Fess up: have you made any rude comments to parent

[ejpint]

I've asked people (friends) if they were pregnant before they were ready to share. Kind of a rude question.

[ejpint]

Ooh, also, like 10 years ago a co-worker brought her baby into work. I was young and stupid. I commented that her baby had the most perfectly round head, and said, "He must have been a c-section."
WTF, how rude and personal?

[Deleted]

No. I just talk about them behind their back.

[wordtothewise]

Not rude per se, but I have told friends they were at viability when they hit 24 weeks and get really excited for them when they cross the gestational age in which my baby was born. My preemie mom friends have indicated that this isn't appropriate, so I am really trying to cut it out.

[Deleted]

I made a comment to my SILs about the alleged whooping cough outbreak the news people are predicting, and I blamed it on the "stupid anti-vaxers"...only to find out that my SIL has waived a lot of vaccines for her kids. oopsie!

[evynsmama]

We were at a baseball game sans DD and the seats were in the sun and it was a 12 o'clock game so normal kid nap time. There was a lady behind us with a little girl DD's age and a little boy about 5 and the little girl was having a meltdown as she was obviously tired and it was hot. I was totally judging the mom and giving her dirty looks for being there in the first place and then not leaving the seats to cool off and calm down her little girl and possibly get her to fall asleep. Then a few minutes later I heard her on the phone going where are you Suzy is freaking out. I guess the dad was getting drinks and she was waiting for him to get back to sit with the little boy. I felt like such a jerk.

[Deleted]

Not to a parent, but I once asked someone where she wanted to live (school district wise) after she and her H had kids. Turns out they don't plan to have them. Now I realize how presumptuous and invasive a question like that is.

[iheartbanjos]

In my younger years, I have called out 2 friends for not drinking at a party asking them if they were pregnant. Karma paid me back big time for that one!

[pugz]

I am guilty of remarking on the size of babies. I love fat babies, I probably should just keep comments about their weight to myself as I know some parents don't like that.

[chance22010]

I've definitely told women they've popped or dropped or look like they're carrying a boy/girl. I would never say anything more than that.

I spent two days with a friend's one year old the other week and the child was BEYOND a nightmare. I was judging the cr@p out of her parenting style even though another friend (doctor) said the child's behavior was fairly normal. I hope my child doesn't end up that way. FTR he was screaming, kicking (me) and crying about 8 of the 10 hours I was around him. Once he would get exactly what he wanted he would be all smiles otherwise he was absolutely painful to be near. He was a TOTAL tantrum manipulator and mom fell for it every time hook, line and sinker.

I would NEVER judge someone on formula or even comment to someone on their parenting style but I do feel like people can stick some socks on their kid when they're going out in public and make sure they have toys or a snack for their kid to play with if they're in public and going to be waiting. Things like this I think I will always judge but keep to myself.

[DarcyLongfellow]

Before the Nest/Bump taught me it was rude, I would ask people if twins ran in their family. I was just genuinely curious and interested in their kids, but it's a roundabout (and scientifically inaccurate) way of asking if someone had fertility treatments, so I'd never ask that now.

I'm sure I also said, "you've got your hands full!" to people, but now that I know some people hate it I don't say that. It just sort of seemed like a neutral, good natured thing to say if you realized you were staring at a family with a ton of kids. Now, if I say anything, it's usually more along the lines of, "you have a beautiful family!"

[hannamaren]

I always judge in my head. However, I dont think I have ever said anything. I hope.
I do have friends that I think were trying to be helpful,but I felt judged for being inadequate. Things like, "she looks cold" or "I think she is hungry" from good friends trying to help me if she was crying.

[bronxgirl]

I can't think of anything rude I said to anyone, but I made plenty of jusgmental comments about someone's parenting before I had kids. I said stuff like that b/c I was jealous. Now I have a kid so I'm happy and don't need to judge others.

[cherry1111]

Probably asking people when they were going to have kids. After the trouble we went through to get a viable pregnancy I completely realize how that can sting when someone asks while you are struggling to conceive. Now I don't ask anything about anyone's reproductive plans.

[Deleted]

A few things that I didn't realize at the time or were literal word vomit. When I was 14 I asked my cousin's wife when they would be having kids....at her wedding. At my wedding my pregnant sister tried to have champagne and I was all like "no you can't." And then last summer I accidentally told a weird pregnancy complication story about one friend of mine to a random acquaintance. Total word vomit that last time.

[Deleted]

I once asked a woman when she was due and she was irate with me. Apparently she had already given birth. I was about 21 and didn't realize you could still have a pregnant belly after delivery. She was a sullen mess after that. I mean I get it, but it's not like I asked an overweight woman when she was due. The lady JUST had a baby.

The socks one really irritates me. Some babies will not wear f'ing socks. At a certain point you stop bothering as all you do is leave a trail of socks all over town. If it's hot out and the baby isn't walking, WTF do you care if a kid has socks on?

[raylongivens]

I judge a woman I work with all the time in my head. Her daughter is 2, and she has never, ever said one nice thing about her. She just complains about her all the time, and everything she complains about is typical toddler behavior.

The one time I almost said something, she told me a story about sleeptraining her 4 month old. I, personally, think it's too young, but I had an awesome sleeper and thought, "Maybe she's just in survival mode and can't take it anymore." Then she told me that 2 days in a row, she let her 4 month old scream FOR 2 HOURS and refused to enter her room. When she finally did, she found the baby covered, "head to toe" were her words, in vomit and feces. And she was laughing really hard when she told me the story.

I couldn't say anything, because I would have cried. So I just looked at her like this :-|

Oh, and she's pregnant, due any day with her second.

[statlerwaldorf]

I started some drama recently on a mom to mom selling group about an expired car seat.

I used to be way too nosy about other people's ttc plans.

[bronxgirl]

Aug 21, 2012 16:41:09 GMT -5 chance22010 said:

I've definitely told women they've popped or dropped or look like they're carrying a boy/girl. I would never say anything more than that.

I spent two days with a friend's one year old the other week and the child was BEYOND a nightmare. I was judging the cr@p out of her parenting style even though another friend (doctor) said the child's behavior was fairly normal. I hope my child doesn't end up that way. FTR he was screaming, kicking (me) and crying about 8 of the 10 hours I was around him. Once he would get exactly what he wanted he would be all smiles otherwise he was absolutely painful to be near. He was a TOTAL tantrum manipulator and mom fell for it every time hook, line and sinker.

I would NEVER judge someone on formula or even comment to someone on their parenting style but I do feel like people can stick some socks on their kid when they're going out in public and make sure they have toys or a snack for their kid to play with if they're in public and going to be waiting. Things like this I think I will always judge but keep to myself.

WHY???

[takeonyou]

Aug 22, 2012 19:07:25 GMT -5 statlerwaldorf said:

I started some drama recently on a mom to mom selling group about an expired car seat.

I used to be way too nosy about other people's ttc plans.

Ha! I am part of that group. The drama is the best part, lol.

[Deleted]

I offended a friend of mine saying that I felt her leaving her daughter unattended while she napped while we went for a walk was not safe and had I known we weren't just walking around the block I wouldn't have done it.

[curbsideprophet]

Aug 22, 2012 19:55:24 GMT -5 bronxgirl said:

Aug 21, 2012 16:41:09 GMT -5 chance22010 said:

I've definitely told women they've popped or dropped or look like they're carrying a boy/girl. I would never say anything more than that.

I spent two days with a friend's one year old the other week and the child was BEYOND a nightmare. I was judging the cr@p out of her parenting style even though another friend (doctor) said the child's behavior was fairly normal. I hope my child doesn't end up that way. FTR he was screaming, kicking (me) and crying about 8 of the 10 hours I was around him. Once he would get exactly what he wanted he would be all smiles otherwise he was absolutely painful to be near. He was a TOTAL tantrum manipulator and mom fell for it every time hook, line and sinker.

I would NEVER judge someone on formula or even comment to someone on their parenting style but I do feel like people can stick some socks on their kid when they're going out in public and make sure they have toys or a snack for their kid to play with if they're in public and going to be waiting. Things like this I think I will always judge but keep to myself.

WHY???

I am also curious, what is the obsession with socks? It is not just you, but it seems lots of people feel kids should wear socks at all times. I do not understand why. When DD was not walking it did not make sense to put socks on her. She gets hot easily in her car seat and socks are just another unnecessary layer. There was also a good chance she will just rip/kick them off before we get to our destination. It is not worth the time or effort to try and keep them on her.

Now that she can walk we try to put shoes on her (or at least bring them with us) if we think we will be out for a bit and we may be putting her down.

[Deleted]

I once got told by a friend that if I leave my house I should have socks and shoes on my kid. Until recently we couldn't keep socks or shoes on him at all. Socks he would just pull off and shoes led to total meltdowns. Now that he is walking I try to always keep his sandals on him, the only things he will wear, but there are some days he just won't have it.

[statlerwaldorf]

Aug 23, 2012 22:23:08 GMT -5 @sounderschick said:

I once got told by a friend that if I leave my house I should have socks and shoes on my kid. Until recently we couldn't keep socks or shoes on him at all. Socks he would just pull off and shoes led to total meltdowns. Now that he is walking I try to always keep his sandals on him, the only things he will wear, but there are some days he just won't have it.

Is he barefoot in your siggy pic? Lol

[statlerwaldorf]

A lot of babies' feet can feel cold because of their circulation. I figured that is what it was all about.

[Deleted]

Aug 23, 2012 22:40:18 GMT -5 statlerwaldorf said:

Aug 23, 2012 22:23:08 GMT -5 @sounderschick said:

I once got told by a friend that if I leave my house I should have socks and shoes on my kid. Until recently we couldn't keep socks or shoes on him at all. Socks he would just pull off and shoes led to total meltdowns. Now that he is walking I try to always keep his sandals on him, the only things he will wear, but there are some days he just won't have it.

Is he barefoot in your siggy pic? Lol

He is. We were at the zoo and she told me that if she was working at the zoo she would have made me put shoes on him.

[benitabutrell]

I'm guilty of asking "How are you feeling?" when I see my PG friends. I never minded when people asked me that, but I've seen on the boards that some people hate being asked that, so I try to avoid that question now.

[karinothing]

Aug 23, 2012 22:05:25 GMT -5 curbsideprophet said:

Aug 22, 2012 19:55:24 GMT -5 bronxgirl said:

WHY???

I am also curious, what is the obsession with socks? It is not just you, but it seems lots of people feel kids should wear socks at all times. I do not understand why. When DD was not walking it did not make sense to put socks on her. She gets hot easily in her car seat and socks are just another unnecessary layer. There was also a good chance she will just rip/kick them off before we get to our destination. It is not worth the time or effort to try and keep them on her.

Now that she can walk we try to put shoes on her (or at least bring them with us) if we think we will be out for a bit and we may be putting her down.

Yeah, I don't get the obsession with socks either. We put socks on DS in the cooler months but they are a pain in the butt. They fall off every 2 seconds. Expecially beause DS loves to rub his feet together.

Obviously when he starts walking I will put shoes on him or whatever, but otherwise socks are lame.

[Deleted]

Aug 24, 2012 7:59:11 GMT -5 benitabutrell said:

I'm guilty of asking "How are you feeling?" when I see my PG friends. I never minded when people asked me that, but I've seen on the boards that some people hate being asked that, so I try to avoid that question now.

Wait, we're not supposed to ask that? My sister is 9 months pregnant. I thought she would appreciate me asking this. Oops.

Also babies shouldn't wear socks because then you can't eat their feet. Duh.

[curbsideprophet]

I did not really mind if people asked how I was feeling. At least I do not recall it being an issue.