There are some normal ones out there. Don't worry.
Jesus, I hope so - I'm about to give up before I have even started.
I gave up and switched to doing more activities--so I joined a trivia team, started volunteering again, and joined the choral group to put myself out there in places where I might meet someone with similar interests who may not be crazycakes or s shirtless assclown.
Logically, I know this...the heart is struggling a bit today. Hung out with J (with a group of my friends) on Saturday and it's always fun/easy but not the right fit. And I put myself out there with another guy and it fell sort of flat.
Hugs, lady!
You are gorgeous, funny, smart and kind. You are a rare breed and therefore it is going to take an equally special guy to see and appreciate that.
Thanks...it's the Monday missing-my-peeps-hang-over that's getting me down. Tomorrow's a brand new day!
I forgot how discouraging match can be. I think I've only received one response to an email I've sent, but plenty of those guys look at my profile so I know they've read it. I forgot how it can make me feel like I'm doing something wrong.
doglove try not to get discouraged yet. Easier said than done, I know.
I try to just focus on doing my own thing and being happy with myself and hopefully the rest will all fall into place when it's time/ready.
I forgot how discouraging match can be. I think I've only received one response to an email I've sent, but plenty of those guys look at my profile so I know they've read it. I forgot how it can make me feel like I'm doing something wrong.
doglove try not to get discouraged yet. Easier said than done, I know.
I try to just focus on doing my own thing and being happy with myself and hopefully the rest will all fall into place when it's time/ready.
This is where I am at as well. I'm having fun just getting back out there and expanding my network. If I meet someone in the process, fantastic; but I'm not losing anything if no one crosses my path.
I forgot how discouraging match can be. I think I've only received one response to an email I've sent, but plenty of those guys look at my profile so I know they've read it. I forgot how it can make me feel like I'm doing something wrong.
doglove try not to get discouraged yet. Easier said than done, I know.
I try to just focus on doing my own thing and being happy with myself and hopefully the rest will all fall into place when it's time/ready.
Sorry for the dating woes ladies. I'm convinced there's still some good ones out there.
And as a matter-of-fact, I hit it off with two yesterday, yes TWO! One actually asked me out and then took my phone and put it on my calendar. It's three weeks away between my travel schedule and his so we'll see if it really happens but I hope it does. The other made sure to tell me how he had a great time talking to me and how he hoped we'd see each other again. When I said I was sure we would he asked my last name so he could look me up on LinkedIn. Ha! LinkedIn as a dating vehicle? Sure, why not!
And interesting story. My friend A, who I met both guys through incidentally, said that he wasn't sure but he thinks the second guy is "single for a reason". I said, "A, we're all single for a reason, aren't we?" It's not always a bad reason but we're all single for one reason or another. I really hate that saying!
Sorry for the dating woes ladies. I'm convinced there's still some good ones out there.
And as a matter-of-fact, I hit it off with two yesterday, yes TWO! One actually asked me out and then took my phone and put it on my calendar. It's three weeks away between my travel schedule and his so we'll see if it really happens but I hope it does. The other made sure to tell me how he had a great time talking to me and how he hoped we'd see each other again. When I said I was sure we would he asked my last name so he could look me up on LinkedIn. Ha! LinkedIn as a dating vehicle? Sure, why not!
And interesting story. My friend A, who I met both guys through incidentally, said that he wasn't sure but he thinks the second guy is "single for a reason". I said, "A, we're all single for a reason, aren't we?" It's not always a bad reason but we're all single for one reason or another. I really hate that saying!
Sorry for the dating woes ladies. I'm convinced there's still some good ones out there.
And as a matter-of-fact, I hit it off with two yesterday, yes TWO! One actually asked me out and then took my phone and put it on my calendar. It's three weeks away between my travel schedule and his so we'll see if it really happens but I hope it does. The other made sure to tell me how he had a great time talking to me and how he hoped we'd see each other again. When I said I was sure we would he asked my last name so he could look me up on LinkedIn. Ha! LinkedIn as a dating vehicle? Sure, why not!
And interesting story. My friend A, who I met both guys through incidentally, said that he wasn't sure but he thinks the second guy is "single for a reason". I said, "A, we're all single for a reason, aren't we?" It's not always a bad reason but we're all single for one reason or another. I really hate that saying!
At least you'll know he's stable enough to hold down a decent job?
Sorry for the dating woes ladies. I'm convinced there's still some good ones out there.
And as a matter-of-fact, I hit it off with two yesterday, yes TWO! One actually asked me out and then took my phone and put it on my calendar. It's three weeks away between my travel schedule and his so we'll see if it really happens but I hope it does. The other made sure to tell me how he had a great time talking to me and how he hoped we'd see each other again. When I said I was sure we would he asked my last name so he could look me up on LinkedIn. Ha! LinkedIn as a dating vehicle? Sure, why not!
And interesting story. My friend A, who I met both guys through incidentally, said that he wasn't sure but he thinks the second guy is "single for a reason". I said, "A, we're all single for a reason, aren't we?" It's not always a bad reason but we're all single for one reason or another. I really hate that saying!
At least you'll know he's stable enough to hold down a decent job?
Possibly! He's an in house corporate attorney and he seemed smart so we'll see...
I just found out about a Halloween Thriller flash mob! I'm signing up!! I've been wanting to do a flash mob for a while now, this sounds like so much fun.
I got a friend request on fb a few days ago, from a guy I didn't recognize. I clicked on his name and looked at a few previous profile pictures, and it hit me - I dated this guy, over two years ago. It was a weird parting, too.
I dated him the same time as I was dating pup guy (the guy who broke up with me because I was too fat and he treated me poorly because of it, remember that fucker?). For some reason I chose pup guy over him.
After pup guy and I had ended, I was obviously not in my right mind and contacted this dude, only a week or two after the breakup. We went out a few times, and then he asked to meet me for dinner to talk about something. So we met, and he said that lately he has been experiencing a lot of anxiety and panic attacks, and he really liked me but needed to focus on getting better for awhile, and could only be friends. I said okay, and thank you for being so up front.
Again, was still not over all the crap that went down with pup guy and still crushed on this guy and probably came on too strong, and he was kind of rude about calling me out about it. Embarrassing, looking back at it. After a few more friendly hangouts, we were supposed to meet up after work, and about 20 minutes beforehand I texted him that I was leaving for the location. Nothing. After about an hour, he said he was somewhere else with other friends - so, basically stood me up. The next day I called him out and said he was rude, he said sorry, and I never spoke to him again.
And now, two years later, a friend request. I don't get it.
I'm so fucking angry at my H and MIL right now. My MIL's cat has been sick all weekend. Not eating, barely drinking water, very lethargic, shallow and rapid breathing, and a racing heart. This cat needed to go to the vet last week.
I said I would take him. No. They want to wait and see if he comes around. Sometimes he's finicky with food. etc. etc. Saturday night H finally gets concerned enough to call MIL...who still wants to wait because she won't be home until Monday. Again, I say I'll find an emergency vet and take him in. I think he needs to go NOW. Nope. Let's wait... Saturday night H and I get into a fight about it because I REALLY think the cat needs a vet NOW and H is insistent that he's not my cat and I don't know what I'm talking about.
So it's Monday. H and MIL have taken the cat to the vet. He's lost half his body weight. Lots of fluid on the lungs. Heart is beating 3-4 times faster than it should be. They can either go ahead and put him down. Or they can drain the fluid from the lungs and give him another week to live. H and MIL are both very upset.
I am so.fucking.pissed.
It is going to take everything I have not to show them how angry I am. There was absolutely no reason to let this poor cat suffer so long. Fuck!
ETA: He texted MIL about our fight Saturday night. And I know the way he spins things. She's walking on eggshells around me right now. I'm sure she thinks I'm wannabe cat whispering lunatic. My relationship with H has been shaky for a long, long time. This is the first time I've ever questioned how I felt about my MIL.
I got a friend request on fb a few days ago, from a guy I didn't recognize. I clicked on his name and looked at a few previous profile pictures, and it hit me - I dated this guy, over two years ago. It was a weird parting, too.
I dated him the same time as I was dating pup guy (the guy who broke up with me because I was too fat and he treated me poorly because of it, remember that fucker?). For some reason I chose pup guy over him.
After pup guy and I had ended, I was obviously not in my right mind and contacted this dude, only a week or two after the breakup. We went out a few times, and then he asked to meet me for dinner to talk about something. So we met, and he said that lately he has been experiencing a lot of anxiety and panic attacks, and he really liked me but needed to focus on getting better for awhile, and could only be friends. I said okay, and thank you for being so up front.
Again, was still not over all the crap that went down with pup guy and still crushed on this guy and probably came on too strong, and he was kind of rude about calling me out about it. Embarrassing, looking back at it. After a few more friendly hangouts, we were supposed to meet up after work, and about 20 minutes beforehand I texted him that I was leaving for the location. Nothing. After about an hour, he said he was somewhere else with other friends - so, basically stood me up. The next day I called him out and said he was rude, he said sorry, and I never spoke to him again.
And now, two years later, a friend request. I don't get it.
I got a friend request on fb a few days ago, from a guy I didn't recognize. I clicked on his name and looked at a few previous profile pictures, and it hit me - I dated this guy, over two years ago. It was a weird parting, too.
I dated him the same time as I was dating pup guy (the guy who broke up with me because I was too fat and he treated me poorly because of it, remember that fucker?). For some reason I chose pup guy over him.
After pup guy and I had ended, I was obviously not in my right mind and contacted this dude, only a week or two after the breakup. We went out a few times, and then he asked to meet me for dinner to talk about something. So we met, and he said that lately he has been experiencing a lot of anxiety and panic attacks, and he really liked me but needed to focus on getting better for awhile, and could only be friends. I said okay, and thank you for being so up front.
Again, was still not over all the crap that went down with pup guy and still crushed on this guy and probably came on too strong, and he was kind of rude about calling me out about it. Embarrassing, looking back at it. After a few more friendly hangouts, we were supposed to meet up after work, and about 20 minutes beforehand I texted him that I was leaving for the location. Nothing. After about an hour, he said he was somewhere else with other friends - so, basically stood me up. The next day I called him out and said he was rude, he said sorry, and I never spoke to him again.
And now, two years later, a friend request. I don't get it.
Well what are you going to do?
I haven't friended him and probably won't. I'm curious as to what he'd say, but not enough to engage.
And yeah, bullygirl979, that's what I'm thinking. I wasn't in a great place but he was outright disrespectful.
I am bummed. I went to order my light fixtures today and the main one is discontinued and the pendants are not available until October. Now I'm hunting for something else.
In other news. My kitchen is completely gutted and supposedly it will be done by Friday, The cabinetry bit. I still will have to wait for the counter tops.
I had a chance to talk to MIL one-on-one a few minutes ago, and I feel a bit better. Not like "told you so" better. Just...I've gotten over the first stage of grief better. She's in shock right now. I can't be angry at her anymore.
I'm still fucking pissed at H.
I'm going to cook some fucking amazing potato soup for dinner tonight. I doubt anyone will eat it, but cooking it will make me feel better.
ETA: And my H is sick. Poison ivy everywhere and a sinus infection. So I'm supposed to be feeling sympathetic. Fuck.that.shit.
Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 28, 2015 17:10:11 GMT -5
You know what will make me suspicious of you? When I pull in my driveway and kids look at me from your back porch then all materialize out in front of your house. Stupid neighbor kids apparently has his friends over to smoke/drink at his mom's house.
I'm on my flight to Memphis and was guilted into giving up my aisle seat for a middle so that a little girl could sit with her mom. I mean, I wanted to say no but I'm not THAT much of a bitch. And naturally the guy to my left is huge and the one to my right is an ass.
I feel for the kitty, BUT it's your mil's cat. She decides. Letting go of a pet is a personal and incredibly painful decision.
I know when my IL's dogs were fading, they constantly tried to rationalize the situation. "they rallied yesterday!" "he's not limping today!" "her hairs growing back!". It was painful to watch, but more painful for the ILs battling common sense vs emotions.
There's not much you can do in the situation, but give your opinion and offer support for MIL to do the right thing.