I started wanting to have kids sometime around 27. It was a number of months after I miscarried the oops pregnancy, that I remember. XH and I were never on the same page about it, and so it was a can that got kicked down the road (thank goodness).
My desire to have a kid intensified dramtically when I went through the divorce. A lot of it was my doubts and fears rearing their ugly heads - I told myself that common lie that I'd never find another man and my only chance was disappearing. I had to put in some real effort to hang onto logic during that period of time. Therapy helped.
Now, I still want kids very much, but it's not an all-out consuming thought anymore.
I am 30, I want kids someday (I really feel like I would be missing out on something huge) but I don't have any baby fever and never had.`
I also thought it was so easy to have a kid and I realize it's not. Sure it's easy to get pregnant with a one night stand and that kind of thing but having a baby with a good partner is not as easy as I thought. It's not entirely up to me and it's freaking me out a little bit.
At 26, mine isn't ticking but I know that I want them and it'd be nice to have one by my early thirties. My ex was not a fan of kids so I always felt like they were such a distant, if ever, possibility for me. Now that I'm single it's something I look for in potential partners. I won't date someone who doesn't like kids again.
I am 30 and have no children. Yes I do want them and I feel like my clock is ticking just a little bit. Xh and I weren't preventing for about 6 months, but it didn't happen..and honestly I'm glad it didn't because then I'd still be tied to him. It wasn't meant to be. Now that I'm single and not even ready to date, I get a little worried from time to time...thinking, well if I met someone within a year and we were together a year or two before getting married and then started trying I'd probably be about 34...and if it takes longer to find a potential mate that would make me older as a first time mom....I know plenty of women conceive a bit older and I know I have time, but it IS in the back of my mind. I really do want children...
Post by bostonterrier on Aug 31, 2012 5:52:05 GMT -5
Hmmm. Timely post. Just started ticking like...NOW. I'm 36, and I don't think it's ever going to happen. Time to stop crying in my office. It's just hit me like a ton of bricks, and I'm so god damned sad.
Post by phoenixrising on Aug 31, 2012 7:14:48 GMT -5
I removed the battery from my biological clock a couple of years ago when it became clear to me that I don't really like kids. I love babies, but I am a NICU nurse, so I get my fix ALL THE TIME, and I don't feel any urge to procreate. I do sometimes worry that I will regret it someday, but I am also 36 and heading toward divorce, so even if the ticking were quite loud, I would not be doing anything about it right now.
ETA - There was one time when I did get a reactive urge to have a baby. It was when my mom was diagnosed with cancer. I was worried that she was going to die, and I was going to lose that mother/child relationship in my life, and I did feel a strong urge to have a baby at that point. It passed, however, and she is now fine.