Well alrighty then...stepdad was married and mom didn't know

[charlotteandwilbur]

I found out that my dad had been married before my mom (marriage #2) and stepmom (marriage #3) when I was in college and was pretty upset at the time. It just felt like a big omission from his life since I'd heard many stories about his early 20s and nothing about the wife from that time period. It made me wonder what else he was keeping from me.

[Muddled]

H's grandfather had a whole second family that no one knew about until he died. They only found out because there were names in the will that they didn't recognize.

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My H was married before me. Im not going to hide it from my daughter but truthfully why would it ever come up? He has no prior kids. It seems weird to me to tell her and even weirder that she would be disappointed she didnt know. Its none of her business. And why would she ask or find out? Its not like my family has a yearning to talk about horrible ex wife.

Now if I didnt know I would be confused. I think you should tell your spouse if you were married before. And if its multiple people you were married to you shouldnt omit one.

[auntie]

Oct 12, 2015 14:07:44 GMT -5 charlotteandwilbur said:

I found out that my dad had been married before my mom (marriage #2) and stepmom (marriage #3) when I was in college and was pretty upset at the time. It just felt like a big omission from his life since I'd heard many stories about his early 20s and nothing about the wife from that time period. It made me wonder what else he was keeping from me.

You articulated exactly where my DH was coming from. To make matters worse, my FIL died when DH was 9 so there was no chance to talk about the reasoning behind the silence. Family all told stories of DH's dad to keep his memory alive which makes it weirder that they omitted this one thing. Evidently FIL was quite the hound until MIL domesticated him.