Team you. WhyTF do people think it's ok to share other's news?
It's fucking old people on Facebook!!!!
Sadly, it's not just old people.
H's cousin thought it would be a swell idea to post photos - of my naked child in the christening basin - on fb. This was after we specifically told her not to. We told everyone at the christening no photos on fb, including her, and later that evening I saw the photos with 50 million hash tags under them. When confronted and told to take them down, she gave me a hard time saying 'but I didn't tag you guys in the photos so it's cool'. NO IT IS NOT FUCKING COOL. IT IS NOT YOUR CHILD. TAKE THE PICTURES DOWN. Haven't spoken to her since either. hashtag-no fucks given.
I can see my MIL doing this, I would not be happy, and I would be limiting all info that we tell her in the future.
In the privacy settings, you can put people on the restricted list, that way they are limited to seeing only posts that you make 'public'. So if you post something 'friends only', the restricted people won't see it - even if they go look on your wall. I'd totally be making use of that if I were you
I can see my MIL doing this, I would not be happy, and I would be limiting all info that we tell her in the future.
In the privacy settings, you can put people on the restricted list, that way they are limited to seeing only posts that you make 'public'. So if you post something 'friends only', the restricted people won't see it - even if they go look on your wall. I'd totally be making use of that if I were you
I've never thought of doing that, but I have my settings set so one one can tag me or post to my wall without my approval first. I will add this to my posts in the future.
I hate when people do this shit! I just had some friends have babies and there were people congratulating them and sharing before the parents had. Why do people think this is ok?
I think people who do this are trying to get "one up" on fb friends. Ie we are "real" friends with this person so we know lots of things about them that mere fb friends don't... In a childish kinda way...
OP, definitely team you!!
My SIL announced my 2nd pg on fb and I didn't realise until I got a call from my bff who lives in Australia and who I hadn't had a chance to tell yet due to time differences. It wasn't even an announcement, but a comment on one of my posts which wasn't about pg
Eta- We had a FB shitstorm today. Neither one of us posts anything on FB, but we still get notifications. I guess someone the Brad went to HS with decided to announce the birth of our child on Brad's wall. Never mind that they haven't spoken in 20 years. Oh, and completely overlooking the fact that Brad never even mentioned a pregnancy on FB. Neither one of us did. Now all sorts of people are upset with us because we never announced it. What? I really need to delete that fucking thing.
My mil didn't have Facebook, so she just told everyone she knew after we told her not to tell anyone. She has fb now, so between that and last time, we'd never tell her until we're ready to tell everyone (not pregnant, just saying if we have another).
Ugh. I'm sorry she did that, but glad your H caught it.
My mom guessed I was pregnant with my second because she was babysitting my older kid and he told her that I threw up in the mornings.
She never said anything to me, but proceeded to tell everyone we knew that I was pregnant, including my best friend.
I was SO PISSED when I found out. Which wasn't until we officially announced weeks later and everyone was like "Oh, yeah, your mom told us last month."
I'm still salty about it, and that was 4 1/2 years ago.
I had to politely chew my step mother out when she posted 'congrats pap pap' on my dad's wall before my sister announced. They're very fb private anyway.
Post by vanillacourage on Oct 11, 2015 8:21:56 GMT -5
Facebook makes people turn into idiots. Posting births/names before the parents is awful - I even cringe when people post pics from weddings they're at - get off social media, enjoy the event, and let the bride or groom post they're own first married pic tomorrow morning.
Facebook makes people turn into idiots. Posting births/names before the parents is awful - I even cringe when people post pics from weddings they're at - get off social media, enjoy the event, and let the bride or groom post they're own first married pic tomorrow morning.
For me, we didn't have any pics of our wedding on our own phones and apparently none of our close friends thought to email us. I was so happy on the honeymoon that people posted to Facebook. Then I looked at all the pics.
I told my dad at about 7 weeks because I was seeing him in person (we live in another state). I specifically told him it was too early to share, and he promised to keep quiet. Pretty much the next day, he emailed my entire family with "mskitkat said not to tell anyone, but..." He still doesn't get why that was a big deal. He laughed when he told me that he had told everyone.
None of those family members "liked" my fb announcement because they already knew. took away a lot of the fun.
also, i have a strict rule that NOBODY (besides H lol) is to upload pics of my child unless they specifically ask me each time. i don't care if that's crazy.
BIL put up a few older pics of A to his facebook page and never told us, we just saw them randomly one day. H was PIIIIISSSSED. BIL's page is completely public. uh no.
don't feel bad at all. your mom was wayyyy out of line.
It is not crazy. Because you never know who has access to that person's page, how their privacy settings are set, and more importantly- it is not their child, so what gives anyone the right to post pics of a child that isn't theirs? This kind of thing really pisses me off so I'm with you on this. As I said earlier, one of my H's cousins did this with DD's christening pics after we told her not to and then didn't understand why I was pissed about it. Ummm hello - NOT YOUR KID? I don't give a shit if you didn't tag us in the photos - if anything that makes it worse because SHE'S NOT YOUR KID?