without their parents? My sister has 13 year old twins and I'd love for them to visit over break or the summer. Both or one at a time. I've suggested they attend camp with my DD when they were younger and my sister always said "yeah" and never followed through. I suggested a weekend or time when I was off from work. Still nothing. We are 4 hours away, so it would mean driving, but I volunteered that, too. I guess it's easy to just think they are too little, and now they are too busy with friends. I'd love for them to spend some cousin time with my DD.
Is this something other families do on occasion - visit their aunt? Pal around with cousins?
I spent spring breaks with my Gram in NYC when I was that age and a little younger. I would also visit with my uncles. I think this is normal. I would totally offer to have my nephews for a weekend, but with their sport schedules, I think this would be tough.
I would also offer to watch them at their house too.
Post by usuallylurking on Feb 6, 2016 18:17:01 GMT -5
No, but they're 3 and 1. I hope in the future that they will!
Some of my absolute best childhood memories are the weeks I spent without my siblings hanging out at my aunt (all of them are sahms) and uncle's houses.
Alllll time time! We frequently take David's cousins (about once or twice every two months, sometimes for the whole weekend). They can use the break and we can use more kids around! Win/win!
My other niece is 21 and she and her boyfriend flew in to visit us in December.
We're far away from my siblings also. I have a crapload of nephews and a few of them have come up and hung out for a week in the summer. The oldest one now lives near us for his new job and comes to hang out a bit on weekends.
My older sisters kids live one town over so I see them a lot (15, 11, 9). I often keep them for the day if they are off school when my kids are. I love having them! When my sister and her husband travel they always stay with me.
My little sister lives one state away and twice now I have been able to keep my oldest niece (when she was 3 and then 4) for a few days. I love it! My BIL gets nervous when she's gone for more then a night, but luckily I am the super cool aunt she loves and she's a good beggar!
So far my SIL has not been comfortable with us watching my nephew at all, which I'm honestly kind of bummed about. We've offered to babysit multiple times.
I'm hoping as he gets older (he's only 2) she'll be more comfortable to drop him off even just for a couple hours on a weekend.
My kids love him, and would love to spend more time with him.
Not yet, but I definitely want to have my niece come visit for an extended stay. I offered to my brother that he and SIL could drop her off here on their way up north for a long weekend/getaway, whatever. Brother is 100% on board, SIL is nervous. Niece is almost 2, and so I get SIL's hesitation, because it's hard to start leaving your kid overnight somewhere, especially when you know how hard they can be. Niece is a shit sleeper, but I assured SIL I've been through that twice already with my own kids, a few nights is no imposition or big deal at all.
Maybe this summer they'll give it a try. She and the girls adore each other, and I can't get enough of her squealing TIA! TIA! TIIIIIAAAA!!!!! at me.
Change out niece/nephew for cousin's kids who think I'm their Aunt vs cousin- my cousin is already planning their trips here when they are a bit older (6/3), by themselves - she said she'd be dropping them off and going for some couple time with her DH. They come with their mum over breaks now. We've looked at the summer camp options for the older one near us.
My 10 & 12 year old nieces live OOS and SIL hasn't had the money to fly them up to us. Now our baby is due in 3 months and said nieces aren't fully vaxxed so...
My two nephews and niece (sister's kids) all live 5 hours away from us so we usually meet in the middle at our parents' house.
Alllll time time! We frequently take David's cousins (about once or twice every two months, sometimes for the whole weekend). They can use the break and we can use more kids around! Win/win!
My other niece is 21 and she and her boyfriend flew in to visit us in December.
I'm the cool aunt, guys!!!
Will you take my kids for a week?
They don't have any cool aunts.
lol!! I'll take anyone's kids. David needs playdates!
My niece and nephew live in the same town and come over every week and my mom watches them while my bro/sil are working. DD is only there after daycare, but she loves playing with her cousins. I watch them occasionally too, especially in the summer because I'm not working.
I have no nieces/nephews, but my bro and I spent time at my aunt's without my parents. We'd always spend a week or more over the summer there. Once I think it was the entire summer.
i love my nieces but they are wild, and not in an endearing way. everytime they are here they make a HUGE mess and go through all my stuff. they are loud, jump off furniture, and are rough with L. i could not handle them alone lol
No I am an only child and DH has one sister who lives in VA (we are in FL). We only really see them when we go visit DH's family in PA and she and her DH come in for the weekend. They have babysat (with my ILs) a few times when we've been up there and gone out.
I feel really sad sometimes that my kids don't have a closer connection with extended family. It's one of the reasons that I kind of want a 3rd kid (that we're not having). I was super close with my aunt, she was like another mother to me.
I've had my niece for a summer before and wish I could have her during the summers more often. I don't speak to my sister for various reasons and miss out on seeing my niece (although my niece and I still talk when she's at my parents house on the phone or on facebook).
I plan to do this with my kids so they will have a better relationship with family since we live so far away.
Post by themysteriouswife on Feb 6, 2016 20:28:45 GMT -5
I sent my DD every year to my brothers for a week. He recently divorced and he said he would not be able to take her this summer due to childcare issues. He is giving her money to pay for summer camp instead. She's been going since two. He loves my kids and is already planning next summer to take both kids. He has no children.
Niece is a special case. We once had custody of her as an infant. SIL has came along way and prefers to not let niece be away long.
Not yet, but I would love to when they get older. They're too young now – 4, 3, 2, 19 months, 16 months, and 5 months – which also means none of their parents can handle taking my kids yet either. lol.
Post by daisybuchannan on Feb 6, 2016 21:33:45 GMT -5
I'm going to have my nephew stay with us for a week this summer He will have just turned 2 and will go to camp with my kids (they are 3 and 1). Camp is only 9-1130 so it's really just more of a fun experience for him. My bro and SIL live in manhattan and work full time, so otherwise he would be with the nanny. They were happy when I offered to have him for camp/going to the pool, and it will be great to have my kids spend time with their cousin
Yes, but it only has happened since my brother and SIL have divorced the last 3 years. I am amiacable with both sides. My niece/nephew have stayed spring break with me when I have gone up and picked them up from SIL (really Former SIL) - about 4 hr drive. SIL drove down Easter Saturday and spent the night and then took them home. Then, twice when my brother was down visiting my father, he left them with me and I met him (or SIL) later in the week halfway to drop off. We get to see them about 3 -4x a year and I would love to see them more. It's a challenge without interfering with the little time my brother gets to see them and making it work with me ex-sil schedule.