Working moms - time to yourself?

[candreco]

I work from home two days a week, so that kind of meets my need for being alone in my house. Sure, I'm working, but it's quiet and no one is bugging me (kids or coworkers). I'll also work out during lunch time those days.

Our kids are usually in bed by 7:30, so we've got a few hours in the evening. It's often filled up with house stuff, volunteer meetings, GS troop prep, etc., but at least a couple nights a week it's free time to watch TV with DH, read, whatever.

Weekends are usually pretty open- we try not to schedule too much, but we generally get at least a few free hours each.

I do girls' nights with a group of friends/spouses of friends from college, and with neighborhood moms.

[styme46]

I get hardly any time to myself. I literally almost always have at least one kid with me when not at work. Getting my hair done every couple of months is about the only thing I do that isn't during normal business hours. I make all my appointments during business hours so I don't count that. I keep saying I'm going to start doing things alone, but then never do it.

I do have a mommy/daughter date scheduled with MY mom next Saturday that won't involve either of my kids though.
Eta: I should add that I've always been pretty anti social and preferred to stay home as opposed to being out and about. I'm an introvert and my house and family are my safe place.

[cjcouple]

I don't really get much. My husband and I work opposite shifts so it's tough to get away. And when much husband is home with us I prefer family time so i choose not to sneak away. Sorry no help. But if I need to get away for a bit and am home alone with them I have hidden in the bath while my boys watch a show or play xbox. Haha

[marylennox]

I work part time. I usually get alone/"me" time once or twice a week. Either during the day on a weekend or sometimes on an evening during the week. I could probably have it more often, my H is good about encouraging/supporting that, but at this point I tend to choose sleep over doing anything extra.

[BaliHai]

H and L have swimming lessons on Sundays, so I get about 2-3 hours to myself (she naps in the car afterwards). Other than that, one of my closest friends lives in NJ, and we try to get together for a sleepover once a month/every couple of months. Intermittently I'll get together with other friends, or my family. I struggle with feeling like I take too much time, especially since H does very rarely (he claims he doesn't really need time to himself) and he can sometimes make comments that border on judgmental, but breaks are important to my mental health, so I try not to feel any guilt at all.

[sugarbear]

I work out 6 days per week, twice on Tuesdays. The kids are always with me, either in gym daycare or reading a book / playing on the iPad when I'm teaching my classes. I go to yoga every Tuesday night, alone. Otherwise, unless I take a day off work, that's it. 

Generally, I can do book club or dinners out too, but those are usually limited to 1-2 times per month, and not regularly scheduled.

[Lucy Honeychurch]

I get alone time every evening -- I put Jack to bed, and then I have time to myself to do whatever until it's time for KHC to come up to bed.

Weekends we split responsibilities, so we each get some time each day to do whatever we want.

Random dinners out, drinks with friends, whenever it happens. I don't have a set schedule there.

[bittybomb]

Jan 30, 2016 2:55:38 GMT -5 honeychai said:

I really need it get better about this.

I have no "me time". I have three kids under 6, and they don't STTN. So I'm really on 24/7.

My H works long hours, so it's usually just me holding down the fort.

I'm usually so busy that I don't even notice that I'm missing out, but reading these posts I realize I probably should find a way to recharge.

I don't know how old your youngest is but I had 3 within 3 1/2 years and I've noticed within the last year (they are now 7, 5 and 4) or so when the younger two became more independent, it's like a whole other world. Much much easier. I remember that fog well, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel, so hang in there!

[revolution]

Ummmm.....

I sit quietly in my room after they go to bed alwgike I tell them to go to sleep every once in a while. DS is a crap sleeper.

I take half days every few months to get my hair done

In the summer I have summer hours and work half days on Friday and do not get the kids early so I do what I want then.

[Deleted]

I work from 12-7 on Weds & My mom takes DS to preschool at 8 so I get like 3 hours alone. I usually watch Netflix for like an hour. & a half & veg before getting ready for work.

H is getting pretty good about taking DS out for a few hours every weekend so I can have some alone time. I do this for H once in a while too.

[honeychai]

Jan 30, 2016 14:06:46 GMT -5 bittybomb said:

Jan 30, 2016 2:55:38 GMT -5 honeychai said:

I really need it get better about this.

I have no "me time". I have three kids under 6, and they don't STTN. So I'm really on 24/7.

My H works long hours, so it's usually just me holding down the fort.

I'm usually so busy that I don't even notice that I'm missing out, but reading these posts I realize I probably should find a way to recharge.

I don't know how old your youngest is but I had 3 within 3 1/2 years and I've noticed within the last year (they are now 7, 5 and 4) or so when the younger two became more independent, it's like a whole other world. Much much easier. I remember that fog well, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel, so hang in there!

Thank you! This is encouraging to hear.
My kids are 6, 2, and six months

[specialk]

H and I work opposite shifts full time, so alone time is pretty much non-existent now. It's something I have to figure out.