As soon as I was done peeing on a stick. The only time I waited to 8 weeks was an accidental pregnancy and I ended up miscarrying at 12 weeks and honestly needed the support, so I was glad people knew.
I waited till after the NT scan to tell the world at large, so 13 weeks. I told my work at 6 weeks, lol. I was too excited, plus they needed to make staffing changes that required training etc etc.
We had a 10 week loss a year ago and found out a week before we planned on telling family at Thanksgiving, so we were a little gun shy with this pregnancy.
We told family around 16 weeks, and announced to everyone else, i.e., a post on social media and to IRL friends/work, at 20 weeks. (I didn't even begin to look pregnant until MAYBE 25-6 weeks, so it worked for us to wait.)
We had a previous loss. I couldn't bear people the thought of people giving me pity eyes if we miscarried, so we waited for viability. I lost about 20 pounds from puking and only eating corn chips, so the baby belly wasn't so noticeable in clothes.
We had a 10 week loss a year ago and found out a week before we planned on telling family at Thanksgiving, so we were a little gun shy with this pregnancy.
We told family around 16 weeks, and announced to everyone else, i.e., a post on social media and to IRL friends/work, at 20 weeks. (I didn't even begin to look pregnant until MAYBE 25-6 weeks, so it worked for us to wait.)
I'm sorry for your loss.
That possibility is what's keeping me from telling everyone now.
Close friends: immediately Close family 6-11 weeks (we told them when we saw them in person) Work: 16 weeks Everyone else: ? I'm 22 weeks and feel no need to do a big FB or email announcement to family and friends I don't interact with on a weekly basis. I'm guessing we will put something in a Christmas card.
With the last one, after my 12 week appt, because I wanted to announce with my Halloween costume. My closest colleagues were suspicious by then.
With this one, I'm undecided. I'm 12 weeks and waiting for my NT scan as I type. I wanted to wait until right before Christmas because I'm up for a promotion in mid-December, but I'm further along than I initially thought and I don't know if I can hide it that long. I also had horrible m/s with both, but haven't had any puking incidents give me away yet. A couple people may be suspicious of my recent Dr. Appts. I think my current job will be supportive and doubt it would impact the promotion, but I've experienced discrimination in the past related to this so I don't want to take the chance.
Post by janetplanet20 on Nov 6, 2015 10:35:07 GMT -5
1st kid: 6 weeks 2nd pregnancy: 7 weeks That pregnancy ended in miscarriage around 8 or 9 weeks. I was glad I'd told people so I had support beyond my husband. 2nd kid: I think about 10 weeks
We told our parents almost immediately. I found out I was pregnant on 12/16 and we told all three sets of parents (and my brother and SIL) at Christmas.
We told very close friends almost immediately as well, but didn't tell the rest of the world until about 12 weeks. However, I had pretty bad m/s and everyone knew something was up. So by the time I fessed up, I was really just confirming suspicions. lol
Post by lemoncupcake on Nov 6, 2015 10:41:23 GMT -5
After the 8 wk u/s we told our parents and siblings and our closest friend. After a good Panorama test and hb on Doppler at 14 weeks it was public knowledge and we told work, extended family and other friends.
We still haven't posted an announcement to FB - whoops!
Right away with my first baby. So like 6 weeks. I had no chill.
With Theo and Ilya, I waited until I saw a heartbeat to tell the family, so around 8 weeks. Well, except for mil. I had to tell her right away because she was trying to force vodka on me.
PG #2 - oops pg, found out it was ectopic, had to tell our parents because travel and dog care had to be rearranged. (Bonus to sharing with them, my dad brought me chocolate and sat on the couch with me and let me cry on his shoulder)
PG #3 - about 5 weeks. early for a few reasons - I had been through a m/c and wanted support again if I had another one. And, my dad wasn't doing well with his cancer, so I wanted to give him happy news. I ended up with a missed m/c about 11 weeks.
That possibility is what's keeping me from telling everyone now.
Thank you. It's easier now, but man, that grief was such a private grief that I felt it made me feel very private about this pregnancy. I was/am thankful I didn't/don't show much because I didn't want to talk about it with others.
If I had to do it over again, I think we would still have kept it (this and the last pregnancy) private like we did. For us, it was what we needed to process.
Post by mom2twoboys on Nov 6, 2015 11:36:46 GMT -5
I told my mom with the first right away. I was working and told work at 12 weeks. With Jackson I told everyone after the first appointment which was a little over 6 weeks. I had a hard time not telling my family.
Post by Queen Mamadala on Nov 6, 2015 12:09:34 GMT -5
Friends on message boards and due date groups, immediately, as soon as I got my BFP. I told my mom the day I got my BFP. She was the first to know with dd3. I told my dad and closest cousin between 5-6 weeks, and announced to everyone else/FB at 8 weeks. Though my former in-laws found out the day I got my BFP with ds2. We were staying with them when I tested.
Post by gretchenindisguise on Nov 6, 2015 12:10:43 GMT -5
1st one - told my parents around 7 weeks when they were in town. Told friends shortly thereafter. Told work at 12 weeks.
2nd one - told my parents basically right away. Told friends shortly thereafter. Told work at like 8 weeks. I was showing at 9 weeks, so I just went with it.
Post by thebreakfastclub on Nov 6, 2015 14:48:01 GMT -5
I had zero interest in telling anyone I was PG. I had no morning sickness and didn't hear the heartbeat until 12 weeks, so I was not entirely convinced it was real.
I did tell my mom at 10 weeks, which is a treasured memory of mine.
Then I finally did get to see DS at 12 weeks, and I told my coworkers the next day.
I am not close to my dad, so I told him I had big news at our annual Christmas get together and strolled in 6 months pregnant.