Confessions ?

[pugz]

Dec 17, 2015 9:50:56 GMT -5 smock said:

Dec 17, 2015 9:46:55 GMT -5 gravytrain225 said:

I wasn't trying to vague book! I thought she was friends with everyone lol

There are currently over 220 people viewing MMM. I mean, I get that pugz is popular, but . . .

I think I have only about 100 GBCN friends on FB  

[Velar Fricative]

Dec 17, 2015 7:36:48 GMT -5 CheeringCharm said:

I guess I can see someone being a little sensitive about the speculated autism link if you are worried about a possible diagnosis for your son and took ADs during your pg. I remember when my kids were really little, scientists were speculating about a possible link with birth order - esp. for kids who have a younger sibling born within two years of them. I was worried about autism with DS1 at the time because of his extreme tantrums. And yes there is a compounding component when you start to wonder if you did something "wrong" and caused it yourself. There was a poster on CEP who loved to post articles about this on the 2u2 board on the Bump and I thought that was stepping over a line (I read both boards and she was so gleeful about it on CEP). So I can see why that might get one's hackles up. Not saying that is what is going on here (innocently "liking" an article on FB is far from trying to rub something in others' faces) but it's a theory.

Plus there's the fact that people still don't really know what causes autism and that a ton of different factors have been considered and discarded over the years. This will probably be another one.

Okay, I forgot to come back to this because I was about to start driving when I read it (I was parked at the time, I swear).

WTF is the bolded about and who are you talking about? I say this in the kindest way possible. I have no idea there was someone like this on CEP!

[mpc]

Dec 17, 2015 9:51:50 GMT -5 pugz said:

Dec 17, 2015 9:50:56 GMT -5 smock said:

There are currently over 220 people viewing MMM. I mean, I get that pugz is popular, but . . .

I think I have only about 100 GBCN friends on FB  

I just checked and we are not friends! I can't even send you a friend request.  (wilted)

[Deleted]

I think someone needs a demotion from "global mod". Keep her slippy fingers on her own board.

Thank you for these threads, though. All of you. And having read the article, I hope CloudBee knows that we don't think she's the problem here.

[Deleted]

Dec 17, 2015 9:54:07 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

Dec 17, 2015 7:36:48 GMT -5 CheeringCharm said:

I guess I can see someone being a little sensitive about the speculated autism link if you are worried about a possible diagnosis for your son and took ADs during your pg. I remember when my kids were really little, scientists were speculating about a possible link with birth order - esp. for kids who have a younger sibling born within two years of them. I was worried about autism with DS1 at the time because of his extreme tantrums. And yes there is a compounding component when you start to wonder if you did something "wrong" and caused it yourself. There was a poster on CEP who loved to post articles about this on the 2u2 board on the Bump and I thought that was stepping over a line (I read both boards and she was so gleeful about it on CEP). So I can see why that might get one's hackles up. Not saying that is what is going on here (innocently "liking" an article on FB is far from trying to rub something in others' faces) but it's a theory.

Plus there's the fact that people still don't really know what causes autism and that a ton of different factors have been considered and discarded over the years. This will probably be another one.

Okay, I forgot to come back to this because I was about to start driving when I read it (I was parked at the time, I swear).

WTF is the bolded about and who are you talking about? I say this in the kindest way possible. I have no idea there was someone like this on CEP!

This happened over 5 years ago (I can't believe I've been on these boards for that long, omg). I don't know if that person still posts on CEP. If they do, it might be under a different name. I only knew about it because I lurked on both boards. Basically, this person's opinion was that people who post on the Bump don't respect scientific studies so she'd post them over there to like chum in the water to see if it would rile people up and enjoy the resulting drama, if any. When it came to the topic above, I thought that was more than a little insensitive. Fwiw, I did tell her that and she told me I was overreacting. 

[Velar Fricative]

Dec 17, 2015 10:02:35 GMT -5 CheeringCharm said:

Dec 17, 2015 9:54:07 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

Okay, I forgot to come back to this because I was about to start driving when I read it (I was parked at the time, I swear).

WTF is the bolded about and who are you talking about? I say this in the kindest way possible. I have no idea there was someone like this on CEP!

This happened over 5 years ago (I can't believe I've been on these boards for that long, omg). I don't know if that person still posts on CEP. If they do, it might be under a different name. I only knew about it because I lurked on both boards. Basically, this person's opinion was that people who post on the Bump don't respect scientific studies so she'd post them over there to like chum in the water to see if it would rile people up and enjoy the resulting drama, if any. When it came to the topic above, I thought that was more than a little insensitive. 

She sounds like an asshole. I hope she doesn't post anymore.

[CloudBee]

I haven't read any of this and won't have a chance until later. Pugz just filled me in a little on the side. I still don't know who was mad, just that someone tagged me and then a big thread was deleted? I didn't purposely like anything. I saw the article posted on an acquaintances page, clicked to read it, started, then closed out of it. Must have accidentally liked it? Witch hunt, I guess.

I can't even find the article any more to unlike it. I went to her wall and no longer see it, so maybe she liked it and I clicked through from there?

FWIW I didn't even read Pugz's thread the other day before the main post was deleted. Is that where I was tagged about liking the article I didn't actually "like"?

[pugz]

the tag/delete was in @this's confessions thread from last night.

[Deleted]

You don't need to read anything, CloudBee, unless you have an hour to kill. You've been largely unscathed.

[Deleted]

Thank you CloudBee.  I am really sorry for dragging you into this by accident.  I was upset about the article and then quickly deleted what I posted.  But then drama, which I should have predicted but I went to bed and people were mad the (short) thread was done. 

[raangoli]

Dec 17, 2015 10:18:45 GMT -5 @starry said:

This is why I get so nervous clicking articles on Facebook.

I often check my activity to make sure I haven't liked something I never intended to. I am a weirdo.

[Deleted]

Dec 17, 2015 10:19:46 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

Dec 17, 2015 10:02:35 GMT -5 CheeringCharm said:

This happened over 5 years ago (I can't believe I've been on these boards for that long, omg). I don't know if that person still posts on CEP. If they do, it might be under a different name. I only knew about it because I lurked on both boards. Basically, this person's opinion was that people who post on the Bump don't respect scientific studies so she'd post them over there to like chum in the water to see if it would rile people up and enjoy the resulting drama, if any. When it came to the topic above, I thought that was more than a little insensitive. Fwiw, I did tell her that and she told me I was overreacting. 

Who was it?

I honestly can't remember anymore. This happened back when my 7 yo was 2 or so. Fwiw I doubt this person still posts here or if they do they've changed their posting style because I don't see anyone trying to start board wars between CEP and the Bump. Lol

[CloudBee]

Dec 17, 2015 10:20:39 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

Thank you CloudBee .  I am really sorry for dragging you into this by accident.  I was upset about the article and then quickly deleted what I posted.  But then drama, which I should have predicted but I went to bed and people were mad the (short) thread was done. 

No hard feelings. I've certainly been known to let emotions carry me away in the moment. 

I take Xanax when I need it, am in therapy, and conceived a kid knowing I could pass on heart defects that might be surgical intervention. I really don't give a sh!t what anyone else does. And I don't know what the article said as I only glanced at it.

[Velar Fricative]

Soooooo...any changes in mod folks after this or does no one care that flex has butterfingers?

[mrssandro]

I don't know how many times I have accidentally liked someone article, friended someone I did not know or care to know or just shared something I should have not by accident. FB sets up people to fail here. It should never be taken seriously.

The most infuriating part of this whole thing is that the mod who deleted the thread was in the wrong. Other than that this drama is kinda of lame.

[Deleted]

Dec 17, 2015 10:28:20 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

Soooooo...any changes in mod folks after this or does no one care that flex has butterfingers?

Reported this post in solidarity.

I hope she doesn't delete it "by accident". 

[Velar Fricative]

Dec 17, 2015 10:35:29 GMT -5 @majorwife said:

Dec 17, 2015 10:19:46 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

Who was it?

I am pretty confident it was me.

Thanks ml for linking me over here. Lol

[CloudBee]

I spoke to NQB off board. We're cool. I love her. It takes a LOT for me to drop a friend. We all get carried away with our emotions (looking at myself), make bad decisions at times (looking at everyone), and experience hurdles in life. I honestly don't think enough of us weather through the ups and downs (and mistakes) in friendships enough. Even when we don't agree, no one deserves to walk through life alone.

I'm thankful for each of you. Even those looking for a witch hunt over on ML.

[curbsideprophet]

Dec 17, 2015 10:20:39 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

Thank you CloudBee.  I am really sorry for dragging you into this by accident.  I was upset about the article and then quickly deleted what I posted.  But then drama, which I should have predicted but I went to bed and people were mad the (short) thread was done. 

But it sounds like everything you had initially posted had been deleted. Why request the entire thread, which you did not start, be deleted? You had to know that would not end well.

[Velar Fricative]

Dec 17, 2015 10:47:49 GMT -5 @majorwife said:

Dec 17, 2015 10:37:31 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

I only remember posting the autism article. I didnt troll the bump any more than normal since I was between pregnancies.

Or it was emmy.

That's the theory I'm going with. When in doubt, blame Emmy. LOL.

[Deleted]

Dec 17, 2015 10:47:04 GMT -5 curbsideprophet said:

Dec 17, 2015 10:20:39 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

Thank you CloudBee .  I am really sorry for dragging you into this by accident.  I was upset about the article and then quickly deleted what I posted.  But then drama, which I should have predicted but I went to bed and people were mad the (short) thread was done. 

But it sounds like everything you had initially posted had been deleted. Why request the entire thread, which you did not start, be deleted? You had to know that would not end well.

I should not have done it. It was a pretty short thread and 2/3 of it were responses to me. It was dumb of me.

[Deleted]

Dec 17, 2015 10:28:36 GMT -5 @this said:

Dec 17, 2015 10:25:46 GMT -5 CheeringCharm said:

I honestly can't remember anymore. This happened back when my 7 yo was 2 or so. Fwiw I doubt this person still posts here or if they do they've changed their posting style because I don't see anyone trying to start board wars between CEP and the Bump. Lol

Was it amynumbers?

I really don't remember anymore but I kind of feel like it started with an e for some reason. 

[Deleted]

ok never mind

lol

[Velar Fricative]

Dec 17, 2015 10:56:21 GMT -5 CheeringCharm said:

Dec 17, 2015 10:28:36 GMT -5 @this said:

Was it amynumbers?

I really don't remember anymore but I kind of feel like it started with an e for some reason. 

[Deleted]

Dec 17, 2015 9:27:21 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

Okay I'm not leaving.  I'm available if anyone wants to keep posting about this. I regret deleting the thread. I also regret letting FB agitate me so much. I appreciate those who have reached out.  This board and the people here are important to me but sometimes I need to self edit.

Props to you for coming fwd. and I ran out of cards or I would have sent one.

[Deleted]

Dec 17, 2015 11:01:03 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

Dec 17, 2015 10:56:21 GMT -5 CheeringCharm said:

I really don't remember anymore but I kind of feel like it started with an e for some reason. 

? I'm not getting it

I missed the part where majorwife admitted to doing it 

[Velar Fricative]

Dec 17, 2015 11:08:15 GMT -5 CheeringCharm said:

Dec 17, 2015 11:01:03 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

? I'm not getting it

I missed the part where majorwife admitted to doing it 

Then she said she didn't troll around the bump and that it might have been Emmy instead...which is faaaaaaaaar more plausible. So then when you mentioned the "e" part I giggled.

So we're all in agreement that it's Emmy.

[MixedBerryJam]

Dec 17, 2015 8:08:15 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

OMG I'm getting dressed for work. You guys need to calm down. I posted about my feelings. And no it was not a reassuring article. The headline said "antidepressants linked to autism." It's obviously an emotionally charged issue for me.

I have no skin in this game, but did you read the just the headline and not the article before your rant? Because if I had a concern with autism in my life and a friend posted and liked this article I would probably thank her for being supportive. This was not an "only dirty pirate whores take ADs while pregnant" article.

[Deleted]

Dec 17, 2015 11:09:52 GMT -5 MixedBerryJam said:

Dec 17, 2015 8:08:15 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

OMG I'm getting dressed for work. You guys need to calm down. I posted about my feelings. And no it was not a reassuring article. The headline said "antidepressants linked to autism." It's obviously an emotionally charged issue for me.

I have no skin in this game, but did you read the just the headline and not the article before your rant? Because if I had a concern with autism in my life and a friend posted and liked this article I would probably thank her for being supportive. This was not an "only dirty pirate whores take ADs while pregnant" article.

That is...not the reaction I would have. I'm not even sure what to say to this to be honest. Thanks for your post.

[Velar Fricative]

Dec 17, 2015 11:23:02 GMT -5 @majorwife said:

Dec 17, 2015 11:09:44 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

Then she said she didn't troll around the bump and that it might have been Emmy instead...which is faaaaaaaaar more plausible. So then when you mentioned the "e" part I giggled.

So we're all in agreement that it's Emmy.

well i googled. b.c i cant let shit die.

and while i was the OP, it seems that epphd was the asshole of that thread. and by asshole i mean, she went all "science, bitch!" on the thread.


forums.thebump.com/discussion/6168805/close-birth-spacing-linked-to-autism

Thank you. I don't think epphd was being an asshole at all. I was hoping Emmy posted in that thread but she didn't. I'll just blame her anyway because why not?