FFFC

[jojoandleo]

I need another FB break.  This election season has made me hate everyone.  The level of vitriol coming from fellow Democrats has made me hate everyone, and made me tired.  I am tired of explaining shit.  Like to the guy who told me calling a girl Bitch isn't sexist because he calls men bitches too.  Then called ME sexist for bringing gender into it...  

[jigsy]

I posted this over on the ML randoms thread, but Vegas and I broke up last night. Its for the best as he has some shit he needs to work on and he felt like those issues were causing me unhappiness...which is true.

The FF part, I'm hoping he pulls his head out of his ass and realize hes making a mistake. I should want to give him a third chance. But I'm pretty sure I only feel like this because its still raw.

[TR]

jigsy, you can ignore if this is prying, but is this still stuff to do with his ex-gf? She really messed him up, huh?

[jojoandleo]

jigsy, I am sorry. It is for the best. And if he does pull his head out of his ass, maybe he will be WORTH another chance. Just, don't wait around for that to happen. *hugs*

[jigsy]

Feb 12, 2016 11:00:26 GMT -5 TR said:

jigsy, you can ignore if this is prying, but is this still stuff to do with his ex-gf? She really messed him up, huh?

Yes it is. And yes she did.

[TR]

Feb 12, 2016 11:03:59 GMT -5 jigsy said:

Feb 12, 2016 11:00:26 GMT -5 TR said:

jigsy , you can ignore if this is prying, but is this still stuff to do with his ex-gf? She really messed him up, huh?

Yes it is. And yes she did.

Fuck. That's so not fair. I'm sorry and it sounds like she's messed up from it, too, what with the whole asking you to block her on IG and all. 

[jojoandleo]

Feb 12, 2016 11:12:39 GMT -5 mp said:

jigsy hugs. It sucks that he's not an evil villain because that would make it easier.


I really need to get laid. Like I'm ready to hop on the next penis I see. Last night I pretty much ate an entire pizza by myself. Thin crust, at least. Gross.

Wait, is this flameful?

[cuddlyevil]

{{{jigsy}}}

[jigsy]

Feb 12, 2016 11:07:32 GMT -5 TR said:

Feb 12, 2016 11:03:59 GMT -5 jigsy said:

Yes it is. And yes she did.

Fuck. That's so not fair. I'm sorry and it sounds like she's messed up from it, too, what with the whole asking you to block her on IG and all. 

Its not. And as much as I feel sad for myself, I feel sad for him too. He is a good guy, and he can't guilt over the guilt of moving on while she's stuck, and she takes advantage of that. She's threatened self harm and all that bullshit, which is one of the reasons he doesn't want to cut contact completely, which is what I needed him to do to move forward.
I don't like when people are that selfish. I hope he figures out how to deal with it - with or without me, because its no way for anyone to live.

[TR]

Feb 12, 2016 11:27:30 GMT -5 jigsy said:

Feb 12, 2016 11:07:32 GMT -5 TR said:

Fuck. That's so not fair. I'm sorry and it sounds like she's messed up from it, too, what with the whole asking you to block her on IG and all. 

Its not. And as much as I feel sad for myself, I feel sad for him too. He is a good guy, and he can't guilt over the guilt of moving on while she's stuck, and she takes advantage of that. She's threatened self harm and all that bullshit, which is one of the reasons he doesn't want to cut contact completely, which is what I needed him to do to move forward.
I don't like when people are that selfish. I hope he figures out how to deal with it - with or without me, because its no way for anyone to live.

I don't know Vegas from Adam, but it sounds like he might have a bit of a savior complex. Do you think, at some level, he enjoys being the one keeping her together?

[jigsy]

Feb 12, 2016 11:36:22 GMT -5 TR said:

Feb 12, 2016 11:27:30 GMT -5 jigsy said:

Its not. And as much as I feel sad for myself, I feel sad for him too. He is a good guy, and he can't guilt over the guilt of moving on while she's stuck, and she takes advantage of that. She's threatened self harm and all that bullshit, which is one of the reasons he doesn't want to cut contact completely, which is what I needed him to do to move forward.
I don't like when people are that selfish. I hope he figures out how to deal with it - with or without me, because its no way for anyone to live.

I don't know Vegas from Adam, but it sounds like he might have a bit of a savior complex. Do you think, at some level, he enjoys being the one keeping her together?

Probably? Maybe? I don't know. I think he is simple in that he doesn't think about motivations behind actions. He doesnt think about for his own actions (see - having me meet the parents - to him it was just not wanting me to be alone on Christmas) and he doesn't think that other people have alterior motives either.

[doglove]

Sorry jigsy, that stinks. I think that's a completely normal feeling when things are raw to hope he gets it sorted out and realize what he's missed out on.

[glitzyglow]

jigsy, that sucks, sorry love.

My hometown bff sent me an unsolicited video of where exH lives. This video is horrifying. He is choosing to live in a self-made structure like looks like hell. Flameful is I'm glad she sent it. I feel so much pity while I watch it, but it reminds me how much help he needs and that I couldn't have "saved" him from himself. Also flameful...when everything imploded, I told so many people that he wasn't sane and that he was becoming delusional. Many people told me I couldn't see through the pain I was in. This video proves I was correct. No sane person would live like he is.

[jigsy]

On a different note, I have several friends getting married this year, and trying to attend all the festivities is driving me a little crazy...One friend started planning her Bachelorette party getaway a month and a half ago because she wants to do Palm Springs over Memorial Day weekend. I agreed to go.

Well now, my other friend has planned hers for the same weekend in New Orleans. I am better/longer friends with this person, and I am less annoyed by the destination party since she has friends all over the country.

But I already agreed to BP#1...so what do I do? I will feel like a total ass if I back out of it because they already booked a house and whatnot. And honestly, the cheaper weekend is appealing. But I love BP#2 more and I want to celebrate with her...although her wedding is over 4th of July weekend, so there will be a lot of celebrating then too.

[bg]

Sorry jigsy. It sounds like they have an unhealthy dynamic.

I've been sick for five days. I have a hike I really want to do tomorrow and I know I shouldn't go but I'm sick of (sort of) resting and having too much time with my thoughts. Plus, if I'm well enough to hike I really need to work on my dissertation instead. Blah.

[mommadukes]

sorry to hear jigsy

[jigsy]

Feb 12, 2016 13:09:56 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

jigsy , that fucking sucks. As hurtful as it is the best you can do for yourself is to walk away for someone who isn't emotionally healthy for a relationship. But I generally need a lot of friend time and several martinis to start getting there after a break up. I wish I was nearby to take you out but maybe you and mp can two birds with one bar outing. She's got a problem to solve as well!

We already had plans for Sunday...so drinks I am sure, will be consumed at some point this weekend.

The one thing I am really glad about is that Vegas is going out of town for two weeks starting tomorrow...and it's international and he had planned on spotty availability for contact anyways. The first two weeks is probably when I'd be most tempted to reach out even though I know its a bad idea...at least this way, its just not possible.

[1confused1]

Hugs again on this board jigsy,

I'm lonely and have almost contacted an ex-boyfriend in the last few days. Luckily I deleted his contact information from my phone and we're no longer friends on Facebook, so it would be a little harder to actually send him a message. I'm glad my subconscious knows this is a bad idea and keeps me from doing it.

[glitzyglow]

It is annoying me how many people are posting their Valentine's Day bouquets on fb followed with, "What a surprise!!" Shut up, it cannot be wholly surprising that your SO sent you flowers for Valentine's Day. I don't mind the pictures, but the "Omg what a surprise!" schtick is nonsense.

[jenstar]

Sorry jigsy, it sucks when you have spent a long time hoping things will work out in the end and then they don't. I am in a similar boat with a guy I was kind of seeing, but as it turned out he wasn't really ready for a relationship, and he is worried he might not ever be able to have one again. It was hard to take because I think we're really compatible but I realized that even though he was adamant that it wasn't me (but rather his low self esteem and fear of being left again) the way he ended up treating me made that hard to believe. And I knew if I didn't stop pursuing it I would end up hating him for treating me terribly even though he'd been honest. We are still friends (we've known each other a long time) but I've backed right off on contacting him.

The good thing is that it's easier now that I've come to this point this time around. Hopefully this time is easier for you too. We both deserve someone who is emotionally available and ready to be a proper partner. x

ETA: my fffc is also that I still hope he will realize what he's losing and it will work out down the track.. But I'm not holding my breath!

[pandora]

((((jigsy))))

[glitzyglow]

jenstar and pandora, I just mixed you two up because your profile pics are so close.

[pandora]

Feb 12, 2016 21:58:25 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

jenstar and pandora, I just mixed you two up because your profile pics are so close.

Pigtails!

[glitzyglow]

Feb 12, 2016 22:12:42 GMT -5 pandora said:

Feb 12, 2016 21:58:25 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

jenstar and pandora, I just mixed you two up because your profile pics are so close.

Pigtails!

I tend to skim the pics, so the pigtails threw me off.

I just saw an ad for the DQ Blizzard they are touting for singles. I want it. Mmmm.

[cuddlyevil]

I have sworn off Starbucks but that special drink for valentine's day looks good.

[doriswe]

Feb 12, 2016 23:26:34 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

I have sworn off Starbucks but that special drink for valentine's day looks good.

There was a PSA on ML that said it sucks.  

ETA: Linky pandce.proboards.com/thread/512701/starbucks-special-molten-chocolate-latte

[jenstar]

Feb 12, 2016 21:58:25 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

jenstar and pandora , I just mixed you two up because your profile pics are so close.

lol I don't wear my hair in pigtails ever but there was no ponytail option so it seemed the most accurate!  

[katieido]

I've had a strange week; three times in two days i was catcalled/hollered at in two days on the same street. Not equipped to deal with this. Not gonna lie.

[abcdefu]

jigsy,I'm so sorry. You are fabulous and deserve 100% of someone's attention. I hope he comes around, but if not, you will meet someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated! ((Hugs))and a spa day may be in order!


Even though I'm a day late for FFFCs, I have a good one. The only time I see my father is when I go to the house to see my mom, which is usually 3-4 times per week. Well my mom was on vacation this week, without my father. I have not seen him since my mom has left, which has been 6 days. Honestly, my anxiety and stress have went down and I feel like if I never seen him again, I would be okay with that.

[glitzyglow]

Feb 13, 2016 11:41:57 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Feb 12, 2016 19:26:16 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

It is annoying me how many people are posting their Valentine's Day bouquets on fb followed with, "What a surprise!!" Shut up, it cannot be wholly surprising that your SO sent you flowers for Valentine's Day. I don't mind the pictures, but the "Omg what a surprise!" schtick is nonsense.

Sorry! I just said this in my Saturday post. It really was a surprise because I don't have a SO.

Yours were actually a surprise! I'm talking about people who are in relationships. Such as "Oh wow, hubby sent flowers! So surprised!!" or "Boyfriend surprised me at work with flowers...shocked!"