1. Take a super-fun 10th anniversary trip (right now we are leaning toward Scotland). 2. Impress my new director at work (the person isn't hired yet. Hopefully I like him/her.) 3. Keep the house clean so we are not mortified if a neighbor stops by. 4. Have monthly date nights. 5. Start college fund and make up for the year we lost. 6. Save up DP so we can buy in 2017. 7. Decide by end of year if we want a second kid.
-get pregnant or get closure on being done trying -get a promotion or new job -put 1/2 of any pay increase into retirement (regular pay, not sure if I get a new job!) -buy a house or finally be fine with staying
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
-get pregnant or get closure on being done trying -get a promotion or new job -put 1/2 of any pay increase into retirement (regular pay, not sure if I get a new job!) -buy a house or finally be fine with staying
I am really hoping it is the bolded
I am excited for everyone TTC! Hop on over to GP if you all want to chat more about the process.
Post by irene adler on Dec 27, 2015 17:43:18 GMT -5
I have been reflecting on this post all week.
Here's my list: Find a way out of the hole we are in. Move, job change, new hobby, something beyond the status quo.
Make peace with what I don't have (mainly the inability to get/stay pregnant). Celebrate and be grateful for all the truly wonderful things I do have. Seriously--I need to start pulling my head out of my ass and check myself when i fall into a victim mentality.
Save the first 5k in alterations $$. Save the first 1k in spin $$.
Join a run club. Bike more. Blog more. Just plain do something.
Post by hurricanedrunk on Dec 27, 2015 21:12:04 GMT -5
- Clean out basement- it's been a dumping ground of stuff for two years. I get anxiety every time I go down there. - Improve diet and cut back on drinking - Stick with budget and figure out YNAB. Increase general savings and IRA contributions - Travel- big trip to Europe in spring, smaller trips throughout the year - Job - LEED AP, update resume, either get back into the groove at my current job or start looking for a new one - start saving for kitchen/ downstairs bath remodel project - Art- complete 10 paintings/projects. I really want to take a glass blowing class and need to get excited about creating again - Revisit the kid conversation with H - Continue to run. PR In half, 10k distances. Do an Olympic tri, charity bike ride and gain confidence with swimming. Maybe run another marathon.
1) Read 20 books 2) Hike 3 trails, I've never hiked a day in a my life, so it's something new to try. 3) Add one more month's worth of living expenses to savings. 4) Find somewhere to volunteer 5) Start an IRA, I know I know, I've been slacking. 6) Get a skin check
I figured this was a decent place to jump in and start posting
For 2016, I want to: - Get back and stick to a budget (we moved/went on vacation/celebrated my BIL's wedding the last few months of 2015 so things got crazy) - Start a workout routine, and keep it up - Keep up with teaching DD (5) to read and teaching DS (2) colors/letters/etc. - Contribute to Roth IRA - Save up to travel somewhere for our 7th wedding anniversary
Post by crashgizmo on Dec 28, 2015 12:07:16 GMT -5
DH and I did this over Thanksgiving, since we listen to "Smart Couples Finish Rich" on a road trip.
- Start investing outside of retirement accounts - Investigate/finalize a location to buy a retirement property (have a few options) - Improve social life by having one new "social activity" per month - Get healthy (the subsets of this include both physical and mental, which for me right now are tied together.)
- Pay off my car. This should happen by June at the latest, maybe earlier. - Start putting all the debt payoff money into savings. - Lose 45lbs/get my diet and alcohol consumption under control. - Read 26 books
I may also start volunteering somewhere but I'm not sure.
1. Lose another 15 pounds. I'd love to lose more, but this is realistic and would help me just as well.
2. Limit my garden time, so I can do other stuff. Absolutely no gardening on Fridays.
3. Make time for my board game, book club, and volunteer groups.
4. Be more active. My biggies here are riding my bike, roller skating, or swimming. These are all things I actually like to do but didn't do enough in 2015.
5. Improve relationship with H. Yes, that's a euphemism. Aiming for weekly, even if we have to write it on the calendar.
6. Declutter. Purposefully vague because anything will be good. And I eat less when I work on house projects, so this would be a double win for me.
Fairy tales do not tell children the dragons exist. Children already know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children the dragons can be killed. - G. K. Chesterton
Fairy tales do not tell children the dragons exist. Children already know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children the dragons can be killed. - G. K. Chesterton
Lose rest of baby weight...or at least get "below" my ceiling non-preg/non-nursing weight (which is totes going to happen magically and with zero effort on my part, see item 1 above, right universe? right?)
Psych myself up for another IVF round (ugh, or 2) and get pregnant
Try to live on DH's salary alone and pocket all of mine. This is the biggest goal and the hardest...I just placed an order for $50 of "special" cookies...just because. That's no longer going to fly.
1. Get my feet under me for the new job; get set up to have things go well when I'm out on maternity leave. 2. Face my fears about giving birth to a second child. 3. Give birth/ survive the first 3 months of having a second child. 4. Start a ROTH (this needs to happen this week, lol). 5. Maaaaaybe buy a house. Perhaps one that has to be remodeled.
... You'll note I included nothing about losing weight or reigning in my alcohol consumption. Those are the 2017 goals
Mashara we're excited for baby but if I'm honest there are days where I wonder what we're getting into. I think I will miss my lazy days the most. But I'm sure it will all be worth it
- Most importantly, figure out DS1s health issues and fucking conquer them, damn it (this is actually January 2016 goal). - New jobs for both me and my husband. - Move, hopefully buying a home we can raise our boys in with a decent school district.
It's going to be a hard, but hopefully rewarding year.
Post by FishChicks on Dec 29, 2015 10:05:55 GMT -5
So many of you have great, inspirational goals. You've all motivated me! Here are mine:
-Stay pregnant and have a healthy baby in August - Fit into my pre-preg clothes by the time maternity leave is over - Save 40% of net income, even after taking 12 weeks of maternity leave. This will be a stretch goal. -Support DH through the sale of his business
1. lose weight (we are signing up for the gym in our new town and I am thinking of getting a personal trainer to get me started) 2. IVF (we are doubly insured right now since H's insurance covers IVF up to $35,000 lifetime max, so we'll use that before we use our cash) 3. make a list of things to see/do locally and start doing them 4. spend more time with family 5. make more friends (I want H to feel like we have friends other than my sister and BIL and my friends from HS and their spouses) 6. spend less time GBCN-ing at work and more time working. I want to do well in this job. I think our group is going to have teams, and I would love to get a promotion.
Post by lightbulbsun on Dec 29, 2015 11:47:38 GMT -5
- Finish grad school (set to graduate Dec 2016) - Do a whole house purge, to the point where everything has a place, and I don't have to use the attic or crawlspace for storage - Get a promotion - Have a professional article published - Travel someplace new - Run a half marathon
Post by heliocentric on Dec 29, 2015 17:31:22 GMT -5
I just realized I have a lot!
- finally renovate our hideous kitchen - kick ass in my new position so that I'm officially named team leader - keep exercising, reduce drinking, do more yoga - stop buying things I don't need / don't love just because they are cheap - investigate buying a rental property in our town - volunteer regularly - keep after clutter / put things away more quickly - make more effort to hang out with friends - stop picking my cuticles (This one is sadly probably going to be the most difficult!)