Post by irishbride2 on Dec 15, 2015 18:04:28 GMT -5
PDQ
I have no clue what the answer is.
I have an aunt and uncle who had 3 bio kids and adopted 4 more later in life. 4 siblings. The oldest was 6 at the time. He was ok at first but things turned violent quickly. They were fortunate to be able to afford the best help, and eventually best boarding schools that specialized in his issues. Finally, at 17, they had to cut ties to keep the other 3 kids safe. 11 years of heartbreak and hard work. They are still haunted by it and I feel for them.
Yes, I think the parents should be charged. Locking him in a "cell", isolating him, only adds to the trauma. But I think other systems failed as well. How the hell was this child placed in a foster home with other kids? He should have been in a treatment facility for children with offending behavior. They tried the police too. Part of me feels for them, but what they did is not acceptable. Other people should be held accountable as well.
A social worker probably needed to fill a quota.
I am not just being snarky or flippant. We were matched with a boy who was way, way beyond our ability to parent. It's by the grace of God that the truth was revealed to us in time. (animal abuse, juvenile delinquency, a very long etc.)
I do not think it often ends well when families adopt with the idea that it's their religious calling.
social workers do not need to fill quotas. I say this with 10 years as a CPS worker. I am sorry you had a bad experience but I used to hear that all the time. There was likely a lack of resources.