A few months ago I complained because my dog was sprayed by a skunk. I need to take that back. Maybe he was only down wind of a spraying. The reason I say this is that last night my girl dog did indeed get sprayed by a skunk. It is the most god awful smell I have ever smelled in my life. It is in the house. I bathed her in the bathtub and I think that was a bad idea. I can't tell if the smell is off of her because I'm pretty sure it is on me. It is definitely still in the house but I can't tell if it's on a particular object. I actually chose to go sleep at my soon to be ex in laws house last night because I couldn't take it. I was in tears.
I don't know what to do aside from burning my house down. I have bowls of vinegar out because the internet tells me it will help. I am burning every candle in my house. I have sprayed every inch down with febreeze. I don't know what else to do. Exorcism? Sell and move?
A few months ago I complained because my dog was sprayed by a skunk. I need to take that back. Maybe he was only down wind of a spraying. The reason I say this is that last night my girl dog did indeed get sprayed by a skunk. It is the most god awful smell I have ever smelled in my life. It is in the house. I bathed her in the bathtub and I think that was a bad idea. I can't tell if the smell is off of her because I'm pretty sure it is on me. It is definitely still in the house but I can't tell if it's on a particular object. I actually chose to go sleep at my soon to be ex in laws house last night because I couldn't take it. I was in tears.
I don't know what to do aside from burning my house down. I have bowls of vinegar out because the internet tells me it will help. I am burning every candle in my house. I have sprayed every inch down with febreeze. I don't know what else to do. Exorcism? Sell and move?
It'll take a while to get out of the house. You can wash your bedding in Nature's Miracle (they actually have a skunk version). Wash anything fabric that came into contact with you or her.
Post by BlondeSpiders on Sept 1, 2015 11:40:11 GMT -5
Had a really awful fight last night with the boyfriend. ? Not nasty so much as just sad. I've always known we were on different political wavelengths and have gone to great trouble to avoid the skirmishes that come with opposite ideologies.
I told him about the story at Auschwitz with the "misters" and showed him a picture. I then went on to marvel at how the powers that be would think this was acceptable, and in what poor taste the decision was made.
He responded that people are way too sensitive, and will look for reasons to be offended. He followed it up with a dig at my liberalism and how it makes me extra sensitive (he apologized sincerely for that later.) He argued that they weren't actually showers, and that's not how the showers actually worked at Auschwitz.
I just came to a stark and sad realization. This man is the kindest, most generous man I've ever known. He will drop anything to help friends or family, and lends money without a second thought. When I tell him, straight up, how his words hurt me, he listens and makes a good faith effort to change the behaviors. And he has, quite a bit. I know he can learn. I can't seem to reconcile this wonderful person with the guy who is politically my opposite. The guy who doesn't believe in privilege, or man-made climate change, or who yells "bootstraps!" (usually to poke at me) when talking about welfare issues or social programs.
We used to have a joke: he'd call me a bleeding heart and I'd say "better a bleeding heart than no heart at all" Eventually he admitted that it made him feel crappy to hear me say it, so I stopped. But all the things I hear him say fall in that heartless "don't give a shit about anyone else" category and it makes me ill. How can on person be so diametrically opposed to himself?
Today is my paperwork anniversary. And I'm heading to see ailing gramma and contentious family. Alone.
I would say send booze, but they think I'm a drunk, so I need to stay sober. Plus, I really do need to stay sober to hold myself together. I've never heard gramma sound so down.
A few months ago I complained because my dog was sprayed by a skunk. I need to take that back. Maybe he was only down wind of a spraying. The reason I say this is that last night my girl dog did indeed get sprayed by a skunk. It is the most god awful smell I have ever smelled in my life. It is in the house. I bathed her in the bathtub and I think that was a bad idea. I can't tell if the smell is off of her because I'm pretty sure it is on me. It is definitely still in the house but I can't tell if it's on a particular object. I actually chose to go sleep at my soon to be ex in laws house last night because I couldn't take it. I was in tears.
I don't know what to do aside from burning my house down. I have bowls of vinegar out because the internet tells me it will help. I am burning every candle in my house. I have sprayed every inch down with febreeze. I don't know what else to do. Exorcism? Sell and move?
It'll take a while to get out of the house. You can wash your bedding in Nature's Miracle (they actually have a skunk version). Wash anything fabric that came into contact with you or her.
I'll go pick that up on my lunch break. Thank you. I feel dumb saying this, but I really didn't know skunk smell could be like this. It is horrible.
Post by eponinepontmercy on Sept 1, 2015 11:53:02 GMT -5
I'm thinking about registering for a 5k in 2.5 weeks. I haven't run more than a mile or 2 in months, and this is a trail run, which I've never done. I have to start somewhere, right?
It benefits a local animal rescue. In addition to the 5k, they have a "Mutt Mile" that DH can do with DD and Hudson.
A few months ago I complained because my dog was sprayed by a skunk. I need to take that back. Maybe he was only down wind of a spraying. The reason I say this is that last night my girl dog did indeed get sprayed by a skunk. It is the most god awful smell I have ever smelled in my life. It is in the house. I bathed her in the bathtub and I think that was a bad idea. I can't tell if the smell is off of her because I'm pretty sure it is on me. It is definitely still in the house but I can't tell if it's on a particular object. I actually chose to go sleep at my soon to be ex in laws house last night because I couldn't take it. I was in tears.
I don't know what to do aside from burning my house down. I have bowls of vinegar out because the internet tells me it will help. I am burning every candle in my house. I have sprayed every inch down with febreeze. I don't know what else to do. Exorcism? Sell and move?
Exorcism sounds reasonable.
I'm sorry. It takes forEVer to air out as I learned during Kali's long love affair with a neighborhood skunk.
Post by meshaliuknits on Sept 1, 2015 11:59:57 GMT -5
I've officially watched Supernatural through season two and I've made inroads into three. I still have until Monday, so maybe I can make four before I have to cull the lot.
I had red, itch bumps on my forearm about an hour ago. There were not there this morning and they are gone now.
I forgot how the morning drags when you roll in before 7am.
I'm sorry sushi. I hope your visit is okay, and grandma perks up a bit, when she sees you.
You are always so encouraging!
So, since you're in nursing school, a little anecdote to show you what may happen. It's a blessing and a curse.
Gramma said she wished I'd be her nurse. Not because I'm better. She has excellent care. But people want someone close. I've been asked to give many shots to friends (lovenox, IF meds, etc). It's an honor, but it's such a responsibility b/c shots hurt regardless, and you don't want to hurt people you love. You'll also get all sorts of weird, personal questions. And people will expect you to have CT or MRI eyes. LOL.
BlondeSpiders: My husband doesn't get that worked up about a lot of things that bother me, or will take a more conservative (usually pro business) stance on some issues. So I understand where you're coming from. I've come to realize over the years that unless it's a terribly egregious story, he doesn't spend the emotional capital getting upset about it. I didn't even bother mentioning the Auschwitz story to him, because his reaction would either be to roll his eyes at the stupidity of the situation, or more than likely to shrug and say that if it helps protect them from liability from a heat stroked tourist than he doesn't really mind that much (he's Jewish if that matters at all). Neither reaction would come close to the disgust that was in a majority of the responses of that thread.
I'm more passionate than he is on a lot of issues, but that doesn't mean that he's unkind or uncaring. I've noticed that if it's an issue that he can actively work on to affect change he's a lot more connected to it, and if he can't than he probably won't get worked up about it. In the end, I know that he's a great man, and he does so many things that make me proud of him.
I guess what I'm trying to say that an alternate viewpoint, and a more conservative stance isn't necessarily indicative of someone who doesn't care. And while it's tricky to negotiate how to debate about it at first, it can work. Hopefully that helps a bit.
Post by cattledogkisses on Sept 1, 2015 12:59:37 GMT -5
The concept of a library "quiet floor" is apparently difficult for some people. If undergrads don't stop being noisy they are going to get aggressively shushed by the grumpy old grad student. If you want to have a conversation with your friend, go downstairs.
Post by eponinepontmercy on Sept 1, 2015 13:06:15 GMT -5
It needs to cool off here, now. I have new leggings and tunics to wear and I want to put my sandals away and start wearing my boots. It's going to be 90 this week into next week.
Had a really awful fight last night with the boyfriend. ? Not nasty so much as just sad. I've always known we were on different political wavelengths and have gone to great trouble to avoid the skirmishes that come with opposite ideologies.
I told him about the story at Auschwitz with the "misters" and showed him a picture. I then went on to marvel at how the powers that be would think this was acceptable, and in what poor taste the decision was made.
He responded that people are way too sensitive, and will look for reasons to be offended. He followed it up with a dig at my liberalism and how it makes me extra sensitive (he apologized sincerely for that later.) He argued that they weren't actually showers, and that's not how the showers actually worked at Auschwitz.
I just came to a stark and sad realization. This man is the kindest, most generous man I've ever known. He will drop anything to help friends or family, and lends money without a second thought. When I tell him, straight up, how his words hurt me, he listens and makes a good faith effort to change the behaviors. And he has, quite a bit. I know he can learn. I can't seem to reconcile this wonderful person with the guy who is politically my opposite. The guy who doesn't believe in privilege, or man-made climate change, or who yells "bootstraps!" (usually to poke at me) when talking about welfare issues or social programs.
We used to have a joke: he'd call me a bleeding heart and I'd say "better a bleeding heart than no heart at all" Eventually he admitted that it made him feel crappy to hear me say it, so I stopped. But all the things I hear him say fall in that heartless "don't give a shit about anyone else" category and it makes me ill. How can on person be so diametrically opposed to himself?
Thanks for letting me vent.
Sad Brittany
Is he diametrically opposed to himself, or is your perception of those with an opposite ideology an overly broad generalization?
Most people in the world are not selfish fuckheads. Most people want a good life for others. There are just different ideas about how you get there.
Your BF can be an amazing, generous, loving considerate person and have opposite political ideology from yours. It doesn't mean he is a bad person.
He sounds a lot like my husband who is much like you have described. The question is, is his way as an individual worth you allowing that someone so close to you sees the world so differently? Can you love and respect him? And does he honestly love and respect you or is he placating you?
I am a buzzkill, per Toledo, because I like to see others treated with respect even if I think their ideas are stupid and I am willing to stand up for them because I can believe they are good people even if I think they are wrong. If you can be that person your relationship could make it. If you can't, you may need a more common foundation from your partner.
Also do you want kids? Raising kids with different values is HARD and takes a LOT of patience, compromise, and restraint from both parties. That honestly sucks.
Anyway sorry if I was only a bigger buzzkill by my response, but basically he sounds like a good person, in spite of his politics.
BlondeSpiders: My husband doesn't get that worked up about a lot of things that bother me, or will take a more conservative (usually pro business) stance on some issues. So I understand where you're coming from. I've come to realize over the years that unless it's a terribly egregious story, he doesn't spend the emotional capital getting upset about it. I didn't even bother mentioning the Auschwitz story to him, because his reaction would either be to roll his eyes at the stupidity of the situation, or more than likely to shrug and say that if it helps protect them from liability from a heat stroked tourist than he doesn't really mind that much (he's Jewish if that matters at all). Neither reaction would come close to the disgust that was in a majority of the responses of that thread.
I'm more passionate than he is on a lot of issues, but that doesn't mean that he's unkind or uncaring. I've noticed that if it's an issue that he can actively work on to affect change he's a lot more connected to it, and if he can't than he probably won't get worked up about it. In the end, I know that he's a great man, and he does so many things that make me proud of him.
I guess what I'm trying to say that an alternate viewpoint, and a more conservative stance isn't necessarily indicative of someone who doesn't care. And while it's tricky to negotiate how to debate about it at first, it can work. Hopefully that helps a bit.
Thank you, for this insight. I think that's my problem; I feel things very deeply and when he doesn't, it seems heartless to me. He is extremely caring in other areas. I just have to avoid certain topics of conversation with him. Occasionally he tries to raise the minimum wage issue with me and I shut that down with a quickness.
Is he diametrically opposed to himself, or is your perception of those with an opposite ideology an overly broad generalization?
Most people in the world are not selfish fuckheads. Most people want a good life for others. There are just different ideas about how you get there.
Your BF can be an amazing, generous, loving considerate person and have opposite political ideology from yours. It doesn't mean he is a bad person.
He sounds a lot like my husband who is much like you have described. The question is, is his way as an individual worth you allowing that someone so close to you sees the world so differently? Can you love and respect him? And does he honestly love and respect you or is he placating you?
I am a buzzkill, per Toledo, because I like to see others treated with respect even if I think their ideas are stupid and I am willing to stand up for them because I can believe they are good people even if I think they are wrong. If you can be that person your relationship could make it. If you can't, you may need a more common foundation from your partner.
Also do you want kids? Raising kids with different values is HARD and takes a LOT of patience, compromise, and restraint from both parties. That honestly sucks.
Anyway sorry if I was only a bigger buzzkill by my response, but basically he sounds like a good person, in spite of his politics.
You're not a buzzkill at all! I hear what you're saying and appreciate it. I guess I just never thought I'd end up with someone whose views differed from my own so much. There are some social issues I'm not willing to budge on, like supporting LGBT protections/ gay marriage and protecting a woman's right to choose. I can't even imagine sleeping with someone who didn't agree with me there. But I guess issues like voter ID laws, immigration, minimum wage raises and welfare are open to interpretation. Every once in a while these conversations will pop up and it's like, "who are you?" After 5 years I thought I knew all of him!
We do talk about getting married someday, but we;re both divorced and not in a rush. No kids for us!
I've officially watched Supernatural through season two and I've made inroads into three. I still have until Monday, so maybe I can make four before I have to cull the lot.
I just finished season 9 on Netflix. Season 10 should be available in Oct. I'm hoping to catch up before Season 11 airs on TV.
On Friday afternoon I noticed I had what looked like a pimple on my eyelid, and it itched like crazy. (Not a stye; but actually on the outside of the lid). Saturday I woke to my eyelid being swollen. Checked with the eye doctor who confirmed it was just allergies, and the eye is fine. Sunday and yesterday I woke to it being swollen completely shut. Fun fun. The whole left side of my face was itching. It's a lot better today. But last night DH commented that it still looks like I have a black eye. Oh dear! I looked, and indeed it looks like a black eye! This wouldn't be an issue I guess except that yesterday I introduced myself to two new neighbors. Didn't remember that the eye was swollen, let alone realise that it looked like an injury.
So today I keep wondering if I should mention to them that my husband doesn't hit me. O.o
Post by Velvetshady on Sept 1, 2015 14:36:13 GMT -5
We're still "in negotiations" with HUD's reps on this house. The last conversation DH had with them included the words conflict of interest, fraud, misrepresentation, and Congressmen. I really don't care at this point, I just want to know if I should be packing or not.
I may need to burn my car to ashes. This morning, on my drive to work, I found a large spider web on the inside front passenger door. Then I saw the spider and holy fvck it was huge. While driving I proceeded to smash it with a child's board book but my skin would not stop crawling the rest of the commute. What if it already had baby spiders in my car?!?!?
Post by oscarnerdjulief on Sept 1, 2015 15:39:41 GMT -5
We had a lockdown today. I successfully completed it; they couldn't get into the room. Yay. It was a lot less stressful since it was during my conf. period, so i was in there by myself.
If they have security cameras hidden in our rooms, I am going to be looking so strange. I didn't trust the knot to hold on the two-by-four, so I was holding the door with all my strength as they went by. (We have a knotted two-by-four that we slip on the door. The thought doesn't escape me that I'd be better off bashing an intruder over the head with the two-by-four rather than betting my life on the holding of a nylon knot.)