Need advice ASAP

[emma245]

My mom and stepdad are getting a divorce. They got into some kind of altercation on Saturday and my stepdad filed a police report. He called an ex parte hearing and she has been excluded from the residence beginning this weekend.

My question is: I dont want to get too involved. The whole thing is a volatile mess and Ive recovered really well from my divorce. My mom also has the ability to involve me way too much and Im terrified of how much she is going to rely on me. We have a tumultous relationship becuase of her anger issues and I do not want to get involved. But then I feel guilty as an only child that I should help out however I can. I have no idea what to do. What would you ladies do? Im supposed to go away this weekend for a friends bday celebration as well.....

[vikingqueen]

I'd continue on with my plans. Just tell her that you would like to be there for her, but you don't really want to get in the middle of it. You can be her shoulder to cry on without having to know every detail.

[theycallmeliz]

I think thats what friends are for, not daughters.

I would definite do what SueSue suggested. Voice how uncomfortable it makes you feel hearing about the details and ask if she has a close friend that maybe she can vent to.

I do happen to know of this great online forum where she can get advice and vent her frustrations to others.

[stephbfan]

Stay out of it.
My mom has an awful marriage and keeps getting us involved in all her fights. FF 30 years, she hasn't left my dad and we resent him for all the things he has done to her but yet tells us that he is our dad and we need to love him just because of that.

She needs to talk to friends and you mention she has anger issues she really needs to see a therapist for that.