made it back to it. Should I pick it back up?

We loved it! And got the workbook to go along with it too.

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My XH is 9 days older than me, so we celebrated our 30th birthdays together. He bought me a nice ring (that I picked out, so I guess we bought it) to celebrate the milestone birthday.

Then 8 months later we split up, and I've sold the ring, and all the pics of my 30th birthday are of the 2 of us together.

So - maybe being single on your 30th isn't a bad thing! Your memories will be YOURS and no one can sour them. My 30s have otherwise brought a lot of fun and positive changes - I think 30 is a great decade!