I'm having a hard time putting my feelings into words on this, but I'm going to try. I'm probably a bitch for saying this. I'm really upset about my husband and his college stuff. He is going for engineering. He isn't worried about his GPA. He thinks that all that matters is that he gets a degree. He argued with me that employers won't care about his GPA. He just found out that he failed a class. Why? Because he didn't ever check the discussion boards. EVER. He never even peeked at them once. That was a huge chunk of his grade. Something similar happened in another class last semester (thankfully he didn't fail it but he did end up with a C) so you would have thought that he would have learned his lesson then. We are taking out student loans for this and it is really upsetting me that he isn't giving it more effort.
Oh keweenawlove, that is so hard. I think parents divorcing can be just as hard on adults as it can on children.
steph96 , I'd be upset about the failed class, since you're (both) paying for it. A careless mistake like that is different than earnestly trying.
Eek, I wish I had more advice for both of you. I'm sad to see you going through such tough times.
Not to pile on, but today's a little tough for me too. I'm seeing a new therapist today for the first time. I haven't posted about this on MM yet, but I've had a few posts over on ML since that board gets a little more traffic. Long story short, I love my husband dearly but he has some real flaws. I'm by no means perfect, but he's happy, and while I'm not unhappy, I'm far from...satisfied. I want us to go to counseling together and he won't agree to go. I've made a list of all the things I want to talk about, and I was looking forward to the appointment but now that it's hours away I'm dreading it.
@bellakitty, good luck today! I'm sure your appointment will be fine. You don't have to get into EVERYTHING today if it's your first session....take as much time as you need. I think you'll be glad you went.
steph96 - I would be livid if MH did that. That's just losing money!
@bellakitty - I am sorry you're having a hard time. Just remember to do what's best for you, regardless of how hard it is or how others will perceive it. I hope your appointment goes well tonight.
steph96 I don't blame you for being pissed. I'd go apeshit crazy on his ass.
@bellakitty I've been following a few of your posts. You deserve better. What is his reason for not wanting to go? Is there a mutual friend, 3rd party viewpoint person that might help convince him to go?
When Mr. P asked me to go with him to therapy last year, you can damn well bet my ass went. When you love someone that is struggling, you go.
I wanted to laugh about having a pole family, mostly because of the term, but then I realized I have no room to talk, I don't know what I'd do without my archery family.
keweenawlove, I'm so sorry. Lots of hugs as you figure out how to process this.
steph96, I'd be mad at that too, it's simple carelessness.
@bellakitty, I hope therapy is a great start for you. Don't expect the first session to be magical though.
ETA--steph96, the more I think about it, the angrier I am on your behalf. I have very little sympathy this time of year for students who drop the ball on things that are clearly listed in the syllabus (as I had a student who missed 25% of the classes ask what she could do to pass the class. Nothing, kiddo. It's an attendance based class). I am so sorry you are being affected by this and I want to kick your husband's ass. It DOES matter.
Oh, I'm so sorry! That does suck. Did you have any idea it was coming?
Not really. They've drifted a lot, especially since me and my sisters had a ton of activities to keep them busy together. Lately my mom's been off doing more things solo that my dad has no interest in doing (travel, races, concerts, etc) and he was fine just hanging out at home. They always seemed content with how things were so it was a pretty big shock.
Post by keweenawlove on Dec 10, 2015 14:48:16 GMT -5
Thanks for the hugs everyone.
steph96 That would really upset me too. I'm an engineer and was around a ton of guys like that who seemed to think they didn't need to grades. Turns out a lot of companies do look a grades when you're just starting out and don't have other experience. And even if the grades don't matter, you still have to pass.
Post by explorer2001 on Dec 10, 2015 14:50:43 GMT -5
Hugs to everyone!
steph96 I'd be pretty pissed with you working a tough job to support your family and struggling to get through your exams to further your career that not only is he failing but he's failing because he dgaf and isn't trying. That's not OK. Also when you are fresh out of school employers do care about your GPA.
keweenawlove hugs. Just remember it's about their choices and not you
@bellakitty hugs. Good luck. Therapy helped me significantly improve my life. It also lead to me divorcing my exH. It isn't easy, because change is hard, but it is worth it and you are worth it.
I am so tired of always being so negative. I'm sure all of you are tired of hearing me complain about everything. I seriously do feel like I need to go talk to a doctor about my depression/anxiety/stress/whatever. I just don't want them to think I'm some drug seeker or whatever. Plus the thought of having to ask to use PTO so I can go to the doctor is stressing me out even more.
@bellakitty I've been following a few of your posts. You deserve better. What is his reason for not wanting to go? Is there a mutual friend, 3rd party viewpoint person that might help convince him to go?
Basically, "nothing's wrong" so he doesn't need to go.
Steph, I feel the same way about negativity. I'm not saying you're negative, but I've had the same concerns about most of my posts. I became an active poster last year after years of lurking when I had a crazy boss, then that opened the door to posting about drama with my mom, and now I am finally addressing some marriage issues. I swear, I am generally a happy, positive person!
Hugs to milsaroo and everyone else who needs them today.
Post by orangeblossom on Dec 10, 2015 15:56:24 GMT -5
Hugs to all who need it.
I really like the can Starbucks Refreshers. For some reason, I cannot find them in the stores here. They've all been replaced with other energy drinks. When I do make it to Costco, I pick up a pack, though that's not all that often. Okay, fine.
I decide to order them from Amazon, and for some reason, there's a restriction on sending them to my state. I've never heard of such. Have you ever tried to order anything from Amazon and have this happen to you too?
All I want is my refreshers, is that too much to ask?
irene adler - I LOLed that your machine is/was named Jason Bourne.
The other machine I use is named Darren Romeo after the magician. Because if I"m going to be unfaithful to Jason Bourne, it will be with someone with a name that amazing.
Just paid $10 more to buy a print from a local artist at a holiday marketplace downtown than its list price on Etsy. But my time's worth money, right? Versus going to his studio to pick it up or paying shipping (which might even things out).
I am so tired of always being so negative. I'm sure all of you are tired of hearing me complain about everything. I seriously do feel like I need to go talk to a doctor about my depression/anxiety/stress/whatever. I just don't want them to think I'm some drug seeker or whatever. Plus the thought of having to ask to use PTO so I can go to the doctor is stressing me out even more.
I get the stress -- but if you can at all swing it, go to the Dr.
A little more stress now could dramatically reduce stress in the long run. Can you look for an office that has early/late hrs? I know this can seem like just another thing on your to-do list. That helped me so much -- I used to go to my therapist at 7 am or 5 pm etc etc so it limited my out of office time. Same with the dr - they have evening hrs 2x a week. Best wishes. It can be a very tough place to be in.
I am so tired of always being so negative. I'm sure all of you are tired of hearing me complain about everything. I seriously do feel like I need to go talk to a doctor about my depression/anxiety/stress/whatever. I just don't want them to think I'm some drug seeker or whatever. Plus the thought of having to ask to use PTO so I can go to the doctor is stressing me out even more.
I get the stress -- but if you can at all swing it, go to the Dr.
A little more stress now could dramatically reduce stress in the long run. Can you look for an office that has early/late hrs? I know this can seem like just another thing on your to-do list. That helped me so much -- I used to go to my therapist at 7 am or 5 pm etc etc so it limited my out of office time. Same with the dr - they have evening hrs 2x a week. Best wishes. It can be a very tough place to be in.
This really is incredibly helpful and it has more than once impressed my boss. I have a chiropractor whose last appointment is at 6pm and has Saturday hours, therapy appointments at 5:30 or 6:30pm, physical therapy at 7 am or after 5 pm, regular doc with 7:30 am appointments, dentist with 7am appointments. Once you get established on their schedule it isuch easier to get these times, but its also something I look for when choosing a practice.
Post by crashgizmo on Dec 10, 2015 23:24:12 GMT -5
keweenawlove, I'm so sorry about your folks. It's hard as an adult in a different way.
steph96 , I would be livid about your H, especially because of how hard you are working. FWIW, I don't think you're negative at all.
@bellakitty , I've been following your story on ML a bit. Your H sounds a lot like my exH. I really hope counseling helps you with some clarity and support. It worked wonders for me.
Today was my 3rd 12 hour day in a row. I am exhausted, we've had takeout/crap for a week, and the house is a mess. I can't wait for the weekend. We have no concrete plans and I'm totally fine with that.
Also, the CEO of my company emailed me at 8pm wanting to talk in the morning about a "time sensitive" issue. My anxiety immediately makes me think it's something bad, when it's probably not.
The Big Bang Theory storyline tonight would have been a pretty big surprise ... if the promos hadn't given away the ENTIRE episode in advance. And they've been teasing major spoilers for next week's episode for quite a while now.
I have no idea why I still watch it. But I don't want to quit it.
Does anyone want my Sephora code? It is $15 off of $50. Expires December 13th.
I'd love the code, if you still have it! I've been wanting the Gwen Stefani Urban Decay eye shadow palette and couldn't quite get past paying $58 for it...
My husband checked our local Macy's and Ulta and both were sold out, but Sephora.com still has it!