Post by MixedBerryJam on Nov 30, 2015 6:35:54 GMT -5
I'm glad annual license renewals are not a requirement because if they were I think I know the exact year that I wouldn't have renewed the first time. That was a helluva year. Toddler, new baby, international move, perimenopause and male-pattern assholishness. A bad, bad combination.
I'm glad annual license renewals are not a requirement because if they were I think I know the exact year that I wouldn't have renewed the first time.
This was my first thought. I am 110% yes on renewing, but I can recall a phase early in our marriage when I wouldn't have renewed. So thankful it wasn't an actual thing, because it would have been the worst mistake of my life.
Post by NothingWrongwithOhio on Nov 30, 2015 8:08:36 GMT -5
We'd put our marriage on auto renew, if there was such a thing. (I'm already thinking about the logistical nightmare marriage renewal would create. It would be different on a state by state basis. Would you renew in the state you got married? In the state you're living in? This is why I do what I do.)
But there are days I feel like everything is flying to pieces, like my life is a tapestry and I'm desperately trying to hold on to all of these unraveling threads and my H is the only thing that's anchoring me. I know everything is NOT flying to pieces (somehow this makes those days even harder, KNOWING that I'm being crazy), but even on those days that I'm most irrational, I never doubt our marriage.
I've been married for 31 years, and I admit there were a handful of years I'd have said no. But, overall more yes than no so I guess I'm glad that's not a thing. Its to easy to walk away sometimes, no need to make it even easier.
Yes. We had some really trying times over the years but never did my love of my dh waiver.
Our commitment to each other is probably the only thing I ever really counted on being strong. I honestly can say that alone pulled us through.
Job losses and all the financial ramifications of that (which were great). Family sicknesses and loss etc. We had much despair but we stayed as strong as we could.
this is what i was thinking. i guess, technically, he is the source of all the bullshit in our lives but we are better as a team than we would be if i left. usually, our marriage is worth the bullshit.
Post by ladystardust on Nov 30, 2015 10:00:53 GMT -5
Yes, this has been a more difficult time for me right now (toddler and newborn) and I am more easily irritated by him as a result but I would still absolutely renew. Past years would have been an easy yes.
Post by litebright on Nov 30, 2015 10:59:15 GMT -5
Definitely.
I think back on all the relationships that DIDN'T work, and even the ones that worked for awhile, like a year+ and then fell apart and which made me wonder how I'd ever really know that I could be with someone for years and years and years and still have it work. And this does. Really, really well; for both of us; the vast majority of the time. We've been married more than 10 years, together more than 11, and we're still happy to be with each other.
Your avatar is similar to a pic I've used for different profile pics/avatars before and lately I've been scrolling by thinking you're me. In this post, I was like, "What? I'm not even married, why did I post in here?"
This is the pic. I think it's the glasses and car selfie that throw me off.
ETA: I'm too dumb to post pics from my phone apparently.
There are and were times I'd say no, because of the burdens I've put on him with the kids (and now grands) and my personal insecurities, but as a general rule we've been very good together (as in "he's been very good to me and for me.")
Note: I haven't read past page 2 so if this got off topic anywhere between pages 3-6 I'd like to make my disclaimer now.
I'm growing older but not up. My metabolic rate is pleasantly stuck, let the winds of time blow over my head. I'd rather die while I'm living than live while I'm dead.