In lieu of the therapy I should have after a week staying in a guest suite at a (very nice) retirement community/assisted living/nursing home with genuinely nice people, many of whom I've known my whole life
I'll stay with cell phones: many have them. They even text. What they don't do is turn off the various whistles and beeps with every touch or function. Hell, they probably don't hear them.
LOL!!! FIL was here yesterday and was talking about how he set all these reminders/notifications on his phone and he can't remember what they're for. And his phone makes noises ALL the time.
My vent- that FIL (who has been retired for years) has NO respect for our busy schedules and seems to think we should be available whenever he wants.
Never listening. Ever. I swear I told FIL ten times about Harriet Beecher Stowe...but everytime we passed the museum/house/center, the little statue, or talked about things to do in the area HE STILL WOULDN'T GET IT.
Also, not listening to directions.
Oh and telling me I should go powder myself and use the powder room after exclaiming that I am taking my purse with me (just like his daughter).
There was an elderly couple hanging out in the waiting room of my OB's office this morning. One of them was playing a cell phone game with the sound on completely obvious to the dirty looks being thrown in their direction from oh, everyone.
Post by StrawberryBlondie on Sept 8, 2015 16:07:37 GMT -5
My mom doesn't mute her tablet. And she plays a ton of games. Like candy crush. I never knew how much noise that game makes until she crashed out vacation last month.
The Oldz act like they own Costco and have no problem cutting you off, or almost running you over, blocking whole isles to get free samples, and take no notice of you staring at them or even hear you if you say excuse me.
Never listening. Ever. I swear I told FIL ten times about Harriet Beecher Stowe...but everytime we passed the museum/house/center, the little statue, or talked about things to do in the area HE STILL WOULDN'T GET IT.
Also, not listening to directions.
Oh and telling me I should go powder myself and use the powder room after exclaiming that I am taking my purse with me (just like his daughter).
Though this might be a FIL problem.
If it's an "FIL" problem, then it's all FILs. We're having SUCH AN ISSUE right now w/ FIL and his desire to buy an RV. WILL.NOT.LISTEN
My mom absolutely refuses to join facebook, then pisses and moans that she doesn't see enough pictures of the kids.
Want to see pictures of the kids? Join facebook. Otherwise, it's when I remember to send you pics.
Be careful what you wish for. FIL is on FB and DH will post stuff then his dad will call him 5 minutes later about what he posted. OR DH posted that we got Book of Mormon tickets. His dad called and said "I want to go with you!!".
DH was like "I really need to hide my dad".
BUT FIL is also forgetful so if we don't mention the BOok of Mormon again, hopefully it just won't come up.
My mom absolutely refuses to join facebook, then pisses and moans that she doesn't see enough pictures of the kids.
Want to see pictures of the kids? Join facebook. Otherwise, it's when I remember to send you pics.
We use the Microsoft OneDrive app and upload pictures and then share it with our moms. We still have to move them into a shared folder, but it takes like 2 seconds and keeps my mom from complaining.
My mom absolutely refuses to join facebook, then pisses and moans that she doesn't see enough pictures of the kids.
Want to see pictures of the kids? Join facebook. Otherwise, it's when I remember to send you pics.
Be careful what you wish for. FIL is on FB and DH will post stuff then his dad will call him 5 minutes later about what he posted. OR DH posted that we got Book of Mormon tickets. His dad called and said "I want to go with you!!".
DH was like "I really need to hide my dad".
BUT FIL is also forgetful so if we don't mention the BOok of Mormon again, hopefully it just won't come up.
Or, thanks to Facebook, you find out your dad is a Donald Trump supporter.
Post by StrawberryBlondie on Sept 8, 2015 16:26:02 GMT -5
I have a very dear family friend that comments on every single thing I post on Facebook. Within minutes of me posting it. I think the one thing she didn't comment on lately was my asking for opinions on 3 different restaurants that are not local to her.
She recently went through a photo album I made and liked every single picture. I was walking through Target and my phone would not stop buzzing.
My mom absolutely refuses to join facebook, then pisses and moans that she doesn't see enough pictures of the kids.
Want to see pictures of the kids? Join facebook. Otherwise, it's when I remember to send you pics.
My mom also refuses to join because she thinks predators will find her through her profile and break into her home. She honestly said that. I've told her all about privacy settings, but she doesn't trust me or FB for that matter.
So I finally gave up and just told her my PW so she can log in as me on her computer to see pictures of her grandkids.
Never listening. Ever. I swear I told FIL ten times about Harriet Beecher Stowe...but everytime we passed the museum/house/center, the little statue, or talked about things to do in the area HE STILL WOULDN'T GET IT.
Also, not listening to directions.
Oh and telling me I should go powder myself and use the powder room after exclaiming that I am taking my purse with me (just like his daughter).
Though this might be a FIL problem.
If it's an "FIL" problem, then it's all FILs. We're having SUCH AN ISSUE right now w/ FIL and his desire to buy an RV. WILL.NOT.LISTEN
What is it with the oldz and RVs. MIL keeps talking about getting one. The same woman who will only drive during the day, drives 10 miles under the speed limit, refuses to take the interstate and regularly has to pull over because she "is getting too stressed by how fast the other drivers are going," is convinced that getting an RV to see the country is the way to go. Right after she buys the house on the water (from reply in the oldz and mortgages post). Sigh.
If it's an "FIL" problem, then it's all FILs. We're having SUCH AN ISSUE right now w/ FIL and his desire to buy an RV. WILL.NOT.LISTEN
What is it with the oldz and RVs. MIL keeps talking about getting one. The same woman who will only drive during the day, drives 10 miles under the speed limit, refuses to take the interstate and regularly has to pull over because she "is getting too stressed by how fast the other drivers are going," is convinced that getting an RV to see the country is the way to go. Right after she buys the house on the water (from reply in the oldz and mortgages post). Sigh.
Oh God, we're not alone! He is SO deadset on it. he drove a 3 year old one (which he did only because DH told him to go DRIVE ONE before he BUYS ONE). Didn't like it- it made him nervous, was hard to drive, etc. His "excuse" is that it's just been sitting on a lot and they didn't take care of it. Dude... a new one is still going to be big and drive like a truck!!
Oh, and GET THIS - just yesterday we were walking to breakfast. After we sit down, he tells us how because of his cataracts, if the sun hits his eyes a certain way, he's basically blinded for a few moments. DH was like ' what, huh?" and added that to the list of reasons why GETTING AN RV IS A BAD IDEA!!!!! Or at least now. Get your eyes fixed first.
This is SUCH a thorn in our side right now. We're trying to get him to rent one for a week and really determine if he can handle an RV all by himself. He turns 80 on Monday. He wants to do this "while he still can". Um... dude, that time may have passed....
If it's an "FIL" problem, then it's all FILs. We're having SUCH AN ISSUE right now w/ FIL and his desire to buy an RV. WILL.NOT.LISTEN
What is it with the oldz and RVs. MIL keeps talking about getting one. The same woman who will only drive during the day, drives 10 miles under the speed limit, refuses to take the interstate and regularly has to pull over because she "is getting too stressed by how fast the other drivers are going," is convinced that getting an RV to see the country is the way to go. Right after she buys the house on the water (from reply in the oldz and mortgages post). Sigh.
I wouldn't want to buy one, but I spent my childhood travelling via RV (my parents owned one up until Dad's stroke about 10 years ago). I loved every second of it and have convinced H this is how we should do family trips.
I can't wait to be old and give no shits about anything.
I said this the other night when a woman was walking her dog in her nightie muumuu. Lol
I have to repeat everything with my grandparents, but they are old and hard of hearing. But if I have to hear the same stories again in the next year...
Well, they're not exactly the same. A few new prostitute details have been added to the military and frat stories. Lol
My mom needed to text someone a phone number this weekend. She couldn't figure out how to text numbers on her flip phone. So she wrote down the number, took a picture of it, and texted that to the person.
What is it with the oldz and RVs. MIL keeps talking about getting one. The same woman who will only drive during the day, drives 10 miles under the speed limit, refuses to take the interstate and regularly has to pull over because she "is getting too stressed by how fast the other drivers are going," is convinced that getting an RV to see the country is the way to go. Right after she buys the house on the water (from reply in the oldz and mortgages post). Sigh.
I wouldn't want to buy one, but I spent my childhood travelling via RV (my parents owned one up until Dad's stroke about 10 years ago). I loved every second of it and have convinced H this is how we should do family trips.
I wouldn't want to buy one, but I spent my childhood travelling via RV (my parents owned one up until Dad's stroke about 10 years ago). I loved every second of it and have convinced H this is how we should do family trips.
But by renting it. Not owning.
Can I give you my FILs phone number?
I just saw your post and was like "Uh.... yea. Dude should not be driving an RV."
They're a BUS. BIG GIANT BUS. And will always handle like a goddamned bus, regardless of whether it's an old Pace Arrow that's sitting there or a multi-million dollar luxury Newell stored in climate controlled warehouse.
Speaking of, has he thought thru storage? Where will the thing live when he's not travelling? There's costs associated unless he has access to a large barn or shop or something. This, for me, is the ultimate stumbling block to ownership. I don't want to pay for it. Plus the mechanical maintenance. Ugh. No. For the 2 or 3 times a year we would use it? No.
Driving aside, does he know he'll have to hook up septic/sewer and water? Either at every campground OR at a dumping station? Ain't nobody gonna do it for him. Just sayin'.
FTR, the reason my folks sold theirs is because dad's vision post-stroke was not good. He knew it. Wasn't sure it would improve. So they called it a day and sold. #notallOldz
I just saw your post and was like "Uh.... yea. Dude should not be driving an RV."
They're a BUS. BIG GIANT BUS. And will always handle like a goddamned bus, regardless of whether it's an old Pace Arrow that's sitting there or a multi-million dollar luxury Newell stored in climate controlled warehouse.
Speaking of, has he thought thru storage? Where will the thing live when he's not travelling? There's costs associated unless he has access to a large barn or shop or something. This, for me, is the ultimate stumbling block to ownership. I don't want to pay for it. Plus the mechanical maintenance. Ugh. No. For the 2 or 3 times a year we would use it? No.
Driving aside, does he know he'll have to hook up septic/sewer and water? Either at every campground OR at a dumping station? Ain't nobody gonna do it for him. Just sayin'.
FTR, the reason my folks sold theirs is because dad's vision post-stroke was not good. He knew it. Wasn't sure it would improve. So they called it a day and sold. #notallOldz
He is looking at a smaller RV, so there is that. BUT still. it has a side that slides out, and like you said - hooking up septic, etc. This is why we want him to at least rent first and try it ALL OUT on his own. AND SUPPOSEDLY he wants to be able to tow a car too. LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL for dayz. yeah- trying hooking up another vehicle on your own.
But that's the problem - we strongly suspect that he's dreaming that we'll go on weekend trips with him. DH has been clear that we don't have time and that FIL needs to be able to do this all on his own. But.... that whole listening thing? Um, yeah.
And storage? Ha. His driveway, I suspect. Which unfortunately is allowed in his neighborhood. Well, good in that he won't have to store it elsewhere. BUT still. This just isn't something he's going to be using alot. We know it.
MIL died in January and we think that this is a reaction of sorts- of unfilled dreams that weren't met (he spent the past 15 years basically taking care of her as she got more and more depressed), perhaps. Grief. Anger, even, maybe....