Ds was 3 but we didnt. The hospital is 45 min away and ds is uh, energetic and would have been more interested in pushing all the buttons in the room and running up and down the hallways. As it is, he barely even looked at ds2 for weeks when we brought him home. I dont regret it. We facetimed with him a few times from the hospital.
No, but I had no visitors at all with 2 & 3 because with my second she was born after 8pm and I was home at noon and my third was s birth center baby - born at 5:40 am and home by noon.
We did have C come to the hospital, a few times actually.
D was born at 4pm Tuesday and my mom and sister brought C to the hospital around noon the next day. It was one of my favorite moments. He got to pick out balloons with grandma and was SO excited to meet the baby. He held him and we got some of the most adorable photos.
The next day he went to daycare and when H picked him up he brought him over to the hospital and we all had dinner together in the room. I was happy that I didn't have to go three nights without seeing my little guy.
Yes. DS was 2y3m. He didn't care. He was indifferent to DS2 and not interested in the hospital stuff. They didn't stay long. I'm sure we'll have both join us at the hospital for #3 just for pictures etc. but idk. The hospital is an hour away so it depends on circumstances
DD was 22 months old when DS was born. I had a c-section so I had my mom bring her in the afternoon of the second day. We had a some toys we had bought her and honestly she couldn't have cared less about them. She was there to see "her" little brother. She didn't even care much about seeing us! She just basically climbed into the bassinet with him. It was the sweetest thing because it really caught us by surprise how much it was love at first sight for her. So I would definitely recommend having her come to the hospital.
Post by scribellesam on Jan 11, 2016 10:18:59 GMT -5
DS1 was just under 2.5. I had my mom bring him, but I wish I hadn't. He was very overwhelmed by the hospital setting and confused about seeing me. He didn't understand at all about his brother and threw a huge tantrum about leaving me when my mom took him back home. I only stayed one night so I wish we had just waited until we got home.
Post by pizzapizza on Jan 11, 2016 10:20:36 GMT -5
I think as long as my parents feel comfortable doing so. If not I don't think it is a really big deal. We will see how it goes. It also depends on how long we are there. If it is just one night maybe not.
No. The hospital was 40 minutes away from our house and DD1 was with my MIL for most of the time. DH offered to get her but DD1 really wanted to stay with grandma and play and declined.
After I got out of the hospital we picked her up early from school and they met in the parking lot. It was so freaking adorable.
Yes. J was 21 mos. My sister brought him to the hospital for a bit in Sunday. The girls were born around midnight Friday/Saturday night and we all went home Monday morning. I wanted to see J and it was nice to have a visit on Sunday before we went home Monday and everything changed at home.
My daughter had just turned three and we had her come to the hospital with the grandparents for an hour or so. I missed her so much and it was great to see her. She got to meet her baby brother, get a little gift that we said was from him and get mac n cheese in the hospital cafeteria. She still talks about it two years later. I also love the pictures we got.
It is also when she asked if he was "eating my boob," which made us all laugh.
Post by charlotteandwilbur on Jan 11, 2016 10:33:10 GMT -5
Yes, DS was 2y3mo and visited for about 15 minutes. Like others above, he was mainly interested in the bed. He did have a very hard time leaving me in the hospital, but even with that in mind I still would do it again. He talks about it a LOT to this day.
"Member when I came to the hospital? And I played in your bed and pressed the blue button? And [DD] gave me my Peppa Pig house?"
Our 2 year old came to the birth center with us so he meet ds2 a few minutes after he was born. We had originally planned for DS1 to stay with a neighbor and come a few hours after but everything was going so fast I told DH to put ds1 in the car or we wouldn't make it (good thing too since I was there for 7 min before I started pushing).
Yes, my girls always met their baby sister asap! Often when I hadn't even been transferred to recovery room yet. They were just as excited as anyone. They held them on the bed with me/DH right there too. My last kid, they all 3 hung out and watched movies all together in the room. I have the best photos from them meeting siblings <3
Yes. My husband went and picked him up and he came in and barely noticed the baby. He immediately noticed the box of mini muffins I had in the room and demanded to eat them. He then was excited to play with his grandparents and posed for a photo and left. I asked if he wanted to hold the baby and he said no.
The kids met at home for the first time. My daughter was 19 months at the time. I have no regrets.
I had ZERO desire for my child to come to the hospital. I was tired. There was nothing for her to do. It was a 30-40 min drive from our place. She did not understand what was going on (didn't realize I was pregnant or that a baby would come home) so a visit wouldn't really have been meaningful to either of us.
Yes, DS1 was 2y3m and DH brought him to the hospital to visit the morning after DS2 was born. I'm glad he came, it was a cute visit. DS1 wanted to make sure I was ok and DH took a pretty cute video of DS1 being sad about leaving the new baby on their way home. When I have #3, I plan on having both kids come for a visit.
Mine was 2.5. My MIL brought him with a balloon and a present (which he bought with me earlier) for the baby and doughnuts for me (because we had to distract him for a little bit because the baby was nursing). The baby had a present for him in the hospital room. We waited until I was no longer puking (post-operative nausea for the win!) and my IV was out (because he was/is a terror with wires). He actually came a few times while we were at the hospital and it was good. He was in love with his visitor sticker. When the baby was re-admitted to the PICU, he did not come (and was upset about not getting a visitor sticker). He did come when we had yet another hospital stay with the baby and got his sticker.
Post by redpenmama on Jan 11, 2016 13:26:57 GMT -5
My daughter was 2.5. She came both days we were in the hospital. She was more interested in seeing me than DS, but she did fine. H and my parents took her home when she started to get wild.
Post by patbutcher on Jan 11, 2016 13:28:25 GMT -5
I plan to have dd come to the hospital. To be honest, my plan is for h not to stay at the hospital with me (assuming I don't have a c section and feel as good as last time), and then he can bring dd the next morning and we all go home together. The hospital is only 10 minutes from our house.
We don't have a lot of family here and dd has never been apart from both of us for one night. I would rather her routine wasn't too disrupted that night. I also don't really trust my ils to do a car seat properly.
My older kids have met their new siblings while I was in recovery. So immediately. DD was 18 months when DS1 was born, she was just over three when Ds2 was born and DS1 was 19 months.
My mil watches them at our house while I'm in the hospital. She brings the kids each day around lunch time and DH goes out to lunch with them after we visit. He usually goes home for a bit at bedtime and then comes back and sleeps in the room with me so he can change diaper/hand me the baby to nurse overnight.
No. I went in for an induction on Sun morning, so had spent time and cuddled with DS before I left. I had her Sun afternoon, and had such an easy delivery that I asked to be discharged on Mon. My midwives discharged us at the 24 hour mark, and we introduced them at home that night.
Post by gibbinator on Jan 11, 2016 16:44:12 GMT -5
Yes. Dh was 2 and a bit and ds1 came up with MIL on my 2nd day in the hospital. She brought food for everyone and they only stayed 15-20mins. He kissed the baby, sat with me a bit while MIL did some baby holding, then they went home.
C was 3. He was in the waiting for the birth due to circumstances so he met her right away. He would have anyway I imagine. So he was there most of the day all 3 days with my parents. It's the way I wanted it. I liked them room full of people.