I haven't read anyone's responses but that's fucking terrible. I can't say I am totally surprised - I work for a very small company and can totally see someone here sending an email like that.
I don't know that you are wrong to quit - only you can know whether you feel comfortable continuing to work there. I hope the new job works out for you and is a better environment than the one you are leaving.
Post by barefootcontessa on Jul 28, 2015 12:02:53 GMT -5
How horribly insensitive, especially given all that you have been through. I agree with keeping the end in mind ... what does telling them achieve? IME the majority of people just get defensive when confronted with a wrongdoing. I hope you find something else quickly. Hugs.
Oh my goodness. I am so sorry that they wrote such hurtful things and that you had to read them
I would tell them why you're quitting. Make them feel like the jerks they are. They should feel awful and apologize to you for being so nasty behind your back, especially when you considered the one boss your friend.
? that is awful. People have a lot of misinformation about miscarriages and opinions about things they have no need to ever share. I'm sorry your bosses are untrustworthy jerks and hope that everything works out with the new job prospect. It would be wise to keep private life separate from work because one never really knows what employers do behind ones back?
My god that is awful. I'm not sure what I would do, I would WANT to burn it down. I'm so sorry that on top of the loss you had to deal with those assholes.
This is obviously very personal to you but I doubt they really have strong feelings about the situation and probably wouldn't see you differently.
I think you need to leave eventually because you don't trust them, but I don't think you needed to leave immediately if it may cause you financial hardship.
I'm sorry this happened to you. Both your loss and your bosses being jerks.
I wouldn't say anything directly to Boss A or Boss B then. About 15 minutes before I left on my last day I would forward the email to the board. For their situational awareness. Hopefully Coworker C will let you know about the fallout. Buddy/buddy relationships only extend so far.
Oh god, that's horrible of them. I'm so sorry I can see why you'd want to tell them on your last day exactly why you're leaving (because they're horrible people who have no idea what they're talking about) or might be inclined to go to the board but given your lack of a true HR department and the fact that A seems to be so buddy buddy with the board, I don't know what good it'd really do.
I'm really sorry you're in this situation. How awful. Have your bosses been jackasses outside of this incident? (not just to you, but in general). If they're reasonable people they might be able to hear your reasoning without getting defensive or blaming you. It's a tough call, but since you know them you might have a read on the situation.
I do think that telling them about the email will do no good because these people are unlikely to change or recognize that they even said anything wrong - well maybe besides the "pretend like you don't know because she told me not to tell you." Even if you go to the board, it may be full of more people who think like these bosses do and that won't get you anywhere, especially since the boss already said last year "don't bother with the board, they're all my BFFs."
I had a male colleague/boss out my pregnancy to the office when asked I told him not to. I was giving him 2 months notice to find someone (it's a 1x/month gig and not easy to find replacements). He told everyone and next month they were all trying to be coy to get it out of me. That really irritated me and made me realize not everyone takes these things as seriously as you or I do. But your situation was way worse. I'm sorry you had to go though such thoughtlessness.
Keep that email chain for sure. Send your self an electronic copy and print it out.
I am outraged on your behalf. I probably would have printed it out, took it into your bosses office with a resignation letter that said "fuck you all, I quit." And this is coming from someone who does work in HR. Their actions and words are beyond not ok.
I am so sorry this happened. What horrible people. I mostly lurk but I know everything you have been through. You are an amazingly strong person and you deserve a better work environment than that. I hope the new job works out for you.