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[abcdefu]

I know this is going to sound dumb, but I have gotten unsolicited comments about my new hair color. Again, I know this is stupid, but it hurts my feelings. I feel like I am always judged even for stupid things like my hair cut/color.

My brother and I are super close (he's my fav sibling) and he always gives me the same advice when people are rude: "fuck 'em"

I wish I wasn't so sensitive. sigh

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abcdefu, don't be sensitive (easier said than done) about people commenting about your hair color.  Screw them.  I think it's fabulous!!!

[abcdefu]

Feb 4, 2016 22:22:32 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

abcdefu , don't be sensitive (easier said than done) about people commenting about your hair color.  Screw them.  I think it's fabulous!!!

Thank you!!! I really like it, but I end up second guessing myself when someone makes a comment. I am hoping that I will get thicker skin to say "eff you" to people! If my hair color is someone biggest problem, then they need to consider her/himself super lucky!

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So, I'm just gonna blabber for a minute here. Similarly to 2-3 years ago, all of my "friends" are pregnant again!  I put friends in quotes because I'm not close with most these people anymore, but we keep tabs on each other via social media for the most part.  It's not that I'm not happy for them,  but I feel like my life is just turning out differently that what I thought.  Different is ok, but we're all the same age and they're all on kid 2 or 3.  Yikes!!! 

I'm not an envious person, but this probably makes it sound that way. I wish everyone all the best.  I really don't know if/when it will happen for me and sometimes I feel like my path went awry and I've been left in the dust. Some of the (college) friends I was very close to,  dropped me when I was with xh (not real friends, I know) and they all keep in touch and have get togethers (with and without their children) and I'm just not in that circle anymore.  I guess I'm sort of sad about what used to be.  The pregnancy I found out about today was via FB, not even a text and we were BFFs in college.  She's due with baby #2 in June!  Really, no text?  I was planning to reach out to her and tell her about the move...nah...let her find out on FB.  I feel that there's nothing salvageable in the friendship so fuck it, but it still hurts.  

I'm emotional today.  Sad and weepy.  Sorry.  

pandora, Please disregard this post (anyone reading this that's expecting, actually) --I know you're expecting, but I don't want you to feel like I've said something offensive towards you.  I'm so happy and excited for you!!!!  My feelings are coming from a different place. So please take this with a grain of salt.   

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Feb 4, 2016 22:31:25 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

Feb 4, 2016 22:22:32 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

abcdefu , don't be sensitive (easier said than done) about people commenting about your hair color.  Screw them.  I think it's fabulous!!!

Thank you!!! I really like it, but I end up second guessing myself when someone makes a comment. I am hoping that I will get thicker skin to say "eff you" to people! If my hair color is someone biggest problem, then they need to consider her/himself super lucky!

Seriously! You should feel special that they're so invested in what color your hair is!!! 

[abcdefu]

Feb 4, 2016 22:42:48 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

So, I'm just gonna blabber for a minute here. Similarly to 2-3 years ago, all of my "friends" are pregnant again!  I put friends in quotes because I'm not close with most these people anymore, but we keep tabs on each other via social media for the most part.  It's not that I'm not happy for them,  but I feel like my life is just turning out differently that what I thought.  Different is ok, but we're all the same age and they're all on kid 2 or 3.  Yikes!!! 

I'm not an envious person, but this probably makes it sound that way. I wish everyone all the best.  I really don't know if/when it will happen for me and sometimes I feel like my path went awry and I've been left in the dust. Some of the (college) friends I was very close to,  dropped me when I was with xh (not real friends, I know) and they all keep in touch and have get togethers (with and without their children) and I'm just not in that circle anymore.  I guess I'm sort of sad about what used to be.  The pregnancy I found out about today was via FB, not even a text and we were BFFs in college.  She's due with baby #2 in June!  Really, no text?  I was planning to reach out to her and tell her about the move...nah...let her find out on FB.  I feel that there's nothing salvageable in the friendship so fuck it, but it still hurts.  

I'm emotional today.  Sad and weepy.  Sorry.  

pandora , Please disregard this post (anyone reading this that's expecting, actually) --I know you're expecting, but I don't want you to feel like I've said something offensive towards you.  I'm so happy and excited for you!!!!  My feelings are coming from a different place. So please take this with a grain of salt.   

I know exactly how you feel! I desperately want to have children. My sister, who never wanted children, messed up her birth control and BAM! She's pregnant! Plus pregnancies all over Facebook. Technically I am expecting....expecting to be single and childless forrrrevvvveeerrrr!

I hope to be able to adopt one day. What pisses me off is that in order to adopt a child there's a lot of money and background information etc. Then there's Sally from down the street. She can pop out children like it's her job and no one checks her finances to see if she can afford her children or runs a background check

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abcdefu, I know..sometimes it's just not fair.  People that desperately want children aren't able to become parents and some that aren't interested or even hurt their own children/can not afford to provide for them have no issues.  

[pandora]

*Joneses

I can't even deal with all of my typos. I hate typing from my phone!

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((pandora)) Thank you.  I really appreciate that.

[Mrs.Rad888]

Feb 4, 2016 22:31:25 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

Feb 4, 2016 22:22:32 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

abcdefu , don't be sensitive (easier said than done) about people commenting about your hair color.  Screw them.  I think it's fabulous!!!

Thank you!!! I really like it, but I end up second guessing myself when someone makes a comment. I am hoping that I will get thicker skin to say "eff you" to people! If my hair color is someone biggest problem, then they need to consider her/himself super lucky!

When someone has something uncomplimentary to say about a change that I've made (like my new ear piercings or the streak of blue in my hair) I just tell them that, since they aren't the ones wearing it, they don't get a vote. I also like to tell people that if they can't be supportive, they can be quiet. 

[flatlan]

To keep on the theme of taxes, I am almost done gathering the information to do stbxh and I's taxes. We purposely delayed filing for our divorce so that we could file jointly one last time. It is the best for both of us and I am very glad that we are on civil enough terms to do that.

[TR]

Feb 4, 2016 21:30:14 GMT -5 alleinesein said:

Feb 4, 2016 13:59:58 GMT -5 TR said:

Ugh, I'm feeling guilty because XH texted me today asking about taxes and I told him I'd already filed "Married Filing Separately" so then he texted me later that he owes a lot of money and did I do mine and that he couldn't deduct student loan interest bc we filed separately.

I'm getting a refund bc I've had high withholdings due to being the higher earner in a two-income household. It's not my fault he owes money, right? He probably only paid, like, $100 in SL interest last year. His payments were $150/mo and I don't think the interest rates were very high. So I doubt that would have affected his final outcome much.

I guess we could have filed together, but that would have lowered MY refund and that's not fair, we didn't live together at ALL last year, our finances were totally separate. I need to just try not to feel guilty.

Did your divorce just get finalized?  Because if he is now your XH you should be filing single as long as you were divorced as of Dec 31st, 2015.

Yep, final Jan 8. Missed it by thismuch