Weekend randoms!

[pandora]

Because I need to vent randomly and want to hear your random thoughts.

[stephreloaded]

It's almost 2pm and I have been in bed all day. I worked a lot this week so I feel like doing nothing today. This is my last weekend home without DD as I am travelling to Chicago on Wednesday.

pandora. How has your pregnancy been so far?

[pandora]

I have this friend who is a former coworker. Everyone used to ask me why I didn't date him.

OmG, you guys he is the cheapest person I have ever met. It's such a turnoff that I know this is why he is still single in his 40's. He makes decent money but has absolutely no motivation in his job and tells his bosses that his job is just a job not a career. Yeah, way to limit your career buddy. He has been let go from every job even though i do think he does try to work hard but his attitude sucks. He blames it on his being Jewish which is ridiculous and offensive to me. It makes me sad because he is limiting his life potential in my opinion. Currently, he thinks he may lose this job. He's not looking for a job because he wants to get letc go, collect severance and then find a job or temp so he can get paid double. . No concern for his career obviously as it's all about money.

I'm struggling right now but if we go out, before being pregnant, I would splurge for one cheap beer for say, trivia night. He does not buy anything, food or beer, when he goes out but he notoriously just leans over and gulps down half of my beer. I stopped joining in his meetup events after a few times of doing this. He doesn't even ask, it's so rude. He's a nice guy otherwise but it really gets on my nerves. Last birthday, I craved lobster so he said he'd love to celebrate. Guess who paid for his lobster and steamers which he added in? Yup, he got a free dinner on me for my bday. He disappeared in line before paying to get the car without saying a word. I was shocked so much that I was speachless. IT still grinds my gears and this us why I refuse to go out to eat with him.

I always let him stay at my place to save money when he has an early flight to see his family - he's an hour away. I let him help himself to anything in my fridge for breakfast, snack whatever and normally make something for dinner to have together and chat - i do this for any of my friends and they would, too. Yet, if I go over his place he wants to go to his fave restaurant where they let him eat for free (no idea why). He frustrates me, gah and I feel like he's selfish.

He just shared recently that he plans to retire early at - get this - 45!! He says his house is paid off, he has a million in retirement and will live off the income of his savings. Dude.

Part of me is probably envious but mostly I think he's just so skewed and missing out on life. He doesn't travel except to see his brother & family and he doesn't spend a dime down there but otherwise no travel or exploring life. He wants to meet someone but who wants to deal with that?

He allows me to store some of my things in his basement and I'm going over there to get more out. His house is large so he doesn't care but I just need to get this out before I see him so I can be happy again. I soooo appreciate his help since im in the city with no storage but plan to have everything out over the next month so I don't have to feel that I owe him anything. I honestly think that's why he thinks it's OK to drink my drinks etc... because I owe him anyway.

The 1st time we went to his fave restaurant, I didn't know it was cash only so he had to pick up my $8 tab. I immediately set up the check that day online and let him know which day he would receive it. he called me 3x before it arrived to verify that I sent it and didn't forget. He's so stressful. And I'm a hormonal, emotional mess - can you tell? ;please

Thanks for letting me vent. I worry about him yet he frustrates me too but I never want to get testy with him so good to vent!!

[pandora]

Jan 16, 2016 13:53:08 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

It's almost 2pm and I have been in bed all day. I worked a lot this week so I feel like doing nothing today. This is my last weekend home without DD as I am travelling to Chicago on Wednesday.

pandora. How has your pregnancy been so far?

Sounds like a heavenly day, Steph!

I just got over a stomach bug so feeling fairly well now. Trying to be productive today. I can't believe I'm going to have a little bambino in a few months! I'm excited but nervous as I want to be the best Mom I can be for him. He so deserves it! He's kicking away right now and I love it!!! <3 Can't wait to be a Mom.

[stephreloaded]

Jan 16, 2016 14:04:45 GMT -5 pandora said:

Jan 16, 2016 13:53:08 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

It's almost 2pm and I have been in bed all day. I worked a lot this week so I feel like doing nothing today. This is my last weekend home without DD as I am travelling to Chicago on Wednesday.

pandora . How has your pregnancy been so far?

Sounds like a heavenly day, Steph!

I just got over a stomach bug so feeling fairly well now. Trying to be productive today. I can't believe I'm going to have a little bambino in a few months! I'm excited but nervous as I want to be the best Mom I can be for him. He so deserves it! He's kicking away right now and I love it!!! <3 Can't wait to be a Mom.

2nd trimester is always fun. You feel already pregnant but you are not as big. And feeling the kicks is the best! I remember wanting for time to go by quickly to be able to meet DD. Now, I want it to go by slow because I cannot believe how much she is growing.

Have you decided on a name?

[poptart84]

Went out for breakfast this morning, tried to get the propane tank filled but the gas station people said it was too cold to go outside, it was able zero at least. Now sitting on the couch with a heated blanket eating cornbread waffle with homemade chili on top.

[dreamcrisp1]

My step count is at 2000. Haha. Horrible. I should go do stuff but I don't wanna. I also need to turn on the heat but I'm too lazy to get up. Maybe I'll bundle up and take my dog for a longer walk and grab a coffee. Except he wants to smell every pole so it drives me crazy!

[bg]

I took myself out to breakfast and worked a bit this morning and then went to yoga. I have more work to do today but I'm procrastinating.

[bl]

I had breakfast with some friends, a hair cut, read by the pool for a bit, and now drinking wine and watching football.

[pandora]

Jan 16, 2016 14:18:21 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

Jan 16, 2016 14:04:45 GMT -5 pandora said:

Sounds like a heavenly day, Steph!

I just got over a stomach bug so feeling fairly well now. Trying to be productive today. I can't believe I'm going to have a little bambino in a few months! I'm excited but nervous as I want to be the best Mom I can be for him. He so deserves it! He's kicking away right now and I love it!!! <3 Can't wait to be a Mom.

2nd trimester is always fun. You feel already pregnant but you are not as big. And feeling the kicks is the best! I remember wanting for time to go by quickly to be able to meet DD. Now, I want it to go by slow because I cannot believe how much she is growing.

Have you decided on a name?

I already want to slow things down. I'm so enjoying this part of the pregnancy and it feels so amazing to feel him yet know he's all safe and warm in there!! I'm in trouble when he's here. Not going to want him to keep growing, lol. I want to savor it all! I just took this week's belly pics tonight.

I had dinner with an acquaintance tonight and she doesn't know. I caught her looking at my belly so I think she figured it out, lol. I didn't tell.

[sweetchix]

I am clutching my pearls at some of the dresses teenagers are wearing to school dances! I'm pretty lax with clothing for the most part, but someone on FB posted their 15yo in a dress so tight and so short that if she leaned forward ever so slightly, everyone behind her would get a view of her ass and all. Yikes!

[Eureka1984]

Im happy its sunday! These meds ive been on have made me so hungary and I can't go back to the gym yet.

[idahome]

Up and getting ready to run errands. I'm ready to have that done do I can put my lounge clothes on and get back to work. Love watching the snow, but not so much when I'm out in it.

Working from home tomorrow and waiting for a window guy to come out and replace a car window that was busted out Friday night so someone could steal a backpack. People suck.

[glitzyglow]

I woke up this morning craving biscuits and gravy. I don't have the stuff to make it nor am I willing to go out and buy some, so I'll just have to deal. Last night I was craving ice cream, so hopefully the biscuits and gravy want passes soon like the ice cream.

I had a really cool encounter at work yesterday, and when I left work I called my bff and sister to share with them and neither answered. It was one of those moments when I really miss having an SO, someone to talk to about my day and such. That combined with having 0 plans over the next two days is bringing up feelings of loneliness.

[cuddlyevil]

We skipped out on church because ds1 complained that his ears hurt. Of course, now he's fine and asking to go to church (he misses the pastor's kid). We may sneak off to McDonald's or the pizza place for lunch.

[Deleted]

I'm having the worst weekend. I think waking up without Paco was almost worse than yesterday. I can't imagine I'll ever recover.

[abcdefu]

I'm going out to lunch with two of my best friends this afternoon. We haven't seen each other in 6 months! We all have had crazy chaotic things happen in our lives at the same time (cancer, death of a parent, my hot mess etc.), so it will be nice to put all of those things aside and catch up on the positives.

[bg]

glitzyglow I'm having a similar weekend - blah. Can you manufacture some plans?

@pdx18 I'm sorry you're hurting.

I'm having a hard time focusing on me instead of what a terrible human being stbxh is. And then I get annoyed with myself for spending the mental energy thinking about him.

[dreamcrisp1]

@pdx18, I can't even imagine your pain. I'm so sorry.

I was actually productive today and ran quite a few errands. I need to go cook for the week. But I'm going to relax with some Harry Potter before I do so.

[bl]

I fell asleep during the game last night which made me sad when I heard how good the end was. I woke up at 6:30 and talked to Dallas until 8 and then ate some breakfast and fell back to sleep at 11 and just now woke back up. I will be doing some laundry and watching the games today.

I am still so tired and have been all week, even though I have been sleeping well. I don't know if I should just rest or force myself to at least get a small workout in and see if that helps the energy levels.

[Deleted]

Thanks for the support everyone! Paco was the first pet I ever had so I've never gone through something like this before. It's the most awful thing. But the outpouring of love for my little man has warmed my heart

[pandora]

Jan 17, 2016 14:23:40 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Thanks for the support everyone! Paco was the first pet I ever had so I've never gone through something like this before. It's the most awful thing. But the outpouring of love for my little man has warmed my heart

It's so hard! Keep looking at pics of him and remember him. I don't want to forget my girl and I still cry weeks later but i.promise that it gets more manageable. You'll always miss him and love him but it becomes less shocking in time. I still think I see Pandora, even last night and was going back to see her sweet face today on my phone. Sending you hugs. They are truly part of our family with their unconditional love!!

[pandora]

I was enjoying a lazy day today but a friend just said she needed to crash at my place since she's looking at apartments in the city. I have an airbnb guest here so she's Sleeping in my room which.means I have to clean, yuck. No more lazy day...and she's due here now for 3pm, and I'm on here, sitting on my couch with no energy. I'm still weak from the stomach bug and kind of cranky that I can't just chill. Usually, I can just hide my cluttered room, lol.

[pandora]

The typing of a "." Instead of a space makes me ragey today. I'm cranky and just want to be under my covers in my pjs!

[Deleted]

Jan 17, 2016 15:00:35 GMT -5 pandora said:

Jan 17, 2016 14:23:40 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Thanks for the support everyone! Paco was the first pet I ever had so I've never gone through something like this before. It's the most awful thing. But the outpouring of love for my little man has warmed my heart

It's so hard! Keep looking at pics of him and remember him. I don't want to forget my girl and I still cry weeks later but i.promise that it gets more manageable. You'll always miss him and love him but it becomes less shocking in time. I still think I see Pandora, even last night and was going back to see her sweet face today on my phone. Sending you hugs. They are truly part of our family with their unconditional love!!

Thank you for your kind words and I'm so sorry to hear about Pandora. But hugs! Waking up this morning was the worst and realizing it wasn't just a bad dream.

[pandora]

Jan 17, 2016 15:16:28 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Jan 17, 2016 15:00:35 GMT -5 pandora said:

It's so hard! Keep looking at pics of him and remember him. I don't want to forget my girl and I still cry weeks later but i.promise that it gets more manageable. You'll always miss him and love him but it becomes less shocking in time. I still think I see Pandora, even last night and was going back to see her sweet face today on my phone. Sending you hugs. They are truly part of our family with their unconditional love!!

Thank you for your kind words and I'm so sorry to hear about Pandora. But hugs! Waking up this morning was the worst and realizing it wasn't just a bad dream.

I know the feeling well and I'm sorry that you're going through it. It's hard but part of the grieving process as I'm told. Part of me wishes I could have them as long as I'm alive but then imagone all the homeless pets out there so not a good idea, boo. I doubt I'd cry as much over some family members (granted, not the best of people to me). Your doggie was lucky to have you and trust, they know how much they are loved. Truly!

[pandora]

How do you tell a friend that she can't stay all week? I know, just say NO. Ugh, I hate confrontation but no, you can't stay here all week. I'm pregnant and need to do things here.

She's bringing a blender for her breakfasts she just texted. I thought it was just an overnight and now I just want to cry. I am so overwhelmed. She wants to use the spare bedroom when my airbnb guest checks out before the new one comes in but I have to clean and have it ready and her being in there creates soooo much more work for my tired pregnant butt. And, she expected food and coffee the last time she stayed overnight. I am not rich, woman! I am not supporting you, bring your own damned food. I have a baby to provide for! (She doesn'tknow but I'll tell her tonight) I keep the heat low when no guests. She said it was cold the other night because she is used to heat included in her rent - not here, honey and it's not cheap so suck it up. She's actually a good kid but has no idea that I'm on such a tight budget.

I need to put a stop to this without blowing up with my hormonal emotions. I offered one night, once NOT to live here. :/ but, she knows I do airbnb so she's thinking it's a free for all, ugh.

Venting again, sorry. I'll talk to her when she's here and set boundaries but it sucks.

[1confused1]

My xh has bought my son not one, but TWO pairs of shoes that cost more than $100. My son is 9. I'm fuming.

[Deleted]

((pandora)), sorry you're feeling cranky and can't have a relaxing day.  Your "cheap" friend sounds exhausting.  Honestly, once you have your stuff out of his storage area, I think you should limit your interactions.  

[dreamcrisp1]

I had a stupid fight with my bf and Even though we made up fairly quickly, I still wish we could hug it out. One downfall to being long distance.

I just made dinner for the week and have settled down with Harry Potter and a meat pie.