And what's funny, me and H ARE drinkers (I know you guys know that). There's the extremes of "no drinking in my house EVER" and the people like my dad who were all "I'd rather them do it in my house than out on the streets." There's definitely a middle ground. I just don't get the rush. When David turns 21, I'll enjoy a glass of wine with him. Until then, I just won't allow it. Once again, this board makes me feel very conservative.
For me personally I came from a country where the drinking age is 19 so I see it as far less of a big deal to let her have a sip or glass of wine at 18. 21 imho is way too old and that perspective again comes from where I was born and raised.
the last time i went to visit dsd, she supplied me. we were in HER off-campus apartment which she and her roommate pay for themselves. she took HER beer out of HER fridge and handed it to me and we each drank a beer on her couch and chatted about how school and everything was going for her.
it was super nice and i can't imagine injected any kind of disapproval into that afternoon.
Lol, yeah, I definitely won't be providing booze for friends.
I'm also coming from a place where toasting during big family dinners is normal. We all get together once a month. Wine or beer starting at 16/17 is normal in both our families for occasions like that.