Well I agree with that. But I gave birth outside of the hospital, so my birth plan ideas were pretty much the only option available. ..so a little more likely in that situation
I'm guessing because of the birth center you don't have the issue of a bazillion nurses around too. I wish this was an option for me.
Yeah. The only people there are basically people you hand picked. So your midwife, birth assistant (who you hire personally) and then a doula if you want or student (who you can meet before). They stay with you for the entire birth.
This was me too. No birth plan because I sought out providers whose default was what I wanted
Everything that I had researched said that my doctors AND hospital defaulted to our preferences. It didn't turn out that way, either due to birth circumstances (CS, nicu), the nurses not being on board (?) or maybe even the weather (there was a large snowstorm and all of the nurses were trapped in the hospital with us.. I don't know if this played into it at all). Just putting it out there that even trusting your care providers doesn't mean it will go according to plan. I DO trust my my actual doctors enough to deliver with them (and the same hospital) again. Nurses we don't get to pick, but we will be more proactive this time.
This is a big difference between a small birth center and hospital. I know exactly who will be there.
If for some reason I need to transfer to a hospital we have a plan on how to handle that emergency.
I was really laid back about DS's birth and got very lucky because it went to plan. Our hospital has standard practice for what we want--skin to skin, breastfeed, etc. they don't take baby from you to wash, measure, etc for an hour.
So this time I pretty much feel the same way--let's just go have a baby and hope for the best.
Everything that I had researched said that my doctors AND hospital defaulted to our preferences. It didn't turn out that way, either due to birth circumstances (CS, nicu), the nurses not being on board (?) or maybe even the weather (there was a large snowstorm and all of the nurses were trapped in the hospital with us.. I don't know if this played into it at all). Just putting it out there that even trusting your care providers doesn't mean it will go according to plan. I DO trust my my actual doctors enough to deliver with them (and the same hospital) again. Nurses we don't get to pick, but we will be more proactive this time.
This is a big difference between a small birth center and hospital. I know exactly who will be there.
If for some reason I need to transfer to a hospital we have a plan on how to handle that emergency.
Yeah. A birth center is not an option for everyone though (high risk, location, etc) and I'm still upset enough about L's birth and following that karinothing saying she didn't have one because she trusted her care and location made me feel defensive/upset, even though I know that wasn't her intention..
This is a big difference between a small birth center and hospital. I know exactly who will be there.
If for some reason I need to transfer to a hospital we have a plan on how to handle that emergency.
Yeah. A birth center is not an option for everyone though (high risk, location, etc) and I'm still upset enough about L's birth and following that karinothing saying she didn't have one because she trusted her care and location made me feel defensive/upset, even though I know that wasn't her intention..
Sorry. I certainly didn't mean to upset you. I didn't mean others can't trust their providers, just that I was able to eliminate a lot of "complications" due to my birth location. Sorry again
Not a birth plan per say, but this time I am being clear up from that I am not pushing til I feel ready. Last time they had me push when the nurse said I was 10 cams, turns out I wasn't and it sucked
This is a big difference between a small birth center and hospital. I know exactly who will be there.
If for some reason I need to transfer to a hospital we have a plan on how to handle that emergency.
Yeah. A birth center is not an option for everyone though (high risk, location, etc) and I'm still upset enough about L's birth and following that karinothing saying she didn't have one because she trusted her care and location made me feel defensive/upset, even though I know that wasn't her intention..
I know but I felt like I needed to explain why I didn't need to have plans for nurses I wouldn't know.
And I'm sorry if I implied it was always an option or that you made a bad choice. I'm sorry that you didn't have the birth you wanted and hope that the next one is better for you.
Post by scribellesam on Aug 12, 2015 17:05:09 GMT -5
I didn't really bother with a birth plan for DS2 because my doctors' procedures were all in line with what I had wanted for DS1's birth. Everything I had on my first birth plan, they already did as a matter of course. I was lucky to have two fairly straight forward births though so there was no need for quick decisions about scary stuff like emergency c-sections and etc.
The only major change was that I was 100% Team Epidural the second time around.
I'm guessing because of the birth center you don't have the issue of a bazillion nurses around too. I wish this was an option for me.
Yeah. The only people there are basically people you hand picked. So your midwife, birth assistant (who you hire personally) and then a doula if you want or student (who you can meet before). They stay with you for the entire birth.
This sounds heavenly. I can't find something like this where I live. I think birth centers aren't allowed in my state which is so disappointing.
Yeah. The only people there are basically people you hand picked. So your midwife, birth assistant (who you hire personally) and then a doula if you want or student (who you can meet before). They stay with you for the entire birth.
This sounds heavenly. I can't find something like this where I live. I think birth centers aren't allowed in my state which is so disappointing.
i wanted to go as intervention-free as possible first time around. i ended up having terrible back labor and begged for the epidural and it was wonderful lol.
i would love to have the same "plan" this time. it'd be nice to actually get to use the tub in the labor room and move around while i labor instead of being stuck in the bed. however, if i want the epi, i'll get it and be just as happy.
I had ridiculous back pain with A. It was not what I was expecting at all. My labor with M was so easy in comparison. It took me a long time to admit that I was even in labor at all.
I didn't have any different plans for baby #2. My plan with both kids was an unmedicated hospital birth with my DH and a doula for support. That is what I had both times.
My preference was immediate skin to skin and BFing as soon as possible and that is the hospital's standard practice anyway. I was able to have that with DD. DS had to have his breathing monitored so we really didn't get to hold him/BF until he was an hour old.
I had some other stuff in there like visitor preferences, music and low lighting. Those never came into play with eeither birth since things moved so fast.
humpforfree, a birth center was never an option for me for my two deliveries. I was risked out of qualifying. It is pretty darned near impossible to meet all the req's for the one attached to the hospital where I actually delivered DS.
humpforfree, a birth center was never an option for me for my two deliveries. I was risked out of qualifying. It is pretty darned near impossible to meet all the req's for the one attached to the hospital where I actually delivered DS.
Yeah, I'm high risk due to heart issues so I wouldn't qualify either, plus the only one I found is at least an hour away. Not happening. I did the best I could to find a doctor that met my basic requirements and the hospital they deliver at (the closest one to us) SAYS they do all of the things I wanted. Practice was a different story. Lol.
I had no birth plan with either baby. I told my OB I wanted drugs early and often with my second baby since I had a horrible experience with my epidural not working the first time. Both times I had to have my epidural removed and put it again but that is all I requested.
1. Get baby out 2. Immediate Skin to skin and delayed cord clamping. 3. Try my best to go without drugs
I got my #1 each time and that is it. Both of my deliveries had complications that required immediate NICU attention (meconium present in my broken waters and then shoulder dystocia), which meant #2 never happened. And I can't handle pain, so #3 never happened either.
My hospital has a form to fill out. Even if you didn't fill it out, the nurses went over it with me upon admitting me both times, even though some of my preferences didn't matter a whole lot with DS since he was having heart decels when I was admitted. Both times, they definitely respected and referenced my preferences during L&D when it was possible. It's basically stuff like whether or not you want meds, do you want music on during labor, do you prefer occasional monitoring instead of continuous monitoring if mom and baby are both tolerating labor well, who do you want to cut the cord, etc, but I can send it to you if you want to see a copy for ideas.
Sure I'd love to see it
How are you doing btw? Thinking of you!
YGPM. I'm doing well! Just crazy busy with work crap right now.
My first birth was an induction after my water broke, by an OB I had never met with a terrible nurse who basically ignored me except for jacking up the pitocin every ten minutes for no damned reason. My plan had been med-free and it did not go that way. Had I been more educated or had a doula I believe it would have been different.
Second time I took Bradley classes and planned a home birth. I got everything I hoped for.
Second time around: no students, get the epi earlier and demand the most senior anesthesiologist do it so I didn't end up with a spinal headache again.
So I did have a birth plan with #1 and gave my basic list to the nurses. No one paid attention to it. It was mostly like "skin to skin ASAP", "we will BF", "if it's a boy he will be circumcised". We didn't get to do skin to skin (didn't get to even hold him until the next day- he was in the nicu but it wasn't urgent after delivery, this part still pisses me off), they gave him a bottle in the nursery and didn't tell me why they were doing it or why we couldn't try nursing, and like 10 people asked if he would be circumcised. There were lots of other (really basic/normal?) things that were also ignored. This time I will again have my birth plan with me, but I know more know how to stand up for myself/that I will need to stand up for myself. I'm really hoping that I don't end up with a CS AND a nicu baby again- I think that combination, in addition to being a FTM made it hard for me to know exactly what was going on & what was normal. I think I could take either of those separately this time and deal with the issues. I'm also going to really try and get H on board with being in charge of following through with the birth plan items so I don't have to worry as much about it.
Yeah...like all of this for me too!
i was really frustrated with being on monitors throughout my induced labor even though there was never any fetal distress. I think a midwife is part of my plan next time around
I had a formal birthplan with DS1. Almost none of it happened. With DS2 I didn't have a birthplan besides get an epi immediately. But I birthed at a Baby-Friendly hospital so I knew that the hospital already does what I was wanting so there wasn't a need for a birthplan.
Post by Queen Mamadala on Aug 12, 2015 23:39:50 GMT -5
I planned a med-free hospital birth with my second. My list looked something like this:
Intermittent fetal monitoring Hep lock Ambulation throughout labor Use of the shower Use of my birthing ball and other labor aids Limited VEs Dimmed lights Birth in whatever position felt most comfortable and no directed pushing No uterine stimulants Immediate skin-to-skin Allow for spontaneous delivery of placenta, no controlled traction Delayed cord clamping Delayed first bath
and I think that's it. I pretty much "got" what I wanted. I had a very supportive midwife, my favorite, on duty that night, and awesome nurses. I planned homebirths with the next three.
Reading this thread brought up a lot of feelings about my birth with R. It wasn't bad per se, but it wasn't what I wanted and I didn't feel like I had good communication with my midwife team in the end. the last 24 hours before his birth were a whirlwind of scans, monitors, deciding to induce, transitioning from an out of hospital plan to a medicated in hospital birth... I just felt lost, no one was explaining what was happening or why, but I also didn't ask questions or object.
H was just as naive as me. I'm not sure how he'll feel next time (if there is a next time), but I will likely hire a doula to act as an advocate for me and support for both of us. We really needed a 3rd person to walk through that with us who was there just for us.