Post by starrieskies on Sept 10, 2015 15:11:43 GMT -5
It's fine. He is just having trouble keeping his hands to himself. The teacher asked the principal to talk to him because she feels like he needs excessive reminders. Anytime a child finds themselves in the principals office, she calls to let the parents know what the issue was and the disciplinary steps involved.
I'm tired. Tired of always having something to do, something to clean, some bill to pay, something to save for, someone to care for... I'm tired of being an adult.
H will go from "We need to stop spending money" to "Why haven't you ordered XYZ yet?" within thirty seconds...
And he told me to start saving grocery receipts. Because that's the one place I spend money. I told him if he wants to be that tight-fisted about the budget, he needs to do the grocery shopping himself.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 10, 2015 15:25:37 GMT -5
I agree. It was a fine conversation, just frustrating for me. I don't know what I'm going to do with that kid... oh and apparently he's eating his pencils and crayons. This is not a child who is malnourished, I don't know what that's about.
starrieskies, I stand by seeing if he can have things to fiddle with during class. That way he can keep his hands busy while being able to concentrate. DS was like that and his teacher had all sorts of things for him to fidget with while she taught. She also had a heavy pillow with tassels on it for when they did circle time. It really helped him focus.
starrieskies, I stand by seeing if he can have things to fiddle with during class. That way he can keep his hands busy while being able to concentrate. DS was like that and his teacher had all sorts of things for him to fidget with while she taught. She also had a heavy pillow with tassels on it for when they did circle time. It really helped him focus.
I love this ! I'm making a list of ideas to discuss with her at conferences.
I'm done with another crazily hectic day of work! I was going to go get a pedicure but unfortunately the wait is 30 minutes so I would be rushed finishing getting ready for my date with the chef. I might get some tonight! I'm a little bit nervous but I think that if I'm not comfortable at any point he would stop and be okay with it (as anyone should, but not everyone would react well). I like him.
gault I hope you feel better! bullygirl979 I hope you're feeling better too. starrieskies I'm sorry your DS is struggling and I agree with doriswe's recommendations. There are resources I could recommend if you'd like and it seems to be needed in the future.
Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 10, 2015 20:19:04 GMT -5
Here's how pick up went tonight:
DS 2 throws rock at his brothers face. DS1 pulls on my left thumb/hand so hard it injures my thumb. DS1 refuses to buckle in. Finally relents after I turn off the dvd player. DS1 starts threatening to unbuckle while the car is in motion. Both boys start throwing things at me I tell them that I am taking them to tge police station because their being such a distraction. They keep throwing things. I pull into the police station and they start sobbing.
We get home, eat then I opened the wine while they fall asleep.
starrieskies, I stand by seeing if he can have things to fiddle with during class. That way he can keep his hands busy while being able to concentrate. DS was like that and his teacher had all sorts of things for him to fidget with while she taught. She also had a heavy pillow with tassels on it for when they did circle time. It really helped him focus.
I love this ! I'm making a list of ideas to discuss with her at conferences.
If the teacher pushes back about fidgety toys to keep him busy because they might distract the other kids, nicely remind her that what's happening now is doing the same thing. (Had that conversation one year!)
Also, when I go to trainings for the State, they always fill the tables up with things to mess with during the lectures. We've had koosh balls, those plastic tube things with glitter/items in them, stress balls, squishy animals, etc. I love it and it does help me not drift off into my own bizarre world!
Ugh. Now xh wants me to come to pick up DS early so we can discuss his behavior. Yay.
Is flipping XH off discussing DS's behavior? Cuz I vote you do that!
Wouldn't that be nice! I'm not really sure what he thinks there is to discuss. I will handle things at my house my way, he can do the same at his house. End.of.story. seriously the last thing I need right now is xh lecturing me on parenting my child. I've been doing it for 6 years, he's been doing it for 2.
I'm leaving to go get him in a few minutes. Normal pick up time is 8, I figure if I get there a half hour early I might get the kiddo out of there early and in bed by 8:30 instead of 9.
I am dying cuddlyevil! Is it the first week of school for you as well?
Nope. They started August 19th. But they were exhausted, that's the only reason why I didn't actually take them inside the police station. Mama didn't play last night.
Then the neighbor kids were all "I thought you said they could play tonight?". I said "thst was before the way they acted tonight."
I am dying cuddlyevil! Is it the first week of school for you as well?
Nope. They started August 19th. But they were exhausted, that's the only reason why I didn't actually take them inside the police station. Mama didn't play last night.
Then the neighbor kids were all "I thought you said they could play tonight?". I said "thst was before the way they acted tonight."
Oh starrieskies How frustrating for you and your son. How did it go yesterday with xH?
It went ok. I just let him talk and nodded my head when appropriate. Then when he asked me if I had any suggestions, I told him that I think the most important thing is consistency. We each need to decide the course of action that will work for our homes and follow through every time. But he is the type of kid who needs his GOOD behavior acknowledged add well so he sees a reason to behave that way. After that, xh stayed telling me about what his dad said worked for him and I just let him ramble. Wet all know how wonderful xh's childhood discipline worked out, so I made it a point to stress non violent discipline when I could. But really, I just let him talk.
After we left xh sent me big rambling text about how grateful he is that we can put aside or differences and talk about these things add adults. I replied that it is our job add patents to make sure we do what wet can to help ds be successful, whatever happened between us is irrelevant as long as it does not impact his success in life. I really wanted to say "I don't hate you, I don't like you. I have no feelings toward you, as a person at all. So as long as ds is good, we have nothing to talk about. " but I didn't. I figured he was at least pretending to be cooperative so I would be nice.