MMM FFFCs

[schrodinger]

Aug 24, 2012 15:13:47 GMT -5 @vicmo said:

I am one of those awful people who is obsessed with TTC. I think about my chart all the time, I calculate due dates and "when could we tell people about the pregnancy" dates each month, I test every day starting at 8 dpo, I feel personally affected when others get pregnant before me, and I assume we're infertile since we're on our third month with no luck.

In my defense, I am going through a REALLY rough time at work and I feel like getting pregnant would make things a little easier (hahahahaha). I'm also generally the least breezy person ever, so this is pretty much in line with how I react to everything. (When I was planning my wedding, I obsessed for months over every stupid detail.)

I pretty much obsessed over my chart as well. I had the FF app on my phone and would pull it out and look at it all the time, including when I was at work. Even with charting, OPK's and great timing, it took us 5 months to get pregnant. Towards the end I was starting to get worried about possible IF issues as well.

[SusanBAnthony]

Hilary, we are dealing with similar, although ds is older. He was delayed younger, and has had ei since 11 months for different stuff, but instead of all the services catching him up, he is just becoming more noticeably behind. We moved, and our new pedi was very on board with doing an ASD eval, which we are now in the middle of (had intake appt, and the next appt is not until the end of oct. argh!)

So don't feel bad. You are not the only one dealing with this! We also noticed "off" behavior in ds at around 8 weeks or so, but it was always so subtle. Plus, the first kid is totally the practice kid!

[hannamaren]

Aug 24, 2012 17:10:54 GMT -5 vanillacourage said:

Oh also- sounderschick you are not a terrible mother. We have all been there. Your kiddo will not remember and with kids this little every day is a chance to start with a clean slate.

I feel like every time she wakes up is a clean slate. Reset.
Today, I gave her my keys to play with when we were waiting at the pharmacy. When we were paying, the cashier (someone I know) said "ooh, she is eating the keys!" and I just laughed. Whatever works, right?
Earlier today, she was playing in the grass and dirt at the park and was filthy. This woman was freaking out. It is just dirt, lady. I promise to give her a bath.

[pierogigirl]

hilary-

In my state, and maybe in most states (?), you can ask for an EI evaluation without a script from your pedi. In NY, they have 45 days to respond to your request and do an eval. I asked for a speech eval and they did a whole bunch of different types. If you don't want to wait a few weeks, see if you can find out how to get the process started before your next doctor's appointment. Good luck and ({) (}) .

[Deleted]

I am full of big sighs today. It's the only way I seem to be able to cope. I cried again this morning about having to go in to work. I have a lot of work things on my plate and I feel such self-pressure to get all of them done before my November 4 due date. At the same time, I'd welcome bed rest for a while. I jut want OUT of regular life right now.

I feel a big ugly cry coming on.

[liveintheville]

Aug 24, 2012 19:49:23 GMT -5 @domerjen said:

This is the most supportive FFFC thread I've ever seen. Bravo ladies!

and zombie hugs all around.

:Y: ({)

I don't know about anyone else but by Friday I've made at least 37 judge worthy parenting decisions. I am in no place to flame anyone on a Friday and I feel everyone's frustration. Drink! :drink:

[zeewifeandmama]

Although the total elimination diet seems to be helping my son....and I obviously dont like seeing my Little man in pain....I AM SO FUCKING OVER IT! I'm HUNGRY and tired and frustrated. I want someone to come cook for me. /end whine

[belovedbride07]

Aug 24, 2012 15:13:47 GMT -5 @vicmo said:

I am one of those awful people who is obsessed with TTC. I think about my chart all the time, I calculate due dates and "when could we tell people about the pregnancy" dates each month, I test every day starting at 8 dpo, I feel personally affected when others get pregnant before me, and I assume we're infertile since we're on our third month with no luck.

This is so me.

My confession...I've had several waves of unexplained nausea today and am trying to talk myself down from being convinced I must be pregnant (I'm only 5dpo). I hadn't planned on testing until next Friday; DH comes back from a business trip then. I'd like to tell him in person, but I know I can't keep it a secret for more than a few hours.

Okay, not much of a confession but I had to get it out!

[Deleted]

Thanks ladies! I was prepared to be flamed to high hell.

[pugz]

I don't have much to add but hugs all around!

[mollybrown]

Aug 24, 2012 20:51:29 GMT -5 @sounderschick said:

Thanks ladies! I was prepared to be flamed to high hell.

No way, since most of us have been there more than once

[Deleted]

Aug 24, 2012 15:16:12 GMT -5 liveintheville said:

Oh I've got another one. I hated, or at least really disliked, pretty much every minute of both pregnancies.

This is flameful? lol, I felt the same way and kind of assumed it was universal.


My confession: I'm pretty much over the newborn stage. I think I forgot how ridiculously time consuming their eating and napping schedules were at this age. I'm ready for DD to be less fussy and more interactive.

[Deleted]

Aug 24, 2012 15:50:15 GMT -5 @sounderschick said:

I'm a terrible mother. I lashed out at my toddler in a moment of complete exhaustion and frustration. If I weren't at work I would be in tears. He is fine, I just can't believe I let myself lose judgement. I'm ashamed of myself.

We've all been there. You're going to make mistakes, you're only human. Try not to feel too bad about it, you know he's already over it Big hugs.

[zeewifeandmama]

Aug 25, 2012 6:34:46 GMT -5 @lcap said:

Aug 24, 2012 15:16:12 GMT -5 liveintheville said:

Oh I've got another one. I hated, or at least really disliked, pretty much every minute of both pregnancies.

This is flameful? lol, I felt the same way and kind of assumed it was universal.


My confession: I'm pretty much over the newborn stage. I think I forgot how ridiculously time consuming their eating and napping schedules were at this age. I'm ready for DD to be less fussy and more interactive.

I feel you on this!

[Deleted]

I can never think of a FFFC and I finally think I have one!

I don't want to visit my step-SIL and her new baby even though I should. I am totally judging her decision to leave her perfectly nice husband for a 59-yr old (she's 32), making him reverse his vasectomy (he already has two kids in their 20s), and going through several rounds of IVF to have this baby. She told *everyone* "i'm PG!!!!" each time an embryo stuck (so like 3-4 weeks PG) and then told everyone when it didn't work out. Rinse and repeat like 5 times until this baby stuck. To be honest I got tired of sending condolence cards for something they shouldn't have been announcing yet IMHO. They live 2 hrs away and I just don't want to tote DS up there, and I'm dreading having to BF there b/c it will be soooo awkward. I don't think I can pretend to be happy for her. Everyone is going to think her DH is the baby's grandfather. I can't imagine having a toddler at 60!!!

[geneg]

DH and I are debating #3 and one of my reasons for stopping at just two is because I don't want to breastfeed for another year. I've been either pregnant or lactating (or both) since late 2008 and I'm kind of sick of it. Yet I'm too cheap to buy formula...

[jinnifah]

I've been shopping a lot lately. Because I'm bored and can take DS for an airconditioned walk in the mall if he's fussing. I don't spend much at a time, a $3 towel here, a $2 pack of hangers there, but it's seriously adding up. And with me on mat leave, every penny counts. I'm actually in danger of not paying off my part of the cc bill this month...can't wait for dh to realize that whammy

[pugz]

jinnifah I have been spending a bunch to since G arrived. Some online, some when we are out and about. I am really trying to reign it in but it's tough! I spent freely while pregnant and still working, but now that i'm a SAHM I need to stop.

[jinnifah]

Aug 24, 2012 16:39:55 GMT -5 iheartbanjos said:

Had another prenatal visit today (I'm 10 weeks, 3 days) and the midwife wanted to see if she could pull up the heart beat on the doppler. Of course, she couldn't. Ugh. She mentioned that you can't normally hear it until 12 weeks (which I already knew, thanks to the Bump) but she said that since I was so slender, it's usually easier to pick it up sooner than someone with a little fluff. It was weird because you could definitely hear something squirming around, and she said the noise was coming from my uterus, not GI related. She said that she thought we could hear the little cinnamon bear sized baby moving around, but we just couldn't pull up the heartbeat. For peace of mind, she's having me come in next Friday to try again. I will feel so much better when it's confirmed that there is an actual baby in there!!!

I hear you in this. To ease your mind somewhat, I'm also fairly slender but when my Dr tried to find the heartbeat at 15wks(!) he couldn't. I was freaked out, but when he tried at my next appt at 17wks there was a nice strong one.

[SusanBAnthony]

Is there any reason to think she will come that early Starry? Are you having contractions or something?

Ds came at 37 weeks, so I did the final round of baby shopping on an electric scooter at target while on bedrest. It was awesome.