I would do my best, assuming they're people I like (my wedding had endless options). But, as far as this case goes, I'm a lactose-intolerant vegetarian and I take care of myself just fine, so they can too.
I have friends who are vegetarian, vegan and friends who are post-WLS etc so I usually call them and tell them what I'm planning and try to accommodate them when I'm hosting a party. But for the father of a child I barely know? I would have a veggie plate.
Oh and on the favors, I usually have a few extras in case a sibling shows up. I still have extra light sabers from Ds' 5th birthday where we had Jedi training. He's 9! I don't know how to get rid of those things!
No!
How does a sibling just "show up"?
This party is at a play place that requires a reservation and headcount.
We still had a sibling "just show up" at a play place party, despite explicitly saying "no siblings" on the invite. Yeah.
I'd accommodate any kid. Mr Gluten-free-vegan-adult would be welcome to enjoy the veggie plate. Those types aren't likely to eat a cupcake anyways.
I cannot believe this asshole and that your friend is accommodating him! I'm lactose intolerant. I don't expect people to offer me lactose free options at parties for kids. The parties are about the kids. I'm an adult, I eat before or after.
I'm go out of my way to be a good hostess, but fuck that guy! $25 bucks says he's from Silverlake, Venice, Los Feliz, or an adjacent!
My SIL lives on the edge of Silverlake. She's paleo/dairy free. Except for baked goods if she's in the mood. Also, liquor and caffeine are totes evil, but weed is natural and therefore okay.
Vegan gluten free would be NBD- because I live 3 blocks from whole foods and we always have vegan options anyway because of H's work (elephant) friends. The backpack- no. At least, not if its the sort of monogrammed backpack I'm envisioning.
I've done it. And then the gluten-free vegan eats a slice of pepperoni pizza anyway. "Just a bite. Tee hee." It really kills my hosting spirit.
But yes, several family members have celiac and sensitivity and I really like to blend in foods they can eat seamlessly with everyone else.
OMG, this is the worst. Eat gluten or not, be vegan or not, you do you*. But if someone goes out of their way to accommodate you, at least make their effort mean something.
DS is a chef. He can and does work with whatever food restrictions you have. But the whole "VGF-flirt" thing? Nope. Once you tell him you're allergic to something, there's no going back and saying "oh, I can have a LITTLE".
But that's easier to do when you're controlling what goes on someone's plate. And in the end, you still end up watching them share their neighbor's beer and steal spoonfuls of someone else's dessert.
*That "you do you" is for people who choose food restrictions, not those who are forced into them by illness or allergy.
Post by CajunShrimp on Feb 6, 2016 12:01:28 GMT -5
My little guy's birthday party is today, and a friend an her daughter are allergic to nuts, so I got some school-safe cupcakes so they could have something sweet to eat. The cake is nut-free, but I know people can be cautious of eating baked goods they didn't prepare themselves. It is a real allergy, so I have no problem getting something to accommodate them.
I try to have a vegetarian option for food when we entertain. But I just can't go nuts trying to accommodate every guest's likes and dislikes, especially those who pretend to have Celiac so they can go on the latest trendy diet. My cousin has Celiac, and now problems when she eats out. So many people have faked a gluten allergy that they don't really have cooks are no longer taking it seriously.
I'm go out of my way to be a good hostess, but fuck that guy! $25 bucks says he's from Silverlake, Venice, Los Feliz, or an adjacent!
Santa Monica.
Hipsters actually pride themselves in being foodies.
It's the west side yuppies who are like this. Sorry. LOL.
agree. 90% of the people i work with now are bonafide eastside hipsters and/or hippies. a small handful are vegetarian. a few have dabbled in raw and gluten-free by choice for limited periods of time as cleanses & complained about missing x the whole time. the rest are super snobby foodies that pride themselves on eating well & being open to trying new things.
when i lived & worked on the westside (w/mostly yuppies), it was way worse. one of my CW's guilty pleasures was vegetarian sushi...
This guy has been annoying me since you posted. It's a child's party and as a picky adult he can eat before or after the party. This is not someone with an allergy, he is a pita and since your friend went to the trouble/expense he better appreciate it. Half of us here would have not accommodated him.
Post by wanderlustmom on Feb 6, 2016 20:40:46 GMT -5
I do it for kids and close friends. We have a vegan family of five stay with us and I cooked vegan meals for four days. It was challenging but possible. And tonight, at DDs nine year old party, we have a girl with Celiac and one with type one diabetes.